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 Posted: Fri Jan 30, 2009 3:31 pm
As always, you have my condolences, Monkey. sad
Luna covered just about everything I would have.
Clearly, this is another individual that doesn't love and respect you and you deserve better then that. I can't help but feel you have a fear of being alone with as quickly as you pick up new significant others. Maybe it's time to take a break and really focus on yourself and your boys? Find out what makes you happy and what you need out of a relationship before getting into another one. I can't help but feel you're trying to fill a void with other people that I think you need to fill on your own first. You can't find someone who will love and respect you if you don't love and respect you.
Don't sell yourself short and don't settle. Learn to be happy with you and love yourself first before trying to find someone else who will. heart
You can always vent here and if you need a pep talk, we're always ready to give you one.
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Posted: Sat Jan 31, 2009 4:46 am
Yesterday I drove out to his place and left my ring under his door. He's very selfish i know but he can be very sweet. Regardless i can't handle his crap anymore. Plus he's never here.
As for the pills the second ER doctor was just as confused. He said that very rarely has he ever heard of using abortion pills to end a eptopic pregnancy and that's probably why i bled so badly. The sever cramps cause the ebryo to pull away slightly and may have done some significant damage to my tube. Aspiration is way safer. So now i have a fever ect and i'm just miserable. He of course hasn't even called. And i really am happy that i don't have to deal with him ontop of it. My problem is that i tend to only see the good in people and men are tricky. S.O. was like the sweetest amazing guy for YEARS while we were friends and for the begining of the relationship then BAM it was like who the heck is this guy? And before the pregnancy we were already fighting about how he tends to not get very involved with the boys. He keeps saying "Oh i don't want to step on toes" It's like get over it eventually your gonna have to do some parenting grrr. I'm just happy that he has had minimal involvement with my kids and they honestly think he's just like any of my other friends that come around. I don't allow PDA's infront of or around them nor do i allow sleep overs ect. They come first and thus far no man can seem to deal with that. x.X Thank you both. I'm making an appt for 6 weeks to meet with the new gyn. Fingers crossed.
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Posted: Sat Jan 31, 2009 4:47 am
Oh and ive decided to heck with it no more men i'm buying a puppy lol.
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 9:48 am
Oh funky monkey, I'm so sorry to hear all this is happening. I remember you from my last pregnancy on this forum too.
As far as I knew, ectopic pregnancies were not viable and have to be ended 100% of the time, no choice about it, so I don't know why he's getting all bent out of shape that you should have continued the pregnancy?!
My sister has one child, age 5, and has had 4 miscarriages, some before, and some after her daughter. She turns 35 this year and they're looking into foster parenting now, but I think she's told me that when she does get pregnant, she has progesterone shots they gave her which she can take which will hopefully help sustain the pregnancy. I don't know if something similar would help you too, if it's a low hormone issue. I know it wouldn't have helped with the ectopic.
Good luck to you, and I'm glad you've taken steps to get away from this guy!
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Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 6:26 am
MysticfawN Oh funky monkey, I'm so sorry to hear all this is happening. I remember you from my last pregnancy on this forum too.
As far as I knew, ectopic pregnancies were not viable and have to be ended 100% of the time, no choice about it, so I don't know why he's getting all bent out of shape that you should have continued the pregnancy?!
My sister has one child, age 5, and has had 4 miscarriages, some before, and some after her daughter. She turns 35 this year and they're looking into foster parenting now, but I think she's told me that when she does get pregnant, she has progesterone shots they gave her which she can take which will hopefully help sustain the pregnancy. I don't know if something similar would help you too, if it's a low hormone issue. I know it wouldn't have helped with the ectopic.
Good luck to you, and I'm glad you've taken steps to get away from this guy! Yes those are the shots i was talking about. I've decided that i honestly don't want to go through that. I have two special needs kids and it isn't fair to them for me to be so sick and on bed rest. As it is i was back in the E.R. over the weekend. My immune system took a nose dive from the last pregnancy stuff and what started out as a sinus infection ran rampant and infected my sinuses, ears, and facial tissue. My face swelled up like someone hit me with a bat or something and my fever hit almost 103 o.o I wasn't even going to go. My mom literally dragged me out of bed and dropped me there lol. They said i was lucky it hadnt gotten to my heart. Sooooo some more really srtong antibiotics, ear and eye drops and pain meds plus some meds for the swelling and i'm starting to feel better. S.O. called last night. He has been perm moved (restationed) to Chicago. I swear i didnt talk to his boss >.>;;. The last time i tried to end it he effectively stalked me =/ So this time i called his work and expressed concern over his behavior as he was acting a bit nuts again and i was worried. Maybe it was out of line but being a government employee there are regulations regarding his behavior and i want to know im safe. Apparently they were going to move him anyways so they could watch him more closely. So i finally am free of him and i feel so much better. Thank you all for your support.
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