Kyou, I totally understand the whole "expecting him to be there" thing. Only a couple years ago a co-worker passed away very suddenly and unexpectedly overnight. We all shared an office (all of our desks were in one room within reaching distance of each other) so we all saw each other all day long every single day and were very tight-knit. It took a
long time to adjust to him not being there. I've had a few relatives die recently
(my real life rat named Virginia was actually named in honor the most recent - my maternal grandmother), but have yet to experience it with someone I've lived with. From my own experiences, I can say that without a doubt the sadness never goes away, but the pain
will lessen with time. My mother-in-law passed away about 6 years ago, and even though my husband still misses her a lot, as far as I can tell (men being men and all) the
pain part is gone. You loved your father, so you will always be sad he's not there, but the severity of what you're feeling right now will get better. Give yourself time. Everyone heals at their own rate and there really is no wrong way to grieve.
@Rob: It's late-stage lymphoma and the tumors are inoperable, so she won't, but I thank you very,
very much for the kind thought!
heart Like I said, she's doing really well at the moment, so we all have hope that she still has years left. I hope you had fun at the party and visiting your family!
smile This thread has really taken a dark turn, but laughter is always good medicine. Even when you're too sad to do nothing more than a weak smile.
Quick, somebody lighten the mood back up in here!Panda sees his dinner bill:
And if that fails, there's always the crude stand-by... A fart joke!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8LAA9SK2sM4 
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