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I agree with Divine, but I'll filter it a little;

I think it's very careless and uncaring that he would kick you out at a time that you need his shelter the most, especially when you trusted him enough to tell him right off... he shouldn't respond to his anger by causing even more complication, but people do stupid things when they're upset. sweatdrop He'll cool down in time, but you should stay away from him as long as he makes you feel like this. During this time, you need to surround yourself people like your boyfriend. If any of your friends treat you that way, then don't pay attention to them. What kind of friends would leave you when you need their support?

In your position, I would have doubts, scary moments and thoughts about abortion too; but you love this child and shouldn't give in to other people's wishes. Your guy will take care of you, and your baby will be there to thank you later. 3nodding So don't listen to your dad - see any member of your family that would care for you or help. Since they're far off, you could send them a letter or email. And there are plenty of people here who care. ^ ^ We're strangers right now, but we're also internet addicts, so you can tell us your concerns or problems any time and someone will probably reply soon after. 3nodding

As for school, you have plenty of options that aren't mentioned often. You can try completing all your school work at home, and you can take Cyberhigh classes to make up for credits you didn't get or even graduate early (though you're in your last year, so it won't be much different...) I've heard that GED's don't require as many credits as it takes to get a regular diploma, but you're nearly through highschool, so you'll do fine. Finishing school doesn't have to mean going 6 hours a day every day a week - I get a week's work done in 7 hours, and get the other 6 days off. I hope there's something just as flexible where you're at. sweatdrop Good luck, and keep us updated.

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What I would have said if I was less aggressive on opinions. For example, when I say "******** it" I generally mean "Disregard it because it is usually going against better judgement and thus should not interfere with your decisionmaking process" I tend to put things very curtly, when I mean them to hold larger, more general meanings.

My advice:

Don't listen to the people who say you are going to be a horrible mother, because you will end up believing them and then it will become true. You may not be ready to be a mother, but that does not, in any way, mean you will be a horrible mother. The pregnancy will most definitely change you. If you go through with it, you will be so much stronger, and so much more mature. The people who are saying you will make a horrible mother are plain ignorant. Just ignore what they have to say.

As for considering abortion, it's natural, even for us pro-lifers. Pregnancy is extremely difficult, especially at such young age. And, yes, there will be very tough times. It isn't going to be easy and it will be the exact opposite. There will be people who turn against you. But stop and think about you five years in the future. Imagine yourself if you had the abortion. How would you feel about yourself and about the baby? If pregnancy has some traumatic affects, imagine how traumatic abortion can be.

It will be hard to gain respect, even if you give the world your best. In the end, some of the more shallow people will see you as only a pregnant teen. But people aren't perfect; we have judgmental people all over the world. That doesn't mean you have to stop trying.

Back to thinking about your future... now imagine yourself if you go through with the pregnancy. I'm not sure if you plan on going through with college or anything, but imagine yourself 10 years from now with the knowledge of how you went through this incredible struggle. You will be such a strong person, someone worthy of making your father proud (seriously, if this doesn't make him proud... he's either in denial or just not worth it). Even if you give the child up for adoption, you will still be just as strong. You'll be the young woman who went through with a pregnancy for the sake of another's life and faced ridiculism, lack of respect, and so much stress, but you made it.

I know this won't be an entirely grand experience, but it will change you for the better if you make the right decision.

I hope I was of any help... sweatdrop heart

Please don't be a stranger, and best of luck with everything!

Aww, yes, that's great! It fills me with happiness! whee sweatdrop
I'm happy everyone was helpful and it's great that your dad had a change of heart. 3nodding

Both my brother and my uncle are going to be in Afghanistan, and I should be used to it because I'm in a military family, but I'm not.

But a man in the military has a life that takes them away from their families in service of their country. It doesn't get easier, but the level at which a man in the army can support you and take care of you is worth it, if they don't mind that kind of life.

It's hard to be apart, believe me, I know, but when he comes back, the love will be the same, and you guys have a bond that can't be broken by distance.

As for your parents, I'm glad they came around, because parents should be support system for you, to help and guide you when you need it the most.

As a new mother, you should spend time doing things that are fun and relaxing. And I contact my family through facebook when they're overseas-- you should totally get it, so you can at least message him whenever you feel lonely. It helps, honestly.

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