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 Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 4:05 pm
Xeroxer Tamasaki Leiko What defines a strong heart?
I think someone who has a strong heart is able to bring light into other people's life, even at the darkest moments. Someone who, even under horrible circumstances, can smile bright. Even if they cry and break down, they still are hoping for the best.
Someone who is caring, compassionate, and give to others without expecting anything back. Someone who try to always be there for others, and may even sacrifice their own happiness, just to make others happy.
Someone who will always fight for what they believe is right, and not give up. Someone who can help others up when they fall, and can get up when they themselves fall. Someone who can warm up others when they're cold, bringing in the rays of hope others may need.
Someone who is still human, who still suffers from the sins we are all plagued with, but can hold back those desires and instead focus on trying to remain strong for themselves, and the people around them.
I wish that my heart is strong, and that I am a strong person. I think that's my new goal. I tend to disagree. The first part didn't seem right. If they can manage to smile even though there is nothing but dark clouds in their life. They why are they smiling? Who are they smiling for? For their friends, for their parents, for their brothers, for their sisters, for themselves.
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Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 6:18 pm
Spamster Xeroxer Tamasaki Leiko What defines a strong heart?
I think someone who has a strong heart is able to bring light into other people's life, even at the darkest moments. Someone who, even under horrible circumstances, can smile bright. Even if they cry and break down, they still are hoping for the best.
Someone who is caring, compassionate, and give to others without expecting anything back. Someone who try to always be there for others, and may even sacrifice their own happiness, just to make others happy.
Someone who will always fight for what they believe is right, and not give up. Someone who can help others up when they fall, and can get up when they themselves fall. Someone who can warm up others when they're cold, bringing in the rays of hope others may need.
Someone who is still human, who still suffers from the sins we are all plagued with, but can hold back those desires and instead focus on trying to remain strong for themselves, and the people around them.
I wish that my heart is strong, and that I am a strong person. I think that's my new goal. I tend to disagree. The first part didn't seem right. If they can manage to smile even though there is nothing but dark clouds in their life. They why are they smiling? Who are they smiling for? For their friends, for their parents, for their brothers, for their sisters, for themselves.
heart Someone's holding up to their promise they made many weeks ago n_n; But why smile to them? Shouldn't you be open to your family members (With a few exceptions). And not have to summon a smile to keep them content or unaware of your evident unhappiness?
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Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 6:33 pm
Xeroxer Spamster Xeroxer Tamasaki Leiko What defines a strong heart?
I think someone who has a strong heart is able to bring light into other people's life, even at the darkest moments. Someone who, even under horrible circumstances, can smile bright. Even if they cry and break down, they still are hoping for the best.
Someone who is caring, compassionate, and give to others without expecting anything back. Someone who try to always be there for others, and may even sacrifice their own happiness, just to make others happy.
Someone who will always fight for what they believe is right, and not give up. Someone who can help others up when they fall, and can get up when they themselves fall. Someone who can warm up others when they're cold, bringing in the rays of hope others may need.
Someone who is still human, who still suffers from the sins we are all plagued with, but can hold back those desires and instead focus on trying to remain strong for themselves, and the people around them.
I wish that my heart is strong, and that I am a strong person. I think that's my new goal. I tend to disagree. The first part didn't seem right. If they can manage to smile even though there is nothing but dark clouds in their life. They why are they smiling? Who are they smiling for? For their friends, for their parents, for their brothers, for their sisters, for themselves.
heart Someone's holding up to their promise they made many weeks ago n_n; But why smile to them? Shouldn't you be open to your family members (With a few exceptions). And not have to summon a smile to keep them content or unaware of your evident unhappiness? I think you are confusing having a strong heart with being entirely open and honest unconditionally. Having a strong heart certainly encompasses being optimistic in unfortunate situations. By putting a smile on ones face after grieving rather than sulking, they are not only setting a positive example for others, but they are ensuring that their personal loss does not become a problem for those it does not have to become a problem for.
This strength of heart is not necessarily found in telling every single thing that happens to on eperson to their friends or family. General honesty is good; lying is not. SOmeone with a strong heart can certainly confide in others, but moping and bitching constantly --even if they feel like it - in my opinion - makes them somewhat weaker than a person who can confide, grieve, and move on; with a smile on their face.
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Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 6:35 pm
Xeroxer Spamster Xeroxer Tamasaki Leiko What defines a strong heart?
I think someone who has a strong heart is able to bring light into other people's life, even at the darkest moments. Someone who, even under horrible circumstances, can smile bright. Even if they cry and break down, they still are hoping for the best.
Someone who is caring, compassionate, and give to others without expecting anything back. Someone who try to always be there for others, and may even sacrifice their own happiness, just to make others happy.
Someone who will always fight for what they believe is right, and not give up. Someone who can help others up when they fall, and can get up when they themselves fall. Someone who can warm up others when they're cold, bringing in the rays of hope others may need.
Someone who is still human, who still suffers from the sins we are all plagued with, but can hold back those desires and instead focus on trying to remain strong for themselves, and the people around them.
I wish that my heart is strong, and that I am a strong person. I think that's my new goal. I tend to disagree. The first part didn't seem right. If they can manage to smile even though there is nothing but dark clouds in their life. They why are they smiling? Who are they smiling for? For their friends, for their parents, for their brothers, for their sisters, for themselves.
heart Someone's holding up to their promise they made many weeks ago n_n; But why smile to them? Shouldn't you be open to your family members (With a few exceptions). And not have to summon a smile to keep them content or unaware of your evident unhappiness? Yeah, I don't post a lot in this thread, so I thought I would. wink
I think what Leiko posted defines a strong heart. Someone who cares more about others than themselves. Someone who would rather surpress their own unhappiness if it means cheering someone else up. Someone who doesn't mope around in their own misery, and tries to make the best of a situation. Tries to put on a happy face, even if every inch of their body wants to burst out crying. I, personally, find someone who is - at times - "fake," but still a positive role model, always active and personable to be stronger than, say, a "real" person, who says whatever they're thinking and does whatever they want, which - a lot of the time - offends and hurts people.
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Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 7:37 pm
- admits - sweatdrop It seems I was confused. I like how Muzzy defines it. :3
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Posted: Wed Apr 12, 2006 4:15 pm
v.v.v.e.e.n For those who are shunned, I believe they criticize others as mainly an excuse. For why they were shunned. Or maybe they truly believe in their criticisms and they were shunned because they stood up for what they truly believed. It'd depend on what type of shunned you're talking about. If you're just saying in a society, or at school, people might be shunned because they dress differently, like in the convo. But I believe these people find others and once again, ban together solving their lonliness. Personally, I think that if they put up with all this in the first place without conforming to avoid being shunned, they feel pretty good about themselves already and I can rule out that one.
Well, let me ask you a question. What do you wear on an everyday basis? Personally, I wear jeans and a t-shirt and perhaps this might make me look like everybody else at school trying to fit in but I'd argue that I am being myself. I'm not going out of my way to fit in or dress like I do. That's who I am. A girl sensible enough to dress warmly in cold weather and in love with jeans but with a limited budget. What does this get me? Jeans, shirts, and sweaters. I think how we dress isn't really important. True, it might tell us more about someone like in the convo but for those of us who hadn't seen the picture, that "friend" seemed like anyone else I would meet playing gaia.
That leads to another question.
When a gaian posts their picture on gaia, does a person's viewpoint about them change because of how they look? Does this affect them in any way?
What if we were to see xeroxer right now post his picture wearing a speedo, pink mohawk, rainbow stamped on his forward, with a bunch of peircings. Would this change your viewpoint about him?
Naturally, I would say no but to tell the truth, I personally do think it would. Actually, I take that back. After having read all of xeroxer's long posts and insightful opinions, I don't think it would. I already have too strong of an impression of him already. Its his mind that counts, right?
But if I hadn't gotten to known him so well and read all his stuff, then yes, I admit that it would change my impression of him.
I don't know whether or not humans thinking complex is a good thing or not. Well, perhaps not exactly complex, but deep into things they shouldn't concern theirselves with.
What I normally wear? Jeans, sneakers, t-shirts or tanks with sweaters over top that I don't take off. Yes, I agree. Even these normal everyday clothes do seem to make you look as if you're trying to fit in. But it's not just the clothes now. It's about actions as well. Just because a girl dresses like a slut, no offense at all to anyone, doesn't mean she's definitely apart of 'the group.' She may have to take on the habit of drinking and smoking as well.
But yes. Appearance is the biggest factor when forming an image of a person. That is why I rarely show a picture of myself to those who I have met on the internet. But like you said. Once you get to know a person really well, the impact of their appearance do not change their impression of you that drastically. But of course, that is if you're lucky that that person understands that you may not look what they hoped or imagined you to be. Which is why meeting friends over the internet has its good points. You do not get judged if you don't choose to.Xeroxer <3 Vvveen. No, I never mentionned the fright of being alone. No one is becoming someone else. I have a saying: "The want to be unique, makes us common." We're all trying to stand-out. But still be down to the Earth and be able to get other things besides disgusted glances and rude comments of our looks. Others criticize others because they are aloud. Because it's their opinion and their's alone. It's an indirect way of showing their tastes. If they don't like the way you're dressed (and you're dressed all in black for example) then it proves that they don't like you. To repeat another post I did much earlier in this thread. We dress alike sometimes because we are alike. Or we try to be. It's a desperate attempt to fit maybe. We dress alike so we can feel more with the right people, instead of being the middle finger standing upwards from the rest and insulting the other fingers with his audacious action. (How's that for a metaphor wink ) That was fun xD, I wish I could explain better :3 P.s Someone used me as an example. To elaborate and go into maybe more detail from V.v.v.e.e.n post. Even though we tend to disagree, the first thing we gaze in a person before exhanging a word or body language, is their appearence. Because their appearence is related to their tastes. The question that often flaws this theory is: Is it their tastes that affect their look, or their looks that affect their taste (With the influence of his or her gang of friends).
Attempting to fit in... does the human nature require company at some point in their lives? Could we live without another being in the world? Or did we just adapted and accepted the fact that there are others? Nice metaphor. Creates a very clear, vivid image. x3
I believe it's their tastes that affect their looks. For example. I asked my art teacher something today. "What mood did some of your rather gothic students communicate in their art?" He replied that some are rather dark, dank and moody while others do not reflect their feelings or themselves at all. For the ones that did not reflect themselves, I cannot say if they are true goths or not, of course.
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Posted: Thu Apr 13, 2006 4:37 am
sweatdrop I'm at a loss of words, it's either the morning still keeping me from concentrating or I just lost my edge gonk
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Posted: Thu Apr 13, 2006 9:53 am
Xeroxer sweatdrop I'm at a loss of words, it's either the morning still keeping me from concentrating or I just lost my edge gonk Writers usually get writers block so you just need to find something to get you back on track. :]
-xPaperx-
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Posted: Thu Apr 13, 2006 11:12 am
I can build a house then : D (Has a writer's block as well)
o_O; Nothing comes to mind.
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Posted: Thu Apr 13, 2006 4:05 pm
It's okay. Your unblockaged moments have created more inspiration and enlightenment to others than the lack of advice and opinions resulted from your writer's block. ^__^
If that made any sense at all. O__o
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Posted: Fri Apr 14, 2006 11:50 am
Times when we are naked inside our fear.
Where time stops to fly, year by year.
At the abyss, I hear your cheer,
For all to sneer, loud and clear...
A man once told me we should pray as our first priority, and not our last result.
And although I can't agree, It also tells us that the things we should do everyday are saved for last and only during desperate times...
- Sigh - Love sure has it's perks and it's downers. I'm sort of hoping for no comments on this one. Just either a wow, or that's not right... Personal? No, anyone can agree or disagree on this subject.
When love is young, the air is sweet,
Forbidden fruit is all we eat.
And August Moons is our conceit. When love stays young...
I think I can state without a care that we have to start loving someone. Feelings arise, blood pulses shake and our eyes swell up with amazement as the one we've known for so long... becomes someone else to you. Something better. Something riskier...
When love is young,
The glass is full.
No empty chairs against those silenced walls...
When we're young, we tried, we fail. We try some more and experiment. I think this is the greatest time and I also feel I skipped it.
A slogan for my life is: Those who are new, feel sorry for me. Those I lost contact with... regret it. And it's not catchy as my other sayings or statements, but it's very true. My life is a wreck. But it's fragile like a glass rose. You come to adore my thoughts my beings, my creativty and my production.
Throughout my experience, there is always a good side to the bad. Because failure is an event, never a person. A step back so you can leap farther forward.
Despite the constant effort we make to keep our tries of love afloat, it doesn't last forever. And at some point, before or during your new relationship, you are thankful it was over. Thankful because you didn't waste too much time? Maybe... depends. Or thankful because everything you tested in that previous relationship can either be re-done or shouldn't be done.
Ah, sometimes I get so sick of just staring. Staring of what I could've had or could have? No... tired of wasting my time with fears. That's what holds a lot of us back. And also keeps us from making dumb moves as well. It helps to be cautious and safe. It also helps us think and resolve problems more easily and from afar. But it also wastes many chances.
Right now, while I'm mind is not on her... I can think so clearly. I'm safew from her indirect lure of desire, of lust. Here, I can easily say: The worst choice you can pick is not taking that chance at all (something like that).
But, when I am at arm's reach. Feeling her rosey cheeks against my damped and impatient hands... I get queasy with unassureness. Reassurance is what I need, not courage. Courage is what you muster up to meet her. Reassurance is what you combine to actually ask her.
((No, I didn't ask anyone to go out with me.))
To finish up, I'd like to say that I want a love where feelings are mutual. And understanding with a gaze in her bloomed eyes. Where people go: "Are you going out, is she your girlfriend." and I can wave them off like moths and reply at ease: "No, no she's not. I just love her." From there I can walk past their perplexed feelings with pride and happiness. I want a love where we aren't tackled or side-tracted by titles or standards of others.
Alas, it seems she has falled for someone else, or so I suspect. Over-analysis is my problem at times... and I enjoy it when it really helps...
Love reborn from the cradle, warm.
A web is spun, where we lie sweet under the sun.
Life goes on, like a spinning wheel,
Like a lily, never ready to peel.
Beside, nothing needed to say,
I think it's obvious... I was king for another day.
I don't want comments, I want spectators of what I just wrote today...
Making everlasting footprints in the sand,
Hardly royal, hardly grand.
To end it all, I dare to say,
that your hearts are split,
Easily and happily on the purest silk...
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Posted: Sat Apr 15, 2006 5:08 pm
- Slaps page back up to the top - sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Apr 16, 2006 5:44 pm
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Posted: Sun Apr 16, 2006 5:58 pm
So i've been thinking...
First about kisses. Especially first kisses. What would a first kiss ideal be? I think it would be a total waste for someone to have their first kiss forced upon them by "spin the bottle" or a dare game. i know someone in my chinese school class had that happen to him (he's like, six) and he's proud of it. he was bragging to everone in the class. I witnessed a game of spin the bottle and it is one of the most disgusting things i've EVER seen. Many people can't wait to get their first kiss i suppose. But is it right to jump the bandwagon? I've thought of ideals for a first kiss (is that strange?) and none of them would i have EVER imagined a bottle or a dare involved. Girls at my school are making out every chance they get- during the walking period between classes, lunch, free periods... one girl was making out with her boyfriend and when the class bell rung she said, in the plainest tone possible "oh, there's the bell, i better go." Is that what's supposed to happen? Kiss so frequently with your boyfriend/girlfriend until it becomes expected? My ideal has always been hugs for showing affection and kisses reserved for special occasions. Some people get REALLY excited from mouth to mouth kisses, but i was so giddy and happy and utterly excited from a peck on the cheek from my boyfriend.
And again on the relationship topic, what should my friend do? he recently broke up with his girlfriend, but she's being incredibly clingy. He's friends with me and another girl, and during orchestra she GLARES at me and the other girl, then the boy, then us, then him, then us, then him. But he broke up with her with VERY good reason. She tried (many times) for him to have sex with her. He didn't want to (duh) and was very nervous around her after that. there were also many incidents of her trying to get him to make out wiht her. He's so scared of her that he won't come to talk to her face to face now. What should he do? I've recommended them talking, but no action still. The girl is trying to get back together with him (in the creepiest of ways)
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Posted: Sun Apr 16, 2006 6:03 pm
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