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 Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:21 pm
Shiori Miko Kestin Sha Shiori Miko Kestin Sha Divine_Malevolence Kestin Sha I thought I was over it...but somehow I still have millions of questions...and even now...it still hurts...
*curls up into a ball of sad*
Still hurts... Any way I can help? Any way you can fool me into thinking I can help? Anythi-*Shot* No...I can't open up to anyone ever again, even if I've already done so on previous occasions. They all say the stock lines...I can tell them anything, they won't get sick of me, they won't stop wanting to hear it. And it's not a lie. Because there are differences between a lie and a falsehood. They don't know. You don't know. But everyone gets tired of me eventually. It takes longer for some people than others, but in the end, everyone stops wanting anything to do with me. I can apologize all I want, but if nobody ever takes it to heart because they think they'll never get sick of it...well, that's all I can do, whether or not it's any good. I won't lie...these feelings were brought to light partly because of a recent incident. But it's been this way for far longer than that. I've had countless betrayals (for lack of a word indicating my fault, not theirs) by people who never thought it would happen, who didn't see it coming until it was already done. I know better than to believe in people, to trust them not to turn away. All that's left is to start acting like it. This is probably gonna sound bitchy. I've been in your friend's position. I know what it's like to try so hard to be there for someone and try to help them. I will admit I stopped talking to people who act the way you're talking about...because they don't change. It's annoying as hell when your friend constantly comes to you with their problems but never fixes them. Expects you to fix them. Expects you to make them happy. If you're doing the same thing, then I'm not surprised at what your friend did. *rereads* ...Yep, I sounded bitchy. I'm talking about many people, actually, so plurals please. I'm one of those people who talks not to get advice, but because I just need to talk. Talking is, for some people, the most helpful thing to do. I try to make that clear when I start talking to someone. I never go more than two PMs without stating outright that I'm an annoying, whiny, needy b***h, just so people remember that I know it. I'm not looking for help other than just being listened to. Advice...can sometimes piss me off, depending. xp tl;dr: I talk because talking is extremely helpful for me, but only when there's someone to listen. But I've got to find something else. Because even those people who don't mind that I'm not looking for advice and that I just want to talk...they all get sick of me. They're the ones I'm talking about. Oh would you just shut up? They get it already.I'm just explaining...Yeah, but your explanations are longer than Order of the Phoenix. rolleyes ...shutting up...My friend was like that. It pissed me off to no end. If you don't want feedback why talk to someone? It's incrediably annoying being treated like a diary. To some. Or most, perhaps. ninja But ne'er assume all are annoyed by such things.
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:25 pm
Divine_Malevolence Shiori Miko Kestin Sha Shiori Miko Kestin Sha No...I can't open up to anyone ever again, even if I've already done so on previous occasions. They all say the stock lines...I can tell them anything, they won't get sick of me, they won't stop wanting to hear it. And it's not a lie. Because there are differences between a lie and a falsehood. They don't know. You don't know. But everyone gets tired of me eventually. It takes longer for some people than others, but in the end, everyone stops wanting anything to do with me. I can apologize all I want, but if nobody ever takes it to heart because they think they'll never get sick of it...well, that's all I can do, whether or not it's any good. I won't lie...these feelings were brought to light partly because of a recent incident. But it's been this way for far longer than that. I've had countless betrayals (for lack of a word indicating my fault, not theirs) by people who never thought it would happen, who didn't see it coming until it was already done. I know better than to believe in people, to trust them not to turn away. All that's left is to start acting like it. This is probably gonna sound bitchy. I've been in your friend's position. I know what it's like to try so hard to be there for someone and try to help them. I will admit I stopped talking to people who act the way you're talking about...because they don't change. It's annoying as hell when your friend constantly comes to you with their problems but never fixes them. Expects you to fix them. Expects you to make them happy. If you're doing the same thing, then I'm not surprised at what your friend did. *rereads* ...Yep, I sounded bitchy. I'm talking about many people, actually, so plurals please. I'm one of those people who talks not to get advice, but because I just need to talk. Talking is, for some people, the most helpful thing to do. I try to make that clear when I start talking to someone. I never go more than two PMs without stating outright that I'm an annoying, whiny, needy b***h, just so people remember that I know it. I'm not looking for help other than just being listened to. Advice...can sometimes piss me off, depending. xp tl;dr: I talk because talking is extremely helpful for me, but only when there's someone to listen. But I've got to find something else. Because even those people who don't mind that I'm not looking for advice and that I just want to talk...they all get sick of me. They're the ones I'm talking about. Oh would you just shut up? They get it already.I'm just explaining...Yeah, but your explanations are longer than Order of the Phoenix. rolleyes ...shutting up...My friend was like that. It pissed me off to no end. If you don't want feedback why talk to someone? It's incrediably annoying being treated like a diary. To some. Or most, perhaps. ninja But ne'er assume all are annoyed by such things. The peron who did it to me decided he was gonna solve his women problems by dating the one person who understood him, his "diary". I've been severely short tempered ever since. Edit: On the upside, it inspired one of my favorite poems. biggrin
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:26 pm
Secret : I fell bad because everyone here keeps telling me to dump my bf and i know i probably should, or at the very least start screaming at him next time i see him... but i just can't. no matter how hard i try to make myself do it i can't!
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:29 pm
Shiori Miko Divine_Malevolence Shiori Miko Kestin Sha Shiori Miko Kestin Sha No...I can't open up to anyone ever again, even if I've already done so on previous occasions. They all say the stock lines...I can tell them anything, they won't get sick of me, they won't stop wanting to hear it. And it's not a lie. Because there are differences between a lie and a falsehood. They don't know. You don't know. But everyone gets tired of me eventually. It takes longer for some people than others, but in the end, everyone stops wanting anything to do with me. I can apologize all I want, but if nobody ever takes it to heart because they think they'll never get sick of it...well, that's all I can do, whether or not it's any good. I won't lie...these feelings were brought to light partly because of a recent incident. But it's been this way for far longer than that. I've had countless betrayals (for lack of a word indicating my fault, not theirs) by people who never thought it would happen, who didn't see it coming until it was already done. I know better than to believe in people, to trust them not to turn away. All that's left is to start acting like it. This is probably gonna sound bitchy. I've been in your friend's position. I know what it's like to try so hard to be there for someone and try to help them. I will admit I stopped talking to people who act the way you're talking about...because they don't change. It's annoying as hell when your friend constantly comes to you with their problems but never fixes them. Expects you to fix them. Expects you to make them happy. If you're doing the same thing, then I'm not surprised at what your friend did. *rereads* ...Yep, I sounded bitchy. I'm talking about many people, actually, so plurals please. I'm one of those people who talks not to get advice, but because I just need to talk. Talking is, for some people, the most helpful thing to do. I try to make that clear when I start talking to someone. I never go more than two PMs without stating outright that I'm an annoying, whiny, needy b***h, just so people remember that I know it. I'm not looking for help other than just being listened to. Advice...can sometimes piss me off, depending. xp tl;dr: I talk because talking is extremely helpful for me, but only when there's someone to listen. But I've got to find something else. Because even those people who don't mind that I'm not looking for advice and that I just want to talk...they all get sick of me. They're the ones I'm talking about. Oh would you just shut up? They get it already.I'm just explaining...Yeah, but your explanations are longer than Order of the Phoenix. rolleyes ...shutting up...My friend was like that. It pissed me off to no end. If you don't want feedback why talk to someone? It's incrediably annoying being treated like a diary. To some. Or most, perhaps. ninja But ne'er assume all are annoyed by such things. The peron who did it to me decided he was gonna solve his women problems by dating the one person who understood him, his "diary". I've been severely short tempered ever since. Edit: On the upside, it inspired one of my favorite poems. biggrin Say no, explain why not? @.@
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:32 pm
Divine_Malevolence Shiori Miko Divine_Malevolence Shiori Miko My friend was like that. It pissed me off to no end. If you don't want feedback why talk to someone? It's incrediably annoying being treated like a diary. To some. Or most, perhaps. ninja But ne'er assume all are annoyed by such things. The peron who did it to me decided he was gonna solve his women problems by dating the one person who understood him, his "diary". I've been severely short tempered ever since. Edit: On the upside, it inspired one of my favorite poems. biggrin Say no, explain why not? @.@ I started getting annoyed about the fifth time I explained why not.
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:33 pm
Whatever, can we just stop talking about this? I get that there are plenty of people who don't want to be "treated like a diary", but I wasn't referring to those people, and anyway I just really want this conversation to end because it's making my stomach hurt a lot.
I'll just quit posting in this thread. Cause that's what I've been doing, using it to vent. I gotta stop venting if I'm ever gonna have friends. And as much as I hate to admit it, I like having those.
@peoplers: It's not as easy as some people make it sound. "Just dump him" may be the ideal course of action, but highly unrealistic. *hugs* Do what you can, because that's all you can do. (I probably heard that somewhere, but I have no clue where. sweatdrop )
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:34 pm
Shiori Miko Divine_Malevolence Shiori Miko Divine_Malevolence Shiori Miko My friend was like that. It pissed me off to no end. If you don't want feedback why talk to someone? It's incrediably annoying being treated like a diary. To some. Or most, perhaps. ninja But ne'er assume all are annoyed by such things. The peron who did it to me decided he was gonna solve his women problems by dating the one person who understood him, his "diary". I've been severely short tempered ever since. Edit: On the upside, it inspired one of my favorite poems. biggrin Say no, explain why not? @.@ I started getting annoyed about the fifth time I explained why not. Did you only give the one reason? ..... Sounds quite odd....
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:36 pm
Kestin Sha Whatever, can we just stop talking about this? I get that there are plenty of people who don't want to be "treated like a diary", but I wasn't referring to those people, and anyway I just really want this conversation to end because it's making my stomach hurt a lot. I'll just quit posting in this thread. Cause that's what I've been doing, using it to vent. I gotta stop venting if I'm ever gonna have friends. And as much as I hate to admit it, I like having those. @peoplers: It's not as easy as some people make it sound. "Just dump him" may be the ideal course of action, but highly unrealistic. *hugs* Do what you can, because that's all you can do. (I probably heard that somewhere, but I have no clue where. sweatdrop ) Only if you truly wish to stop. My eyes shall remain open, though, in the case that you don't.
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:39 pm
peoplers Secret : I fell bad because everyone here keeps telling me to dump my bf and i know i probably should, or at the very least start screaming at him next time i see him... but i just can't. no matter how hard i try to make myself do it i can't!Try listening to your head, not your heart.
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:42 pm
Shiori Miko peoplers Secret : I fell bad because everyone here keeps telling me to dump my bf and i know i probably should, or at the very least start screaming at him next time i see him... but i just can't. no matter how hard i try to make myself do it i can't!Try listening to your head, not your heart. 'm trying!!!! it's just not working crying
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:46 pm
peoplers Shiori Miko peoplers Secret : I fell bad because everyone here keeps telling me to dump my bf and i know i probably should, or at the very least start screaming at him next time i see him... but i just can't. no matter how hard i try to make myself do it i can't!Try listening to your head, not your heart. 'm trying!!!! it's just not working crying Admitting to yourself that it's a bad situation for you is a good start though.
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 3:47 pm
*nods* at least i'm trying. i think a nice discussion next time i see him may help slightly (and the first step is always the hardest)
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 4:50 pm
I may be asexual.... sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 4:52 pm
Neceo I may be asexual.... sweatdrop You (seem to) say it like it's a bad thing.
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Posted: Thu Oct 15, 2009 4:53 pm
Secret: There are a couple people in this guild who I cannot stand due to their personalities. That is all I can say due to the ToS.
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