Mavole
Excellent advise, Butterballs. That was everything I needed to hear and more.
Youre very right, I have been doing things to make my time special and be truly happy though I am alone in it.
I've been drawing some really amazing things.. (Posted my dev-art if anyone wishes to view) ..and playing games, and basically doing the old things that I enjoyed before a Love Relationship became apart of my everyday life, plus some new things too.
He got online and called me a lot yesterday, yet did not say much to me, suprisingly.
He bought something, and his friend broke it and denied it, so he was really grouchy and lashed out easily at me. Though.. part of me was so happy not to be apart of that, because usually I would coddle him and coo "poor baby, what can I do to help?" and he would say "There's nothing anyone can do," and then leave me there like a wet rag.
I did not give in to this, which I feel prideful about, but nonetheless it felt really relaxing and made me feel a bit stronger... Is that wrong? :/
As his First Girlfriend told me:
Lauren, don?t let him manipulate you and then accuse you of manipulating him...His trademark is to materialize his self-hurt into something you have inflicted, which is not the case. Don?t let him make you the logo or the mascot of his pain because he still loves you and wants you except wont have anything to do with you in other senses
Like the nice senses ?because that isn?t fair
I'd love to hear what you have to say..
I know skygreygirl is going through similar break-up trauma.. What do you all have to say?
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Youre very right, I have been doing things to make my time special and be truly happy though I am alone in it.
I've been drawing some really amazing things.. (Posted my dev-art if anyone wishes to view) ..and playing games, and basically doing the old things that I enjoyed before a Love Relationship became apart of my everyday life, plus some new things too.
He got online and called me a lot yesterday, yet did not say much to me, suprisingly.
He bought something, and his friend broke it and denied it, so he was really grouchy and lashed out easily at me. Though.. part of me was so happy not to be apart of that, because usually I would coddle him and coo "poor baby, what can I do to help?" and he would say "There's nothing anyone can do," and then leave me there like a wet rag.
I did not give in to this, which I feel prideful about, but nonetheless it felt really relaxing and made me feel a bit stronger... Is that wrong? :/
As his First Girlfriend told me:
Lauren, don?t let him manipulate you and then accuse you of manipulating him...His trademark is to materialize his self-hurt into something you have inflicted, which is not the case. Don?t let him make you the logo or the mascot of his pain because he still loves you and wants you except wont have anything to do with you in other senses
Like the nice senses ?because that isn?t fair
I'd love to hear what you have to say..
I know skygreygirl is going through similar break-up trauma.. What do you all have to say?
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Yeah, that's one of the things that happens when you just come out of a relationship. You have to get used to being alone because you were so accustom to having someone around no matter how good or bad they might have been. You just have to learn to be by yourself, which you're doing right now. It'll make it easier for you the next time that you leave a relationship depending on that relationship. Most likely you'll know how to deal with it better.
Yeah, I think you're right in what you're thinking. You're finally start to take action in what you really want and what you really feel is right rather than giving into whatever he wants or thinks is right. Sure, you might think it's wrong because it's going against something that you've grown accustom to. Most likely it'll subside and soon enough you'll finally realize that you're doing the right thing even eternally (meaning you won't just say you know you're doing the right thing).
I agree with your friend. I was going to say something about it but I really didn't want to be that harsh about it. He sounds like a load of drama to be honest with you, which is fine, but it doesn't seem like that's something that you want in your life right now. I definitely think he manipulates people.
