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 Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 5:08 pm
No, he normally isn't. He has never tried to hurt me on purpose before... I have no clue what happened last night. He said he's tired of me beating on him, but almost every time I hit him is when we are messing around and I kick. I have strong legs from soccer and horse riding so my kicks hurt...
And thanks. I have a few goals for this year, including getting him to communicate better.
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Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 5:14 pm
it's probably just him having a bad day then. I know when I'm not feeling well, I can get all grumpy too. and it usually won't go away until somebody forces me to talk about it. sweatdrop
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 5:20 pm
But we seemed to have had a fine day. He didn't work and we went grocery shopping. Oh... Ha. I forgot about a fight we had. His parents are comming down and his mom decided she is going to cook in my kitchen. I was/am pissed about that. No one asked me if it was okay. He talked about it on the phone with her and I kind of flipped... It's my kitchen... And I got in to an arguement with him about taking those 24 hours today... I guess it was me, but he really had no reason to do that. He did not ask me for input or anything. He didn't even tell me about his mom cooking next weekend...
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Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 5:43 pm
I'm glad I'm not the only one who get stressed when someone else works in my kitchen.
Sorry about your New Year's Day, Kosi. Maybe you can get the worst part of the year over with today, so the rest of the year will be good.
Try not to hold a grudge with him, it sounds like things got a little out of hand, and he probably was hurt worse than he let on.
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Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 5:50 pm
eeek. ._. there's the issues... folks who don't work in the kitchen often arn't generally aware of the Territory issue. that probably caused alot of confusion.
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Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 6:07 pm
I'm glad I am not the only one with kitchen territory. He does not understand why I am so mad about it. I see it as it's my kitchen, he could ask me to make it, not his mommy..... I hate her too...
I will be working hard to make this year good. Question is, will he be working hard too or will it just be me... He seems to think that whatever may happen will just happen. I am a firm believer that it is my fate and I will have a say in it.
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Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 6:08 pm
Chieftain Twilight eeek. ._. there's the issues... folks who don't work in the kitchen often arn't generally aware of the Territory issue. that probably caused alot of confusion. too true. I know I'd flip if my significant other decided to invite her family over and let her mom cook... I'd just leave for the night or the evening or something like that.
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Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 6:20 pm
Foxifyre Chieftain Twilight eeek. ._. there's the issues... folks who don't work in the kitchen often arn't generally aware of the Territory issue. that probably caused alot of confusion. too true. I know I'd flip if my significant other decided to invite her family over and let her mom cook... I'd just leave for the night or the evening or something like that.
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Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 6:22 pm
Oh, and Foxy can you post a link to your chainmail work? Shandrel and I would really like to see it
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Posted: Sat Jan 01, 2011 6:23 pm
I'm generally more lenient, or leastways I try to be... but I can get grouchy when things aren't where I put them. xd but I think the fact that I don't get so upset yet is because I still don't have my own Kitchen. I'm still always just a helping hand at home... back when I was in ohio, I only had as much reign as I did because nobody else would help... and it was miserable, because they just simply didn't have the things or space to make a setup I could enjoy.
anywho, I say you should talk to him about your resolve, and tell him that you need him to make an effort too. let him know how important is that the two of you realy try to communicate better. that's realy important.
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Posted: Sun Jan 02, 2011 9:10 am
Yea, we had a good conversation today, after I calmed down enough to stop yelling at him... A few weeks ago I accidentally hit the "back" button on his browser on his phone and it went to a hantai sight. I asked him what it was, because I am absolutely open about what I look at so why shouldn't he? That's how marriage should be. But he said he was not looking at it, blah, blah blah, that's just gross, blah, blah, blah... I did not believe him. So I had been checking his phone regularly, his browser history was always deleted... Suspicious? I was. So today I finally got a hold of his history and there were multiple porn sights... I was furious because he had been hiding it from me... So I had a good old fight with him about it and hiding it. I was more hurt because he went to these sights and was looking at those whores... He knows I am more than willing to make our own videos so I was just absolutely hurt that he would not ask to make our own videos... But yea, I calmed down, we had an okay talk, and I kicked him out of bed. It was the same fight that I have had with him multiple times though... That he needs to communicate with me and not hide these things from me. And the reason I make all these assumptions and am more than slightly paranoid is because he does not tell me the truth and hides these things...
*sighs* I'm just tired of finding out that he is lying and hiding these stupid things from me... If he is hiding these things then why wouldn't he hide something more important/incriminating? Like, say, an affair? I know that I am the cause of some of my paranoia, but him hiding this stuff is another big part... At least I can admit it though.
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Posted: Sun Jan 02, 2011 7:03 pm
well... I'm not even sure what to say at this point. I know I'm still working on it myself.
but I recall talking about this with you before, now that I think about it... he's been keeping this up still, all this time? he must realy realy feel ashamed of looking at porn. o_O;
all I can do about it is guess. it could be that he thinks it a guilty pleasure, because he's married. but this is me sill trying to figure out how a monogamous mind works. meh.
Sex is Sex, and Love is Love, and Marriage is Marriage. they are not the same things, though they tend to go together. people need to stop lumping them all up into one concept, it's unhealthy.
and I have a friend I've known since diaper-days who's a Pornstar now, and I've had plenty of opportunities to consider the career myself... isn't it the tiniest bit possible that your suspicions and jealousies are part of why he still tries to hide these things from you? confused
you get so worked up over those little details, even as you claim that the problem is just the lies rather than the content. I think you are trying hard to convince yourself that you don't mind things that you realy do, and he can see it.
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Posted: Sun Jan 02, 2011 8:46 pm
I realize I may be butting in where I am not wanted, and I realize that. I apologize in advance for any ill will this may cause.
I am a female and I watch porn. I have a boyfriend (long term) and he watches porn. Sometime we watch porn together. Sometimes we don't. It is an activity that unless your partner is willing to open up about, you may not feel comfortable sharing.
Porn is a fantasy- What if I had a c**k that big, or could do that with a can of whipped cream? To put it bluntly, he knows what his own d**k looks like. He may not want homemade videos because he can have that. Hentai especially is a fantasy- you show me a true real life futanari and I'll show you a transsexual between operations. Most men think the real life one is disgusting, but the animated one is fair game because it is safe. He may have a fantasy that you don't want to do or doesn't want to ask you to do. Or hell, maybe you just can't. One of my boyfriend's favorite things we can't do until I get better birth control. So he watches relevant videos instead. Doesn't mean he'll go out and find someone else to do it with. He is satisfying his urge at home in a relatively harmless way.
Porn has such a forbidden aura that its pathetic. Most of the stigma attached to being a porn star is crap. Just because they use sex for a living doesn't make them a whore. All the name calling and posturing, the moaning and the grunting is an act. People expect that from idealized sex (there's the fantasy again), so the porn industry obliges. They are making an honest day's living with other actors. No one's home is being broken up. No significant other is left crying in the dust. No AIDS is being spread. So how do they qualify as being a whore?
You say you can admit to your paranoia, Aakosir. Why are you paranoid about porn sites? If it was online sex dating sites, then I'd be paranoid. He's keeping these sites a secret because you assume that porn=whoring=affairOMG. He's uncomfortable talking about it with you because you assume that he wants more sex than just what you offer. And if you've been in this pattern for a while now, he's not going to open up about it easily. He closed it off, denies it heavily, because it upsets you. If you can, gently find out why he was looking at them. Does he like the hentai because you can do anything in a fake world? Does he like a**l, or oral, or something else that is not featured in the bedroom? The fact that he was looking at the porn instead of the sex partner sites makes me think he isn't cheating. And he might just be curious. I know there are a few porn videos I have watched just to see how the hell they managed to do it O.o Instead of looking like blaugh my face looks more like gonk , eek , and xd . Try to find out why he watches it before you pass judgment on him. Personally, if it was my boyfriend, and he was just after something new to wank off to, rather than fulfilling a fantasy, I'd be happy if he was looking at porn. I'm not always around when Little Boyfriend stands at attention, so I'd rather he reached for a mouse and a computer than a phonebook and his car keys.
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Posted: Sun Jan 02, 2011 9:04 pm
i have a question. a friend of mine thinks his friend was possesed. and i would type more but im tired from fighting off a hormone crazy male. so iv run off to my moms bathroom to hide and possibly sleep since i know he'll be still there waiting for me to come out...UGH
anyhoot. the guy went into a possible possession new years. and my friend said the voice wasnt his friends nor was his look, also he fell on the ground and convulsed when getting up the guy had no clue what happened.
IM message: (name left out)
Okay, in ninth grade, my friend Eddie told me he saw ghosts as a kid that used to harass him a lot. I thought he was just imagining things as a kid when he told me that. However, recently, he's told me some new things.
He told me when he was a kid, another kid talked him into praying to Satan and that would make him a warewolf or something like that, so he did. Some time after is when he saw these entities.
And he said they went away for a long time but just came back last year or so.... doing crazy things like turning all electronics equipment on and stuff like that. And also it keeps saying only one word... "Belial" which by the way, appears only once in the Bible. I don't think Eddie would have known that word.
Anyways..... last night I was talking to Eddie about it.
Then he felt something biting his neck. I couldn't see anything biting him at all. Then he suddenly started talking to me a lot differently. He sounded angry, and his voice was a lot different. Kept telling me he knew Eddie better than I do and that he'll keep hold of him forever and that I'll forget this conversation.
He never did touch me though.... he then fell down to the ground and became normal after about a minute. Eddie swears he does not remember this incident.
Freaked me out. I don't know what to think.
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I've known Eddie for 15 years.... that did not sound like him at all.
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Eddie also said that the entity seemed to want Eddie to say the name but Eddie refused to do so. Eddie thinks something bad will happen if he says the name out loud.
I said the name out loud several times to see what would happen but nothing did.
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Oh and he also mentioned that the entity made his stepdad run over a kid in the road (not killing him though), and the entity turned to Eddie and said to never tell a soul about this. Eddie sounded really scared to tell me this.
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and I don't think anything physically changed, but his tone of voice, gait, the look in his eyes, etc were not Eddie's
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he did have convulsions after he fell to the ground
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also, I'm wondering.... what does this being gain from taking control of Eddie, or by telling me these things?
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this is what my friend said and asked
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Posted: Sun Jan 02, 2011 9:15 pm
Spooky-Fangula also, I'm wondering.... what does this being gain from taking control of Eddie, or by telling me these things? Without knowing the character of the person in between (your friend, not Eddie), my gut reaction is a way for Friend to get attention unless you can verify with Eddie. I can also think of some more "normal" reasons why Eddie would have that reaction or change his voice. I'd need more info before I commit to an explanation. As for your would-be paramour Spooky, kick him in the nuts. Hard. Or the teeth, but the nuts are less expensive. It is not nice to force your hormones onto someone else and it sounds like he needs a lesson, especially if he's in your home on sufferance.
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