|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
 Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 3:54 pm
It's still cheating, man. Unless your girlfriend says it's okay, then I suppose it's like an open relationship.
How would you feel if you found out someone you have a relationship with was cybering half the world and also treating them as her significant one?
It would be "butt kick, bye bye slut" to me. stressed
But of course, that's just me. stare
|
 |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 9:56 pm
ok, ok... you can say that... butt that doesn't mean that it's forbided. I mean if people want to do it, they will do it.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 9:20 am
Well, nothing is forbidden. You can do anything you're capable of. If you wanna shoot someone in the head, go ahead, but it might come back at you.
I wouldn't be with someone who did that sort of thing, but that's just me. Other people might not care at all.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 10:32 am
BOLON Kayth You know, having a relationship online and one in real life is cheating. stare I don't cheat, but I've had an online relationship that lasted 3 years or so. LOL....
that depends... of what is your definition of cheating.
What is your definition of cheating?
Jambare: Well... I guess that to have a relationship on the net while you are marry it's a wrong thing. But if you weren't married?
Hmmm....if I wasn't married? I dunno....I've been married for 24 years (as of tomorrow the 11th), so it would be hard to say....I could be friends with someone but to me a relationship needs to be tangible...And I'm happy being married...
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 6:00 pm
well i agree it really does depend on the way you define cheating, and on the person themselves. If you have a relationship online and in real life, and you feel bad or guilty about it, then maybe it is a bad thing and you should end or change one or both of those relationships. If you dont feel bad then it either means that its probably not damaging for either relationship, or that you dont care, in which case you might want to look at whether you are happy in those relationships and whether you want to change some things
But thats just my opinion whee
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 8:05 pm
Kayth Well, nothing is forbidden. You can do anything you're capable of. If you wanna shoot someone in the head, go ahead, but it might come back at you. I wouldn't be with someone who did that sort of thing, but that's just me. Other people might not care at all. Well, I don't think that shooting someone and cheating should be compare like that, but I like the way you think. The way you write tells me that you love with all your heart. And I think just like you, I also wont forgive if my girlfriend cheat on me.
Also for you a relationship on the net would be cheating... but if that person lives in the other side of the world and theres no change of they meeting, would you still think that's cheating?
And Iconised Ghost, I think like you as well.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 9:57 am
Iconised Ghost well i agree it really does depend on the way you define cheating, and on the person themselves. If you have a relationship online and in real life, and you feel bad or guilty about it, then maybe it is a bad thing and you should end or change one or both of those relationships. If you dont feel bad then it either means that its probably not damaging for either relationship, or that you dont care, in which case you might want to look at whether you are happy in those relationships and whether you want to change some things But thats just my opinion whee I think it's more important if the -other- person cares about it. But that's my opinion too. wink BOLON Well, I don't think that shooting someone and cheating should be compare like that, but I like the way you think. The way you write tells me that you love with all your heart. And I think just like you, I also wont forgive if my girlfriend cheat on me. Also for you a relationship on the net would be cheating... but if that person lives in the other side of the world and theres no change of they meeting, would you still think that's cheating? And Iconised Ghost, I think like you as well. I guess it was just an extreme example of what you can do, because I tend to apply the same philosophy to everything in life. I don't love all that much actually, It's more about trust, I'd have the same reaction with someone I trust to do something. Love letters have broken marriages in the past too, you end up just juggling around two people. Having feelings (or not) for someone else and pursuing them despise having no physical contact is just as bad for me. I know I'd feel lower than crap if I were with someone and found out they were having a second life even without physical contact. stare ... It would have me questioning if I'm not enough and being as full of myself as I am, that would be bad. But hey, if it's a sex/open relationship, I don't give a damn, just don't bring stds. xp
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 2:41 am
Kayth Iconised Ghost well i agree it really does depend on the way you define cheating, and on the person themselves. If you have a relationship online and in real life, and you feel bad or guilty about it, then maybe it is a bad thing and you should end or change one or both of those relationships. If you dont feel bad then it either means that its probably not damaging for either relationship, or that you dont care, in which case you might want to look at whether you are happy in those relationships and whether you want to change some things But thats just my opinion whee I think it's more important if the -other- person cares about it. But that's my opinion too. wink Hmm...maybe it is equally as important. Because something is only wrong if someone feels it is wrong after all, wrong-ness is quite subjective in that sense. Kayth I know I'd feel lower than crap if I were with someone and found out they were having a second life even without physical contact. stare ... It would have me questioning if I'm not enough and being as full of myself as I am, that would be bad. I agree, that would probably be my reaction too, and i would never accept playing second fiddle, especially to someone my SO had never actually met before in real life I like u too Bolon ^_^ ur very diplomatic
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 9:44 am
LOL.... thank you... I try to be diplomatic as much as I can, so we can have a discution without a figth.
Kayth: I think that love and trust go hand by hand in a relationship. Trust it's the fundation of it. If you don't trust, you don't love.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 11:46 am
I have to agree with the comment that love letters have destroyed marriages....and having an alternate life for one who is married or in a relationship is not a good thing....questions will come up, trust would be broken, not a good thing....
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Tue Jul 15, 2008 7:57 pm
I must say i dont ever have relationships over the net! I have many friends on the net, but i dont think i could ever do anything like that!!
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 4:14 am
Until I was 17, my family was basically nomadic. We moved from house to house, usually within three months. Sometimes this included moving to a brand new city, or to an entirely other state. Because of that, I never really got the chance to settle down, or to find someone in my area that I could think of in a romantic sense.
Having said that, I have had three very serious internet relationships, and I do not regret having any of them. I'm currently engaged to the most wonderful man I've ever met, and we met over the internet. I would never do anything to compromise what I have with him, and I, too, am of the mind to think that having a relationship both on the internet and off is cheating.
I firmly believe you should never promise yourself and your heart to more than one person(at a time). If you do, I would feel that with both people, you're deluding yourself about how much you really care for them. If I could not find all that I need from the person I was with first, I would tell them that, not go behind their back to fill whatever void there is.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 1:32 pm
I find it difficult to meet someone online, and be attracted for any long periods of time. Well...it's like that for me in real life too, actually. I think it's because I never really feel like i'm connecting with anyone as much as I'd like. That's not to say that I won't keep trying, online and IRL...
Some guys get really jealous if their girlfriends/wives have other guy friends online...same thing in real life, too, I s'pose. I have a friend that I met online, and have talked to for YEARS...even about a year before she met her husband. We've only really met in person once, but he still thinks i'm out to get her. It all depends on the people you're dealing with! :/
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Sun Aug 10, 2008 4:16 am
The closest I have had to an internet relationship while I was seeing a girl was another girl telling me that she had a strong crush on me. I expressed that I did not share her feelings, but did not want to stop being her friend.
We continued talking for a long time after that, and eventually her crush went away.
I will admit however that I do have divergent personalities in both the online and offline world. Though unlike most my online persona is much more orderly and kind than my offline one.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Friendly Conversationalist
|
Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 6:04 am
I generally belief that everyone has different personalities on and off line. As for relationships though, I have never nor would never start one while I was with someone. However I have meet two people online that I dated for awhile (as in I meet them online and then we started seeing each other in real life monogamously), one of which is now my best guy friend in the whole world 3nodding
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Reply
