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 Posted: Tue May 03, 2005 1:58 pm
Queerly Euphoric
When I was in sixth grade I started letting more people know, like people at school, etc, etc. I said that I didn't want everyone to know, but secretly I'd hoped a rumor would go about, and it did.OH, I know what you mean. It may sound stupid, but that's kinda happening to me. Today some people suggested I go the the dance with my friend Ricky, but I said, "Pffft...I have a girlfriend you know! wink " And they were like "You're a lesbian?!?!111" And they're "puplar" and girls, so it'll get around fast. BUT SCREW THEM ANYWAY! I'm damn proud! blaugh
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 3:35 am
my friends took it pretty hard when i finally told them, except for one, cause she was bi too, in fact she actually told me that she had been hoping i was bi so she could ask me out, but at the time i had a bf, so i had to say no, but we still shamelessly flirt, just jokingly, to creep out the homophobs in our spanish II class, they all think it wrong for two girls to like each other in more than a friendly way.....stupid if you ask me.....
but my other friends, my straight friends, did not take it so easily.....
me and two of my friends (ones a guy, ones a girls, and the funny thing is that i've had a crush in both of them before i met my bf sweatdrop )
me: ......hey guys.....can i ask you something?
guy: sure
girl: of course...
me: what would you say if i told you that i was bi?........
guy:...........you......bi? yeah right! stop joking around!
girl: um.......i don't think she's joking around.....are you?
me: sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop uuuhhhhhhhhh......... sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop no...... sweatdrop
guy: ........................................................................
girl: ........................................................................
guy: so doesn't that mean you like girls too? that's really gross.....
girl: dude! *she smacks him at this point* you're not supposed to say that out loud!
me: stressed ........
basically after that, i just walked away........i didn't talk to them for like 2 weeks.......and most of my other friends reacted in somewhat similar ways......so i basically taked to only one person for two weeks.....now they've kinda accepted it.......but it still freaks em out when i say that a girl is hot......
i still haven't managed to tell my dad......but i told my mom......she was fine with it......but it doesn't matter cause she died of cancer exactly two weeks ago.......but she told me that no matter who i liked......she would always love me and accept who i choose to love
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Posted: Wed May 04, 2005 11:24 am
Yeah when I came out my friends were like jumping up for joy and saying. "Oh my god he's one of us yeah yeah" lol it was the best to know that my friends supported me 100% biggrin
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Posted: Sat May 07, 2005 6:38 pm
Reactions?
Me: I'm gay.
Almost every single person I've told: Yeah, that's a HUGE shocker *rolling eyes*
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 3:54 am
The reaction of my friends were mostly:
"Cool... Don't worry, its not like you've changed or something.."
So that was cool
My dads was funny:
me: "Dad, I'm bi"
dad: "No you're not"
XD
He meant it in a different way than it would seem though...
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Posted: Fri May 13, 2005 5:08 pm
The only person i have would probubly be my best friend, and she looked at me like i was a freak. >.> bad experiance i dont even know what to do .... bleh I think i might just stay in the closet about being bi . even though 90 % of females are bi, i think i might be leaning more twoards being a lesbian, though i think guyz are hot still...kinda.
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Posted: Thu May 26, 2005 5:18 am
Well, I was Never too sure about comming out. Afraid of loseing all my friends, making my parents not like me more that they already do. But, the day I got my first girlfriend, I told my parents right away. I couldn't keep it in. And they were so cool with it. I was amased. I could tell my mother and step-father and they were so understanding. But my real father, that was the hardset step. But I told him too. He bugged me for a while, but it's fine now. I may get weird looks from my friends every now and then, but I'm use to it now.
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Posted: Thu May 26, 2005 8:04 am
it took a while for me o come out !
but when i did it was kind of funny the way i got found out, while at the same time my sister-in-law and my cousin were like lil bitchy school girls ( you would think at 21 my sis in law could be adult about it ) and slagged me off for being proud of being gay ,
my brother kicked my head in recently ( ok, ok, took penalty kicks at my body saying all i am is gay and all i'll ever be is gay) but thankfully he can't kick for s**t so it didn't hurt too much!
but i am out and i don't care i love being out , i have more friends, life is more calmer ( yeah ok i know sounds strange saying that ) but i'm not always depressed, ihave more confidence, and i speak up ! i'm very protective of friends whoa re coming out and i'm always there for them and to stand up to homophobes ( i've turned into a lil hard nut pmsl! )
no i'm just a lot more confidant and i love it ! mum and dad love my girlfriend (that i've been with for two years) more than me and thats fab.
I love who i am and wouldn't change for the world!
and i'm glad i came out because of how much more i have in life!
it took a while but well worth it!
even if things had gone wrong i would still be happy to be out !
i do think it becomes easier when you have friends going through the same thign as you ! it's support and then again i had a youth group i was part of when i was coming out which was a great help to run to when it got to much !
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 10:56 am
for a really long time i denied i was bi.. and just last year i found out i was.. it took me till now to start telling some of my friends... but my family and most of my female friends don't know... i'm afraid of what they might say sweatdrop .. my best friend was all kool about it though ^^... we are like sisters so i know she'll always be there for me~
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 7:01 am
I really didn't have that hard of a time telling my parents. I knew they wouldn't care, I just didn't know how to tell them, and then finally, I just came out and said "I'm bi." They were all cool about it, so no big deal there. I've told a few of my friends. The first non-parent friend I told was my bestest, bestest ever friend Ashley, and we ended up going out not long after (she's bi, too), and on my request, she told the rest of my circle of friends. So all of my friends know, except for the ones in my new school (I moved to Virginia from Texas not long ago). Ashley and I are still going out, and I can't wait to see her this summer! I'll get to be there for her b-day! heart
I'm not quite sure how to tell my friends here that I'm bi, which annoys me, because I really, really, REALLY want to be completely out and just get it over with. Sometimes I feel like screaming it out at the top of my lungs in the middle of school, but though that would be very effective, it wouldn't be that smart... sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 9:40 am
It just... happened, I guess.
My Father has always been very open-minded and my mother as well, though she'd rather see me marry with a man.
Most of my friends know I'm bi, and when someone asks, I'm honest with them and tell them the truth.
So yeah... We're all pretty open-minded, my friends and me. And we live with our minds in the gutters, which did help some xp
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 1:58 pm
All my friends were just like "yeah, we know... its about time you finally realized it"... My family, well my sister was a bit more ignorant back in the day... I told her and she didnt react well (I told her back when i first realized it, at 14 y.o. and she told me I was going through a phase).
I didn't tell my family until I was 18... and they were all very cool with it... My mother I told her over dinner one night, it was like a classic movie moment. We're eating salad, and I just blurt out "Mom, did you know I'm gay?" because... well, I'm one of those people you'd look at me and go "oh she's gay"... and she had had a forkfull of salad halfway to her mouth and she just stopped and looked at me... and a little piece of lettuce fell off the fork... lol i almost laughed... and then she just was like ".... noo...?" But my mom, I knew she'd be fine with it, and I very casually slipped it into conversation with like my brother and other family... My brother said he knew the first time he saw me and Elaine together. My sister came to me and explained herself... she even said, she wasn't open minded back then, and she was ignorant... and that she realized that I'm her sister and she'll love me no matter what... so that had a happy ending too.
But even all my friends, I didnt have a problem with a single one of them... even all the girls, they were all just completely cool with it...
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Posted: Sat Jun 04, 2005 12:17 am
Kujamaru I've only told my two best friends, and this whole guild that I was bi ._.;; Me- Um... Can I tell ya something? ._.;; -kaosin-(first friend to know)- Ya sure. ^^ Me- .... You wouldn't like... hate me or anythin would ya? Her- ...? No, you know I can't hate you... Me- I'm bi... ._.;; Her- ok ^^ Me- ...... You know I'm bi right? O.o Dysfunction Unknown- Nope. I do now though. ^^ Me to guild (in profile)- Sexuality: Bi... what i did for some of my friends was told them that i had a friend who was bi and didnt know how to react and asked them what they would do in the situation and after i got their answers i told most of them it was me later that day and all of them know now because i have a homophobic friend who cant keep her mouth shut >.< I felt that last one would make for a nice giggle...
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Posted: Sat Jun 04, 2005 9:30 pm
heart Coming out (either gay or bi) can be hard, but hiding it is much harder on yourself. I came out 5 years ago when i was 16, and everyone welcomed it with open arms. Except my father, until this day hasn't talked to me. But coming out is something that you must choose. You will know when the right time will be. mrgreen
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Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2005 7:30 pm
blaugh
eeeeek! now you'll just make me remember and visualise myself 3 years ago LOL
Ok, i'll try to short things out so you won't get bored:
Let's move back 3 years ago, I was on my last year of high school, maling plans about prom party and where would we study our majors
I had this best friend and wherever each of us went the other one would follow, so gossip started that we might be having an affair and then it spread to the whole collegue.... you could even see stuff grapped upon the walls and drawings of ourselves making out twisted shame on them!
well.. as we expected, this came to our parent's hearing and so my mother asked me.. but obviously i said it was a lie, because truly, we were just friends at that time... months went on and we went to cancun all alone and after a nice pillow fight we kissed each other and then we found out we were in love with each other wink
so now, as we went back from the trip and got into school again, everytime someone said something about us we just nodded biggrin
this time it was me holding hands with my ex-boy the one who told my mother about our relationship, she went nuts! and took me to a shrink, which told me i was OK and it was my mom the one who needed therapy hehe. So time again went by and i had a 3 year relaitonship with this guy in which my family had accepted him and his accepted me; so we were a happy family, which ended the day he cheated on me with an ugly looking friend of mine gonk
so then i stood single and i'm still am... but i gotta say i'm having a msn relationship with a guy my age from a year or 2 years ago, and it's a promising relationship which i hope everything we are planning comes true
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