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 Posted: Mon Feb 01, 2010 6:59 pm
Yeah, my parent's divorce when I was 5 or 6. At first I was staying with my mom and going to my dad every weekend, but eventually I was spending more time at his house and eventually moved in with him.
Kinda helped that he was less then 30 minutes away the furthest we moved away. I love both my parents, but I had to get away from my mom due to living conditions. It wasn't bad until my room was infested with yellow jackets when I was 13. At that point in time the only time I was at my moms was during school days, and after that I was at my dad during those too. Moved in with him at 14. Still love my mom but I had to get out.
But one good thing that came out of that divorce was that my dad quit drinking.
The other divorce came due to my dad not being able to put up with my step moms crap anymore, and we discovered she'd been stealing money from us. And when I say us, I mean from my dad's account, which he would have been alright with, and MY account, which was going towards college. Yeah that didn't fly.
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Posted: Mon Feb 01, 2010 7:08 pm
dang man...yellowjackets suck. I don't even want to know how that came about
my dad still dricks with his buddies, though its not like he's a drunken B******d or anything.
It kinda goes to show you, though. you NEVER let people know your personal account numbers...btw, how'd that end?
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Posted: Mon Feb 01, 2010 7:16 pm
The divorce was relitively mild, nothing lost other then the cash stolen and dad reimburst me cause he didn't feel like bring up charges against here and complicating everything.
I like to joke how I'm what happens when the best of the worst situations happens. Cause over all I'm an up-beat guy who usually does his best to make the best out of any situation and well adjusted without being an exstream of something.
Everything will work out some way or another. Just don't let it get to you more then needed.
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Posted: Mon Feb 01, 2010 7:27 pm
yup!
or as I like to think, 'You CAN in fact do anything...its just that you might not like the consequences...'
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Posted: Mon Feb 01, 2010 7:31 pm
Haha, but I do believe we're deviating from the main reason of this thread.
For some reason I have that effect, with the exception of "I"M ON FIRE!" because well.... it's the random discussion thread and I keep it well lit.
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Posted: Mon Feb 01, 2010 7:46 pm
we aren't deviating at all. this is semiserious discussion between divorce-affected people
...haha, you said well lit...
err...I'm going to stop now. Will add when the case is over
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Posted: Mon Feb 01, 2010 7:50 pm
Hehe yeah.
Alright. This'll be my lost post here untill the update. Here's hoping it's a good one ^.^
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Posted: Wed Feb 03, 2010 4:19 pm
Note on my mood...I have exceeded plain anger and I think its progressed to emotionless hatred...yup, thats exactly what it is
sorry to disappoint...but absolutely nothing happened today
I hoped for this to be the end of it, we'd go, talk, get stressed, but then its done. NOPE! That Godforsaken B******* of a man stalled till the cows came home
Or to be exact:
~1, left school, stressed, but ready
~2, get there and talk to my moms lawyers
3:30, done talking, the worst seems over and whatnot
4-we have the hearing, which will be described in below
5:30, court hours over, leave with a feeling of utter disgust
The Hearing:
So I walk in with my family, right? I'm stressed and all, and wait and wait for the accursed one to show up. he does, about 5 minutes late, and the session begins. To begin, he talks briefly (just under 7 mins) about his case, then goes into a 20 minute monologue about how he doesn't have and can't get a lawyer (hes had a month, and is unemployed to boot)
After this ~30 minutes is wasted, he finally stops talking. MY mom is then called to the stand and is asked questions by her lawyers. I'm not lying here, Accursed One 'I Object your Honor'-ed to EVERY OTHER F****** THING MY MOM SAID!!! And with every objection, he talked for another 2 minutes.
My mom and her lawyers fought through this, and more or less didn't let the repeated objections sway them from the recounts of abuse and whatnot. I forget most of it besides that, though when I heard and I quote, "we'll have a recess in 7mins, but then it would be after court hours, so we'll need to come back tomorrow" I WAS PI****. Had AO ACTUALLY behaved normally, we could have gotten over 20 minutes additional time to talk....but no, thats not how he plays
HIGHLIGHTS:
-you could see him getting angry, and eventually some cops came in
-the judge was obviously losing patience, and when AO said, "I think they're trying to play the court's emotions" the Judge replied rudely (though it was well warrented) "Do I look emotional to you?
-it was funny to see AO fall into his typical arguement style,
1-throw some smokescreens out
2-insist upon talking at every moment
3-object increasingly stupid things (ex, 'what do you mean my 'unreasonable' spanking'...and on...and on)
4-Blatant lying
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Posted: Wed Feb 03, 2010 4:27 pm
These kind of things are common to find in court hearings
(although the only kind of court experience I ever got is through video games, but hey, I built up the rest with self-reference)
It's a... technique/method of sorts to unnerve everyone and sometimes try to change the subject so he can avoid the things coming up next.
You're just going to have to stay calm and not get played into his flow.
Heck, you can object to his objection if you feel confident enough. And you should. You're fighting for your family.
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Posted: Wed Feb 03, 2010 6:01 pm
meh, I know that and so does everybody else. I don't want to object an objection, though, because I might mess something up, you know? trust me, we aren't falling for his crap, and I think I'm getting a laugh at his transparent trickery
Hahaha he thinks hes in control...what a noob
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Posted: Wed Feb 03, 2010 6:33 pm
And I thought my brain was fried before thanks to chemistry, but that helped finished it off.
And of course nobody can really make a comment when he objected either, although if I had been there I would have found it funny if somebody said "You would object." after every time he did.
Just hang in there. I might take longer then expected but it will eventually end.
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Posted: Wed Feb 03, 2010 10:52 pm
I think you're right Dart (fried brain).
Mab-- I'm glad you are willing to stand up and fight against this monster (pardon my speaking, but the man sounds like one of those guys my father picks off the street and puts in prison). Just be strong and patient, and soon enough you will have your time to speak, and that, in my opinion, will be all that's necessary to exact revenge on this man. I wish the best for you, Maborofel, and I'll be reading to see what happens next. You have my support!!
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 8:11 am
One good thing I got from your recap is the the judge does NOT seem amused at all at his antics in court and through the AO's constant needless objections and such he may actually be digging a deeper hole from himself.
My thoughts are with you and applaude you for standing up to this man!
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Posted: Thu Feb 04, 2010 8:39 am
I second Feline.
It's really actually GOOD that he's annoying the judge.
It will probably be more to you and your mother's favor for that.
If you guys have an order of protection out on this guy, it also really weighs it in your favor.
Just, one tip my psychologist told me: Don't swear in front of the judge, it REALLY annoys them. It might also both help your case AND your nerves if you write out what you want to say first. I find it always really helps.
I also want to let you know that you're really not alone in this. My parents are also going through a really rough divorce, and the domestic-abusive b*****d has been trying to use me as his chokehold.
We have to go in for a single therapy session (he WANTS it to be more, but ******** no, I'm never going), and then a damn court hearing, so you're really not alone.
*bighug*
Do you live in Northeastern IL? I know an amazing therapist, if you want 'im...
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Posted: Mon Feb 08, 2010 6:54 pm
No, sorry, i'm on the MN/Canada border
What happened since I last posted:
As I might have said, the hearing was continued to Thursday morning. I went to school, as normal, with the condiition that I might/will be called out to testify sometime. I went about my day normally, slightly distracted, and eventually wondered what was taking so long. At lunch soon after, I called my house to find out that the case had been over for an hour and a half!
Turns out, my mom finished her testimony, then was cross-examined by AO. As was normal in the house before he got kicked out, he repeatedly asked the same questions, belittled her, and eventually became a complete jacka**. By 10, the judge was fed up and kicked him out
What I learned:
-AO is actually a ***** ask
-we won a huge part of the case
-AO has no chance of legal custody anymore
-we essentially never need to see or hear from him again
Huzzah for the United States Court System!
on another note, thanks, all of you. Were it not for you, I probably would have flipped out over this and be a complete wreck. When the entire thing is resolved in....sometime, I'll tell what ended up happening to AO
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