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You'll get dumped in a heartbeat then, if she were anything like the pro-choicers I know.

I've never been in such a situation, so I'm not sure how I would react, but I do have friends who have varying beliefs to mine. As long as they don't try to 'convert' me, I'm fine. I'm happy to discuss my beliefs with them, and I'm interested in theirs - I'd be open to 'conversion' myself if someone put across a good enough point.

If my boyfriend were pro-choice, I don't think I'd care as long as - if I got pregnant - he didn't try to force his beliefs on me. I would respect his beliefs though.

Sadly enough, I was dating a pro-choice guy, and it actually became a valid issue.

I told him I was having it, and if he didn"t like that, he was free to take a hike.

He didn"t, and as much as he objected, he stuck with me.

4+ years later, he says he"s still pro-choice, and even though I don"t agree with his reasons, I try to be as understanding as possible. However, it gives me great satisfaction to hear him verbally acknowledge that his "views on the subject have changed considerably since Magdalena was born." I just take that as, "You were right, dear."

whee

Hmm . . . I suppose there would be more problems with a pro-choice girl going out with a pro-life guy, if she chose to abort. In the case of a pro-choice guy going out with a pro-life girl, well, if he's pro-choice, he'd be like 'Well, it's up to you' so, no problem.

So, no problem found with pro-choice guys dating pro-life women then?

Well, there is the problem that there are men out there who will try really hard to get women to abort when they don't want to, not necessarily to be mean, but because they think it's best for both of them. There are people out there who are pro-choice just because they don't want to deal with having children but they want to have sex.

It becomes a problem for a woman when her partner keeps pressuring her into an abortion, especially if he gets really mean about it. There are examples of women who abort only because their partner wheedled and shoved and manipulated. Three years ago, when I was dating someone who wasn't very nice, if he had gotten me pregnant, I'm virtually positive I would've had an abortion, even though I was pro-life then (not as much as I am now, but still). Doing anything else would have been "selfish" and "irresponsible." I'd let my family down, you see, and what about him? How could I possibly do that to him? He said all of those things to me when we discussed the possibility.

Yeah. he was a real gem rolleyes I wish I could say I was the only one who's dated someone like that...but I know I'm not. You can go to Silent No More and look through personal accounts. Some people have stories worse than that about being coerced into an abortion. I've seen women say they were threatened, too, with violence and even deaththreats.

If you date the right pro-choice guy, the issue won't come up...but if you date someone who isn't really pro-choice in spirit, just in politics, it can be an issue.

I'm going out with one of those. Well, except it would pretty much kill him if I aborted his children, but if it's what I really wanted, he wouldn't stand in my way.

He's for abortion being an option, but he thinks it should be used responsibly, and not later on in the pregnancy.

my goodness I LOVE this post. Can't say I've met a man like that it's always

"Well it's her decision"

or

"If it's rape fine, it's not my baby."

... If you don't love your child to want to save it's life, I sure as hell don't trust a man to support the child even if I did keep it. If I were to go out with someone they'd deffinately need to show me they care about kids.

personally, i find killing unborn children more assholish than not wanting a kid sweatdrop