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 Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 10:40 am
Exxos I don't normally openly ask for avatar critique, but this one is a little outside my norm and I was wondering what people's impressions were. I really like it. It reminds me of a movie I saw once (or was it a show?) where there was this queen that wore the same type of head dress. I like the circle of flames...it somehow shows boldness...and black and purple are two of my fave colors. Good job Exxos.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 2:00 pm
humble_gypsy_traveller Exxos I don't normally openly ask for avatar critique, but this one is a little outside my norm and I was wondering what people's impressions were. I really like it. It reminds me of a movie I saw once (or was it a show?) where there was this queen that wore the same type of head dress. I like the circle of flames...it somehow shows boldness...and black and purple are two of my fave colors. Good job Exxos. It's very striking! You know how sometimes an avy will just really catch your attention? Well that is definitely one that did it for me. 3nodding Plus I also think it's really cool. Hey all you people that signed up for the new rp! It's started now so head on over and get to posting! I barely know what I'm doing so I need more people to watch my back against the scary zombie creatures. sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 3:16 pm
Camwen humble_gypsy_traveller Exxos I don't normally openly ask for avatar critique, but this one is a little outside my norm and I was wondering what people's impressions were. I really like it. It reminds me of a movie I saw once (or was it a show?) where there was this queen that wore the same type of head dress. I like the circle of flames...it somehow shows boldness...and black and purple are two of my fave colors. Good job Exxos. It's very striking! You know how sometimes an avy will just really catch your attention? Well that is definitely one that did it for me. 3nodding Plus I also think it's really cool. Hey all you people that signed up for the new rp! It's started now so head on over and get to posting! I barely know what I'm doing so I need more people to watch my back against the scary zombie creatures. sweatdrop I really want to take part in the rp, but I'm just now going through a really strange depression and I don't want to suddenly fall off the map (in the rp) and have a hard time catching up. Expect me there sometime in the near future though...lets just say I root for the villains! Mwaha! twisted
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 3:51 pm
Well, speaking of the strange depression...I've wanted to talk about it here, but I didn't know how to describe it *takes a deep breath and exhales*. Well here goes nothing...I currently live in a housing situation with people that have mental disabilities, yours truly included (in general, the whole bunch suffer from severe memory problems stemming from a variety of ailments (car accidents, drug related, aneurysms, stroke, etc.). Myself, I was born with a health condition known as Hydrocephalus (in layman's terms it's "water on the brain) which involves access water pressure that bares down on the brain so I had to have a water pump (shunt) inserted in my head when I was a baby.
Okay, getting back on track...so I'm living in this subsidized apartment funded under an organization that helps people with brain injuries. Anyways...when I first arrived there, I was in really bad shape. I was 30lbs under wieght, skinny as a rake, wouldn't eat, always staying in my room, scared to go anywhere because I thought I'd get lost (was moved to a city I was last living in ten years ago), depressed and having the feelings of a newly adopted pet (shy, defensive and keeping to myself a lot). I would only come out of my room to eat and deal with hygene. So two weeks into my getting more comfortable in my surroundings, my worker introduced me to this rec center type place that also helps to treat people with emotional and memory problems. I started to get better, became more sociable, as well as more confident to get out and go places.
A year later, I met this great woman at the rec center and we started getting to know each other better three weeks after we met. I introduced her to my family, they love her and things went great from there. Now, almost a year after meeting her, we've been talking about moving in together. The hitch is...if I move in with her, I loose my spot in the apartment. However things are going great, I've met her kids and her family, they both love me (well, her oldest is still getting comfortable with the idea). Thing is now I'm going through this depression when I don't stay over at her place (which is kinda silly seeing as I stay over at her place 4 days a week, and see her everyday). My worker says to put the thought of moving in with her on the back burner for another year, there might be a bachelor apt opening for me, but they don't know when; though they're working on it. Though me and her are so confident that moving in will work out perfectly and we won't have any problems (with my monthly gov't assist (around something like $900 a month, plus an option for an extra one time move allowance of $2000), and her retirement pension, we'll be more then okay (her rent is $850 all inclusive, and I'll be paying half plus half the groceries). Thing is, I'm the type of person that doesn't speak up and fights for themselves; in this situation, backing up my decision to move in with my g/f. Originally I gave them till November to find me another place or I'm out; then I spoke to my psychologist, and now they have another year. I can't stand my roommates now, and I'm going out of my mind everyday I stay home. gonk crying I don't know what to do. Sorry, I just needed to get this all out...thanks for your patience.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 4:26 pm
Camwen humble_gypsy_traveller Exxos I don't normally openly ask for avatar critique, but this one is a little outside my norm and I was wondering what people's impressions were. I really like it. It reminds me of a movie I saw once (or was it a show?) where there was this queen that wore the same type of head dress. I like the circle of flames...it somehow shows boldness...and black and purple are two of my fave colors. Good job Exxos. It's very striking! You know how sometimes an avy will just really catch your attention? Well that is definitely one that did it for me. 3nodding Plus I also think it's really cool. Hey all you people that signed up for the new rp! It's started now so head on over and get to posting! I barely know what I'm doing so I need more people to watch my back against the scary zombie creatures. sweatdrop LOL. ya i don't know what i'm doing either.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 4:33 pm
humble_gypsy_traveller Well, speaking of the strange depression...I've wanted to talk about it here, but I didn't know how to describe it *takes a deep breath and exhales*. Well here goes nothing...I currently live in a housing situation with people that have mental disabilities, yours truly included (in general, the whole bunch suffer from severe memory problems stemming from a variety of ailments (car accidents, drug related, aneurysms, stroke, etc.). Myself, I was born with a health condition known as Hydrocephalus (in layman's terms it's "water on the brain) which involves access water pressure that bares down on the brain so I had to have a water pump (shunt) inserted in my head when I was a baby. Okay, getting back on track...so I'm living in this subsidized apartment funded under an organization that helps people with brain injuries. Anyways...when I first arrived there, I was in really bad shape. I was 30lbs under wieght, skinny as a rake, wouldn't eat, always staying in my room, scared to go anywhere because I thought I'd get lost (was moved to a city I was last living in ten years ago), depressed and having the feelings of a newly adopted pet (shy, defensive and keeping to myself a lot). I would only come out of my room to eat and deal with hygene. So two weeks into my getting more comfortable in my surroundings, my worker introduced me to this rec center type place that also helps to treat people with emotional and memory problems. I started to get better, became more sociable, as well as more confident to get out and go places. A year later, I met this great woman at the rec center and we started getting to know each other better three weeks after we met. I introduced her to my family, they love her and things went great from there. Now, almost a year after meeting her, we've been talking about moving in together. The hitch is...if I move in with her, I loose my spot in the apartment. However things are going great, I've met her kids and her family, they both love me (well, her oldest is still getting comfortable with the idea). Thing is now I'm going through this depression when I don't stay over at her place (which is kinda silly seeing as I stay over at her place 4 days a week, and see her everyday). My worker says to put the thought of moving in with her on the back burner for another year, there might be a bachelor apt opening for me, but they don't know when; though they're working on it. Though me and her are so confident that moving in will work out perfectly and we won't have any problems (with my monthly gov't assist (around something like $900 a month, plus an option for an extra one time move allowance of $2000), and her retirement pension, we'll be more then okay (her rent is $850 all inclusive, and I'll be paying half plus half the groceries). Thing is, I'm the type of person that doesn't speak up and fights for themselves; in this situation, backing up my decision to move in with my g/f. Originally I gave them till November to find me another place or I'm out; then I spoke to my psychologist, and now they have another year. I can't stand my roommates now, and I'm going out of my mind everyday I stay home. gonk crying I don't know what to do. Sorry, I just needed to get this all out...thanks for your patience. hey my oldest has hydrocephalus. now i know someone who i can talk to about it. =-) . so what is the reason they want you to wait a year?
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 4:59 pm
Wow I'm sorry you're having to go through this. It sounds like you and your g/f have really thought about the details of moving in together - such as the cost. It's not just a spur of the moment kind of thing. What in your opinion is the biggest obstacle to moving in with her? Giving up the housing? If you give up your spot what happens? If you ever need it again are you put at the end of a waiting list or do you lose it entirely?
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 5:01 pm
Teeshann humble_gypsy_traveller Well, speaking of the strange depression...I've wanted to talk about it here, but I didn't know how to describe it *takes a deep breath and exhales*. Well here goes nothing...I currently live in a housing situation with people that have mental disabilities, yours truly included (in general, the whole bunch suffer from severe memory problems stemming from a variety of ailments (car accidents, drug related, aneurysms, stroke, etc.). Myself, I was born with a health condition known as Hydrocephalus (in layman's terms it's "water on the brain) which involves access water pressure that bares down on the brain so I had to have a water pump (shunt) inserted in my head when I was a baby. Okay, getting back on track...so I'm living in this subsidized apartment funded under an organization that helps people with brain injuries. Anyways...when I first arrived there, I was in really bad shape. I was 30lbs under wieght, skinny as a rake, wouldn't eat, always staying in my room, scared to go anywhere because I thought I'd get lost (was moved to a city I was last living in ten years ago), depressed and having the feelings of a newly adopted pet (shy, defensive and keeping to myself a lot). I would only come out of my room to eat and deal with hygene. So two weeks into my getting more comfortable in my surroundings, my worker introduced me to this rec center type place that also helps to treat people with emotional and memory problems. I started to get better, became more sociable, as well as more confident to get out and go places. A year later, I met this great woman at the rec center and we started getting to know each other better three weeks after we met. I introduced her to my family, they love her and things went great from there. Now, almost a year after meeting her, we've been talking about moving in together. The hitch is...if I move in with her, I loose my spot in the apartment. However things are going great, I've met her kids and her family, they both love me (well, her oldest is still getting comfortable with the idea). Thing is now I'm going through this depression when I don't stay over at her place (which is kinda silly seeing as I stay over at her place 4 days a week, and see her everyday). My worker says to put the thought of moving in with her on the back burner for another year, there might be a bachelor apt opening for me, but they don't know when; though they're working on it. Though me and her are so confident that moving in will work out perfectly and we won't have any problems (with my monthly gov't assist (around something like $900 a month, plus an option for an extra one time move allowance of $2000), and her retirement pension, we'll be more then okay (her rent is $850 all inclusive, and I'll be paying half plus half the groceries). Thing is, I'm the type of person that doesn't speak up and fights for themselves; in this situation, backing up my decision to move in with my g/f. Originally I gave them till November to find me another place or I'm out; then I spoke to my psychologist, and now they have another year. I can't stand my roommates now, and I'm going out of my mind everyday I stay home. gonk crying I don't know what to do. Sorry, I just needed to get this all out...thanks for your patience. hey my oldest has hydrocephalus. now i know someone who i can talk to about it. biggrin . so what is the reason they want you to wait a year? First I'll say this...it's comforting for me to finally know someone on Gaia that has experience with it...I've been trying to find a forum or a guild involved those who know of, or have brain injuries. Well my worker and my psychologist say they're "just looking out for me", and as I stated they want me to wait a year so that they might find me an apartment for myself. It's just that my brain injury isn't as bad as the other guys in the apartment. The other guys more have attitude problems and use their brain injuries as excuses to be rude to the other guys in the apartment, push people around as well as be rude to the staff that work in an office in the apartment. As someone who really can't stand for that b/s, it's getting hard for me to just ignore all that crap, but my worker wants me to just be patient and wait till another apartment comes up...but I'm really going out of my mind!
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 5:02 pm
Hmmm... Well, normally I would not be one to speak up on something like this. But if you're confident that it will work out and are miserable where you are at, it is pointing towards you taking the plunge.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 5:05 pm
Camwen Wow I'm sorry you're having to go through this. It sounds like you and your g/f have really thought about the details of moving in together - such as the cost. It's not just a spur of the moment kind of thing. What in your opinion is the biggest obstacle to moving in with her? Giving up the housing? If you give up your spot what happens? If you ever need it again are you put at the end of a waiting list or do you lose it entirely? I get put back on the bottom of the list. My g/f and I have talked about what would happen if it happens that something goes wrong between us, and we break up...however my g/f assured my worker that I wouldn't just be put out on the street...that my g/f would wait till I find another place.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 5:31 pm
humble_gypsy_traveller Camwen Wow I'm sorry you're having to go through this. It sounds like you and your g/f have really thought about the details of moving in together - such as the cost. It's not just a spur of the moment kind of thing. What in your opinion is the biggest obstacle to moving in with her? Giving up the housing? If you give up your spot what happens? If you ever need it again are you put at the end of a waiting list or do you lose it entirely? I get put back on the bottom of the list. My g/f and I have talked about what would happen if it happens that something goes wrong between us, and we break up...however my g/f assured my worker that I wouldn't just be put out on the street...that my g/f would wait till I find another place. I don't know... you guys really sound like you're being sensible. I have to agree with Exxos. And keep in mind that it's probably in your workers best interest to discourage you from doing this since if anything goes wrong it would look badly on them. Ultimately though you'll probably have to fight for what you want even if it's not easy for you. The ability to do that is a good indication you would be able to handle things on your own. I obviously don't know what's best thing to do is. But I really hope you and your g/f and your worker are able to come up with a solution. (((((hugs)))))
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 5:33 pm
Exxos I don't normally openly ask for avatar critique, but this one is a little outside my norm and I was wondering what people's impressions were. I thought it was really cool! You look like a doll that's come to life and is up to... something.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 5:43 pm
humble_gypsy_traveller Camwen Wow I'm sorry you're having to go through this. It sounds like you and your g/f have really thought about the details of moving in together - such as the cost. It's not just a spur of the moment kind of thing. What in your opinion is the biggest obstacle to moving in with her? Giving up the housing? If you give up your spot what happens? If you ever need it again are you put at the end of a waiting list or do you lose it entirely? I get put back on the bottom of the list. My g/f and I have talked about what would happen if it happens that something goes wrong between us, and we break up...however my g/f assured my worker that I wouldn't just be put out on the street...that my g/f would wait till I find another place. Big hugs for you! (Can I have a nickname for you?) Correct me if I'm wrong. but it sounds to me like you're thinking of moving in together not just so you can escape from your crap roommates, but because you want to be together, for the sake of each other, because you make each other happy. That is, it sounds like your main reason for wanting to live together is a really valid one. Leaving a not-excellent living situation would be the bonus, right? You've gotta do what's best for you, first and foremost. 3nodding Take care of yourself.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 6:07 pm
Sammirah humble_gypsy_traveller Camwen Wow I'm sorry you're having to go through this. It sounds like you and your g/f have really thought about the details of moving in together - such as the cost. It's not just a spur of the moment kind of thing. What in your opinion is the biggest obstacle to moving in with her? Giving up the housing? If you give up your spot what happens? If you ever need it again are you put at the end of a waiting list or do you lose it entirely? I get put back on the bottom of the list. My g/f and I have talked about what would happen if it happens that something goes wrong between us, and we break up...however my g/f assured my worker that I wouldn't just be put out on the street...that my g/f would wait till I find another place. Big hugs for you! (Can I have a nickname for you?) Correct me if I'm wrong. but it sounds to me like you're thinking of moving in together not just so you can escape from your crap roommates, but because you want to be together, for the sake of each other, because you make each other happy. That is, it sounds like your main reason for wanting to live together is a really valid one. Leaving a not-excellent living situation would be the bonus, right? You've gotta do what's best for you, first and foremost. 3nodding Take care of yourself. I get a nickname? Yay!! Woohoo!!! xd Partially, it's just that I've screwed up a lot in my life, having a really great g/f and a stable place to live has been the best two things to happen to me in a long time...and I'm really scared about what to do...I mean, my gov't assist won't stop if I move...but I'm just scared that I'll get too comfortable with my g/f and screw it up and be back on the streets (I've moved around 5 times in five years).
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 6:58 pm
humble_gypsy_traveller I get a nickname? Yay!! Woohoo!!! xd Partially, it's just that I've screwed up a lot in my life, having a really great g/f and a stable place to live has been the best two things to happen to me in a long time...and I'm really scared about what to do...I mean, my gov't assist won't stop if I move...but I'm just scared that I'll get too comfortable with my g/f and screw it up and be back on the streets (I've moved around 5 times in five years). i meant like, what can i call you? humble sounds kind of weird. yeah, i think i understand. it's like, you just want something stable, and now you have a chance at that, but there's one more risk involved before you go for it, yeah? scary, but so is life. big hugs.
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