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Here's my whole out take on this.

As said, males and females have different thought patterns which makes it harder to understand each other.

One thing I find that most people don't understand is that everyone, no matter who is different. Just because of a few experiences people, both male and female, will label everything that has to do with this object. With the one they encountered.

A female can say males are pigs because the 3 she met were pervert idiots.
A male can say females are ignorant and annoying because the few he met are all about themselves.
A person using Vista encounters a bug, that person will then on say Vista is buggy. While in fact it was only his encounter, countless others have experienced otherwise.

Everything is first impressions for everyone.
If your first impression is bad about something, then your first thought when encounter said thing is going to be bad.

Everyone has their flaws and specialties.
People just take EVERYTHING way to personal.
Guys in fact tend to be slower on the emotional side, that's a proven fact.
It's also a proven fact, females tend to be slower on the more reasonable side.

Guys at a stand point will look at something at more logical view while females tend to look at things at a more emotional view.

Now this isnt' true for everyone, as I said, everyone is different. But the majority is what I said above.

Your average female when put into an arguement about something will state facts based on emotions, such as it made her sad or mad said person sad. While a male will most likely say that said thing is safe or made something else safe.

And no offense to anyone in here but everything that has been said above actually proves my point.

You girls have been saying how frustrating it is that a guy won't take a hint, and because of those emotions, you guys generate hate towards them.
Guys won't take the hint because they don't know whether or not to take the hint. I'm sure most guys actually will know what you're doing but will say no because they never planned for it. And after a while of thinking and planning from the whole thing, will turn around as say yes, because they realize that being with you would be a good thing.

Trust me girls it's nothing personal towards you, it's just a different view and thought process of the said subject.
Males think of things on a more logical sense and try to keep their emotions away when deciding on something.

One thing I'd also like to add before putting an end to wall o' text.

I'm sure a lot of girls on here are around 16-18.
This is just a rough estimate. And whether you're 25 or 26.
Just because you are sexually active or dying for the perfect man.
Love cannot be rushed, ever.

It doesn't matter if it's love at first sight or not.
Love takes time, and you can't search through 6 billion human beings in 2 weeks.

Most people will not find a true partner until they are in their 30's.
Of course there are plenty and plenty of exceptions.

But fact remains that just because of a few mishaps you give up?
I personally think that's a load of bullshit.

You're all still young, You have your entire lives ahead of you.
Nothing amazing happens overnight without something building it up.

I will use myself as an example, I've been through 2 relationship's both which ended up badly. Yes, I was hurt and yes I did get upset plenty of times over it.
I have experienced these things, I've had my heart broken before and I've generated my fair share of hate.
But trust me when I say this, It's not good to let those feelings generate more then they should.

My first Boyfriend was freshman year in high school. My Ex is a complete and total emo. And by emo I mean craved attention in the form of sympathy. A lot of his actions were controlling and rash. The one I remember the most was when we were in the kitchen making food, I'm not sure what sparked this reaction as it completely caught me by suprise. But it was also the turning point that would end our relationship.

He came over to me, grabbed my hand, put a large kitchen knife in my hand, put it to his own throat, and told me to kill him. ******** up I know.

My next experience was with an Ex I recently broke up with only months ago. And this guy was the most self centered a*****e ever. He portrayed himself as innocent and nice but everything did was to benefit himself. And I was blind to it for the longest time. He never helped me with anything at all, while requesting my help on things whenever he could, even if it was 2am in the morning and I work later. He never shared anything with me, and it might sound selfish of me to say that, but after giving him countless things, some out of the goodness of my heart. He would turn around and deny me things. He was fairly controlling and if he wasn't busy taking things from me or telling me what to do, he was ignoring me.

I actually had a friend who would allow me to rant to him about all my troubles. The thing I found odd which actually caused me to feel a little angry inside was the fact at this. I started the conversation up with your general how are you? Can we talk. I began to explain things slowly, hoping he would start to get the hint, sadly no. So I came out with it.
"I think we should see other people. I'm unhappy in our relationship. I'm sorry."

His response was the Ironic thing.

"Okay." ~Goes back to playing Warcraft 3~

I don't mean to sound rude or seem like I wanted him to be hurt, but the fact that I was on the brink of crying when saying this, he felt no remorse or sadness toward the whole thing. My friend even talked to him later after getting angry about something else and brought the subject of me, and his response was. "Why should I care? If she cared about me, she would have told me when I was hurting her."

I to this day, still look for someone I could care for, someone's child that I might be able to carry one day.
But just because of a few mishaps doesn't mean to label and shut everything out.
Especially at such a young age.

Keep your thoughts open, don't close them.
The more mishaps you have, the better it will be in the end.


P.S.: None of this is meant to be an insult or offensive to anyone, it is my opinion of a vast view.

P.S.S.: In case anyone was wondering, I'm 19. I turned 19 on Aug 29th.