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 Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 1:14 pm
I could be in a relationship if it lacked sex completely. I think relationships mean a lot more if you can connect with a person that intimately without needing sexual contact for it to work. I view sex as something of a... well, let's see. Say I fell in love with someone, and that someone happened to be a Star Wars fan. I don't care for Star Wars, but the occasional times I'm asked if I can sit down and watch a film with them, I agree because I know they love it and I want to make them happy taking part in something they like so much. It can't all be one-sided, right, with me refusing to take any part of it while expecting them to be completely fine with me not liking Star Wars. That's the way it'd be with sex.
However, if I said I didn't want any - ever - I'd be hurt if they went off to get some elsewhere. I know it's a bit contradicting when I view sex as something of an interest than a bonding ritual, but seriously, it would feel like betrayal, since one's body should be taken care of by someone who trusts and cares for you, not floating around to whoever makes it feel good. Besides, there's always masturbation.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 1:30 pm
I'm just flat-out weird rofl I like sex (I'm NOT a nymphomaniac though) but I could easily have a relationship with an asexual
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 2:15 pm
I could be in a relationship without sex, it would drive me nuts, but if I loved the person then sure, I would gladly do that if I knew it made them happy.
But I could never be with someone who wasn't sexually attracted to me... I would just feel insulted I guess. Hmm... it sounds like I'm contradicting myself, but it makes sense in my head gonk
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 3:08 pm
I have been in relationships like that and if i love the person enough then yes, but if they just want me as a meal ticket like amos in Chicago the Musical then hell no! I am not one to be used.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:01 pm
Yes, I could. For me, just spending time with them would be enough. I have heard that "doing it" can ruin relationships, and if that's the case, then I wouldn't want to run the risk if I did truly care about them.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:05 pm
No. No. No. No. NO.
Never.
Sex isn't the most important thing. But it's still pretty ******** important to me.
If I don't have sexual chemistry with that person, I could never date them.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:10 pm
was for over a year. One of the best relations I was ever in. I don't have a physical need like most people do. I'm not that kind of guy. That girl and I broke up, never even went to second base with her. Just really loved her.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:33 pm
It really depends on alot things...
a. the reason why i would be in a relationship is because im sexually attracted to that person.
b. after noting the fact that im sexually attracted to them, i would want to get to know them based on their personality. lets face it, personality is a big part of relationships and if your going to be in a relationship with someone then you at least have to like them.
c. after sexual liking and personality liking, interests/likes/dis-likes come into play. when in a relationship your going to want some common ground, to be able to do things that you both like doing together.
d. religious views... lets say you don't believe in a "higher power" what so ever, but the person your dating is a "higher power" nut. so the other person is trying to shove religion down your throat, its probably not going to work out. just saying...
so taking some of those things into account it, lets say that i find that person that i have a sexual attraction to, personal attraction to, we have common likes and dislikes, and we're not going head to head about religion. so im now in a relationship with that person... but they now tell me that they have no sexual interests in me at all... so we're already in a good relationship, and i say what the hell i can live with out sex. this is true i could live with out sex, but that's not to say that im not going to want it. a couple of months go by, and now i want sex...
1st off, im not going to cheat on the person im with, that is just wrong. so i would end up having a talk to them, and tell them the way i feel. if they don't understand, then im most likely going to break up with them.
ok so that's that.
another thing is that i wouldn't be able to go threw a non-sex relationship during the summer... im not going to go into details, but that's when my sex drive is the most active and its just a bunch of lust. so i tend to try to not date during the summer (mostly because i don't want a relationship based only on sex :U)
so in conclusion, sex is a big part of a relationship, but its not the only part.
p.s. sorry if i was rambling...
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 7:27 pm
Evil Chauncey No. No. No. No. NO.
Never.
Sex isn't the most important thing. But it's still pretty ******** important to me.
If I don't have sexual chemistry with that person, I could never date them.
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 7:28 pm
@colon, patience, ezra, booboofish, chaunce:
high fives all around
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 7:50 pm
cursedcasanova I could be in a relationship without sex, it would drive me nuts, but if I loved the person then sure, I would gladly do that if I knew it made them happy. Who am I kidding? I love sex. Seriously, this drives me crazy. I don't mind waiting. But I couldn't be with a person who would never want sex. [yes I just read my answer and laughed at myself, I was half asleep]
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 8:30 pm
In Silent Lucidity  Support scleroderma awareness.Seeing as I don't have a libido, I can go for one without it - in fact, I prefer it that way. neutral Support autism awareness.  Same here. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 9:24 pm
Yes if that person made me happy and i loved them then yes
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Posted: Sun Jan 17, 2010 10:41 pm
I'm actually going through this right now. I swore that I'd go celibate for him.
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Posted: Mon Jan 18, 2010 12:14 am
Yes, I believe I would.
3nodding
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