Hikari Aijuntani
PRO-LIFE
If you donh't want the baby in the first place, then don't have sex. ITs that simple. If you believe you're mature enough to have sex then you should be mature enough to handle a pregnancy and child.
I honestly do not understand all you people in punishment camp. What logical process has to go on in your head that morally justifies using pregnancy, childbirth, and in some cases parenting; the genesis of a new human life that will think and feel and want and need… as punishment to those who you have deigned transgressors? You say that baby making is a responsibility tied to sex. Many people believe that this is simply untrue, since we have LONG had technology that separates sex and pregnancy.
And I'm sorry but not every woman has the funds to carry a pregnancy to term and birth.
The average cost of an American birth : $8,800
"Nationally, a vaginal delivery cost $7,737, with C-sections averaging about $11,000."
Mind you, that doesn’t include the cost of prenatal care, which is only covered if you are lucky enough to have health insurance and if your insurance includes prenatal care. Many plans do not.
An abortion in the US generally costs between $300 and $700 dollars, depending on your location, the type of abortion you’re getting, what clinic you go to, whether or not you can receive financial aid, so on and so forth.
Hikari Aijuntani
Even if you don't want the child or aren't in a position to take care of one there's a lot of options for you and your baby, one the obvious ones being adoption. Is it the best situation? No, but its better than killing a human life.
Adoption is the solution to unwanted parenting, not unwanted pregnancy. In order to place a child for adoption, one must first carry it to term and undergo all the physical, psychological, and sociological ramifications of that process. It’s generally a very much life-altering experience, it makes you undergo physical changes, many of them permanent, it alters your brain chemistry, and don’t forget, unless you cloister yourself away for the entire duration, it causes all kinds of social speculation among your friends, family, coworkers, acquaintances, strangers on the street, etc. Imagine being pregnant unintentionally with every intention of forking the infant over to waiting adoptee parents upon its birth. What do you think every time some random person lays their hand on your abdomen on the subway and congratulates you?
And adoption doesn't necessarily assure you the knowledge that the child that you created will be cared for and provided for and raised in a way that you would agree with. You might never have contact with the child again, knowing only that you created one, not whether it is well, or whether it is even alive. The current system of adoption in this country is deplorable, and until every single orphanage and foster home worldwide is empty and there's still a massive demand for children, adoption has proven itself not to be the end-all-be-all fixit solution. While I feel for the plight of the childless who seek offspring, it is not the job of the unintentionally pregnant to play broodmares for them.
For every shiny new baby you add to the system, another existing child doesn’t get adopted.
Meet Robin and Tyshonia .
http://photolisting.adoption.com/foster-adoption/children/robin-11041
http://photolisting.adoption.com/foster-adoption/children/tyshonia+++-10782
They need a family. If I give birth to a perfect, healthy, newborn, and a loving family adopts it, that's one less family who will consider adopting Robin and Tyshonia.
Hikari Aijuntani
And don't give me the argument of "What is the woman is raped?"; cuz then I'll respond as such: A) It's not the childs' fault that the mother was raped, the child should still be given a chance to have a fruitful life regardless of the means of conception and B) Less than 1% of all rape cases result in a pregnancy.
So, a woman gets raped and then pregnant. Adoption is a perfectly viable option. However, the woman still has to endure nine months of pregnancy.
Think about it for a moment. The entire concept of rape goes as follows: something was put inside of you that you were powerless to remove. The resulting mental scarring (oh yes, there WILL be mental scarring) will focus on a complex based on control/power, due to the fact that when she was raped, the woman had none.
Now think about pregnancy. Inside that very same space is something alien, something the woman cannot control, something put there by the man who stole her power and self-esteem, that she is powerless to remove.
Imagine being raped for nine months solid. I know it's not the same thing, but in the ruins of the woman's mind, it might as well be. It could drive her rather permanently insane.
So what's more important? The life of a woman who's already grown and lived and loved and developed a full and rich personality, or the life of a wad of cells? Would you prefer that the cells die and the woman eventually recovers, or that the cells live and mature into a baby while the woman is so heavily mentally impacted that she will probably never recover?
I'd say it is far, far more important to preserve a life that already exists rather than ruin it, and create a new one. That's like saying that it's okay to chop down a 2000-year-old sequoia and plant a sapling in its place. Yes, that sapling might POTENTIALLY become a 2000-year-old giant ... but then again, it might not. And we've already got this beautiful tree.
And then you get the tricky dilemma of a woman who was raped or otherwise abused in the past, and still traumatized from the experience.
A common behavior pattern of a victim suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder induced by rape is to become promiscuous as a self-defense mechanism; she has "proof" that both she and her body are worthless, so therefore there's no harm to be had in having lots of sex. She sleeps around as a form of self-validation, attempting to support what little remains of her self-esteem but failing each time because she puts herself into a situaiton where she is only used. Since she is unable to form emotional connections, any time a benevolent partner might enter her life with the possibility of love, she ups and runs and tries again. It's a cycle that most never break out of. She repeats the pattern over and over, each time trying to make it work right and failing. For an example, in the movie "Forrest Gump," the history is inaccurate but the behavior patterns of the character Jenny, who was abused by her father, are a classic case.
It's very likely that a woman in such a pattern might become pregnant, since she'll often have so little regard for herself that protection seems unimportant. And so even though that particular sexual act was 'consensual,' she'll probably be just as unable to carry a baby as the aforementioned pregnancy-from-rape case, even if it's years later.
Hikari Aijuntani
The mother and father should have choices, but so should the child. Why should one person's choice override another's? 99% of the time the parents make the CHOICE to have sex, they made the CHOICE to use protection that isn't 100% perfect, and they made the CHOICE to continue in a mature act.
My choice overrides the other's because my uterus belongs to ME. My body belongs to ME. I should be allowed to make my own personal medical decisions about my body without interference.
No other human has the right to use another human's body without their express and ongoing consent. I do not give a fetus consent to reside within me causing permanent physical, psychological and emotional changes to my body.
Hikari Aijuntani
I'm not seeing choices being taken away except for the childs'.
Please, feel free to ask the fetus whether it wants to live or die, I can guarantee you will not receive a response. For one to make choices one must be a sentient and conscious being. I'm sure you'll agree with me that a coma victim cannot make their own choices for themselves due to lack of consciousness.
