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 Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2005 10:06 pm
DEERS = Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System
This is the FIRST thing that you ned to be signed up with. Without it, you don't get ID cards, comissary, TRICARE, or anything else.
Here's a helpful site with some info on DEERS:
http://www.military.com/Resources/ResourcesContent/0,13964,30849--1,00.html
Hope that helps! ^_^
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Posted: Thu Oct 06, 2005 10:36 pm
Also, once you know you are enrolled in DEERS, you can apply for Tricare Prime. You're automatically are enrolled into Tricare standard when you are first entered into DEERS. You might even qualify for Tricare Remote if you live far enough from a military hospital. Here is a link to Tricare. Hope it helps. http://www.tricare.osd.mil/
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Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 8:47 pm
I went today to talk to recruiters in town and no one was there for the army but i did get to talk to the navy recruiter and he said that sometimes it take a month or so for those paper to come in and even if i get sick i could just go to beaumont to the army base and they would take care of me since he is in boot camp and that active duty
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2005 3:42 pm
I'm becoming an Army wife in January and i was wondering if anyone had any advice for me?
I've been a Navy brat all my life, so I'm do know about military life just not in the wife position.
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 1:57 pm
Honestly? Be ready for anything. lol You're going to be surprised by some of the stuff you have to deal with and it never would have occured to you first going in.
I think the best thing to keep in mind is that you'll get out of the Army experience what you put in. Meaning, if you have a bad attitude, refuse to learn the ropes and are resistent to it, it will absolutely kick your a** and it will be the worst experience ever. If you try to learn the nature of the beast and work with it and know your way around, it will go so much more smoothly.
Congrats on the up-coming wedding! heart
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2005 2:31 pm
Dirge said it best, but I also wanted to add...BE PATIENT AND SUPPORTIVE!
There are times when s**t hits the fan, work hours are extended, duties erupt spontaniously, field exercizes decend from out of the blue. Don't get upset with your husband if something comes up. Don't act like he volenteered to go away for weeks or months at a time. There are actually a lot of wives who don't understand that nine times out of ten, your spouse doesn't have a choice in the matter. I've overheard a lot of, "Why the hell do you have to do this now?" and "Why are they sending you? It's not like there aren't other soldiers." or my favorite, "You're doing this on purpose." It's not true, and the ultimate sign of a selfish wife, an unsupportive marriage, and definately not following the whole "Better or worse" part of the vows. You're going to hear it a lot, and it'll piss you off, but you really do know that you're marrying a soldier, so be prepared. There will be days where your man will need to b***h about the asshats he's working with, there will also be days where he doesn't want to do anything but breathe. It happens, but if you have a good man, he'll make up for it later. Just be there for him, love him with all you have, and understand that life as a soldier typically sucks. A LOT! Also, a hobby or part time job is a good idea to keep yourself occupied while he's away and off playing Army.
Most of us here have been doing this for awhile, I personally have been doing this for going on...er...*counts* eight years. We know what we're talking about. Don't be afraid to ask questions, it's the only way you'll learn. Being a brat is much different than being a spouse.
Other than that, Good luck!
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2005 3:53 pm
Being a military spouse is definitely hard, but also rewarding.
But one thing you have to keep in mind, is that your life and relationship will no longer just belong to you. You share your husband with the United States Government now, and the US Gov is a jealous, selfish mistress.
Military matters will ALWAYS come first (even in emergencies). You'll have to plan vacations and visits back to home around when he's allowed to take leave... and there WILL be times that he's turned down for a leave request. He will most likely be deployed t some point, which means you must make sure that you can function self-sufficiently. Make sure you know how to do bills, deal with kiddos, and run the entire house without him being there (not saying you don't already know these things, but it's good to mention).
Try and learn your new duty station as quickly as possible. TAKE ADVANTAGE of any help the base offers (play groups, family support centers, etc). Get to know the people he works with. This helped me a lot. My hubby had to be deployed for about 6 weeks at one point. We lived 1300 miles away from everyone we knew. The car was in the shop as well, so it was only through the kindness of his co-workers and friends, that I was able to make trips to grocery stores and etc while the car was indisposed.
Find things in your new city to do ASAP. I hated our last duty station with a vengence, but I had to find things to do there, or go insane.
Be super patient and super supportive. Get involved in base activities. Get to know your neighbors (whether you live on base or not). Be sure and keep updated lists of all the important base numbers for each base you live at (numbers for the MP, the hubby's office, comissary, medical center, etc).
NEVER let the movers pack ANY important documents. And learn to be assertive. A lot of times, when dealing with the military, if you don't act like you have cajones of steel, then they won't take you seriously.
Anywho, that's all the advice I can think of right now. Good luck to you, and like Illi said, feel free to ask us questions anytime ^_^. I am no longer a military wife, but was one for 4 years.
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2005 4:25 pm
Loki! wowie. That was great to know! I"m new to this also! My fiance's got 2 more months until he's finished up w/his A-School. We're not married yet, but after i'm done w/schooling we will be. :] Thanks!
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2005 4:54 pm
badloki And learn to be assertive. A lot of times, when dealing with the military, if you don't act like you have cajones of steel, then they won't take you seriously.
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2005 7:53 pm
Pirate Dirge badloki And learn to be assertive. A lot of times, when dealing with the military, if you don't act like you have cajones of steel, then they won't take you seriously. Don't I know it. That's what I'm having to deal with right now concerning my furniture. They think that because I'm not there IN THEIR FACES, bitching in person, that I'll just fade away and they won't have to deal with me anymore.... yeh right. evil
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Posted: Wed Oct 12, 2005 11:04 pm
badloki Pirate Dirge badloki And learn to be assertive. A lot of times, when dealing with the military, if you don't act like you have cajones of steel, then they won't take you seriously. Don't I know it. That's what I'm having to deal with right now concerning my furniture. They think that becau see I'm not there IN THEIR FACES, bitching in person, that I'll just fade away and they won't have to deal with me anymore.... yeh right. evil agreed 3nodding 3nodding 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Oct 13, 2005 4:59 pm
sweatdrop Wow, being in the spouse position is a lot different than I thought. I mean, I've watched my mom be a navy wife all my life but I never spent much time thinking about all the things she had to go through.
I'm so used to being alone and moving around so much, I don't think I'll have too much trouble adjusting to new bases and new cities, or when/if he gets deployed I'll be able to deal with being alone most of the time.
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Posted: Thu Oct 13, 2005 8:51 pm
^_^ It's great that you're used to moving and adapting though: that will really help you out.
But yes, being a spouse is a whole different can of worms. I think you'll do fine.
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 1:52 am
rofl Don't you love how parents always make it look so goram easy?
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 10:15 am
My husbands going into the navy on the DEP on March 14 anyone know how long it takes for them to start sending out the pay checks and houseing checks?
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