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 Posted: Tue May 10, 2005 11:02 pm
Okay...
When my dad was stationed in Ft. Bragg he speant more time gone than he was there. He was in communications so he tended to go out to field a lot. It's something you just have to deal with.
Please try to make your posts more legible. I had a hard time reading it.
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 9:56 am
lunashock Rorek, that sounds just like my husband. He has 4 years of college (yet no degree, but enough hours for a degree) and started off as an E-3. Good for him!
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 10:39 am
downninjettewa hey there. i m new around here, but a military wife with two young children. im only 21. my two kids are 8 months and four years old. baby boy, big sissie......my husband is in the navy.......be glad the army guys only go out for a while.....mine has a never ending career of leaving us. he was gone for almost my entire pregnancy.........was not home for the birth......and was gone again after only three weeks of being home......not to mention that im from texas and we are stationed in washington........no family...........no friends......i was alone in the hospital when i had my son.....and my four(three at the time) year old was there with me.....the nurses kept her during the labor.......i kept her in my room after he was born........tough work..........i know what you mean about the vacation......a lot of places you can call and pay with your card now for your bills........my husband was gone for six months over with the tsunami victims( the deployment after the baby was born), got home at the a** end of feb. and is due to leave again in about two weeks.....so much to do......so little family time......leaving just as my son is starting to walk and talk.......he is missing out on so much........ First off, welcome! Sorry to hear about your husband being gone so much that must really be tough. Are you in Washington state? 'Cause that's where I am. Hope you get to enjoy some family time before he goes.
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 12:25 pm
Burnt Glitter Okay...
When my dad was stationed in Ft. Bragg he speant more time gone than he was there. He was in communications so he tended to go out to field a lot. It's something you just have to deal with.
Please try to make your posts more legible. I had a hard time reading it. was that an attempt to respond to what i wrote? i know that its what you have to deal with, but it doesnt make it any easier........not trying to be rude......its also different when its your husband.........i can deal with my parents not being around to keep me company, but i dont like my kids being so young without their dad....are you going through something like that so that you can relate???????
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 12:32 pm
downninjettewa was that an attempt to respond to what i wrote? i know that its what you have to deal with, but it doesnt make it any easier........not trying to be rude......its also different when its your husband.........i can deal with my parents not being around to keep me company, but i dont like my kids being so young without their dad....are you going through something like that so that you can relate??????? Glitter was probably very young like your YOUNG kids when her dad was consistenly gone. I don't have a husband in the Military but I REMEMBER being so sad and afraid when my dad (in the airforce) was gone for MONTHS and MONTHS at a time and there wasn't even a war going on. It was just for stupid field work. Just because someone doesn't share the exact same life experience as you doesn't mean they can't relate to you or understand you.
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 1:36 pm
I think Glitter was making a point that you can't really say that "Navy wives" have it harder than anyone else. You did say we should be GLAD that army guys "only go out for a little while."
I know it's way easier on me than it is Logan. I chose to marry my husband. I knew full and well what we were getting into when he joined. It's part of being a spouse. But the littles ones have trouble understanding and dealing with it. Just because it's not the same exact situation doesn't mean they can't understand or that you have it "harder" than other people.
I went through most of my pregnancy without my husband too, it happens and it sucks, but what doesn't kill us makes us damn strong people!
Also, not to be a nag, but it does say on the front page of the forum to make an attempt to use good typing skills. Ellipses can be abused.
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 1:54 pm
downninjettewa hey there. i m new around here, but a military wife with two young children. im only 21. my two kids are 8 months and four years old. baby boy, big sissie......my husband is in the navy.......be glad the army guys only go out for a while.....mine has a never ending career of leaving us. he was gone for almost my entire pregnancy.........was not home for the birth......and was gone again after only three weeks of being home......not to mention that im from texas and we are stationed in washington........no family...........no friends......i was alone in the hospital when i had my son.....and my four(three at the time) year old was there with me.....the nurses kept her during the labor.......i kept her in my room after he was born........tough work..........i know what you mean about the vacation......a lot of places you can call and pay with your card now for your bills........my husband was gone for six months over with the tsunami victims( the deployment after the baby was born), got home at the a** end of feb. and is due to leave again in about two weeks.....so much to do......so little family time......leaving just as my son is starting to walk and talk.......he is missing out on so much........ Welcome. First off, I'm going to start editing your posts FOR YOU, if you can't at least stop the Ellipse abuse. Second, yes, military life sucks. FOR ALL BRANCHES. I don't appreciate you saying that us Army wives have it easier. Let's see, my husband and I got married three days before he left for Iraq 01 April 2003. He came home last March , and left for another deployment this January. He won't be home until some time next year. My first pregnancy was spent husbandless, my second child is lucky to see her daddy for more than a few months at a time due to schooling, field exercizes, and other day/week long duties. So no, the Navy doesn't have it harder than the Army, Air Force, Marines. WE ALL GET SCREWED! Third, we're here to provide help and support as far as we can. One does not have to be married to the military to understand how much it sucks. We've got spouses, soldiers, children, parents, grandparent here that are/were attatched to the military in some way. We've all had our experiences. So just because their experiences aren't identical to yours, doesn't mean they don't know what they're talking about. It just means they have a different perspective to the situation.
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 9:22 pm
o_o Um, wow, go away for a day and it gets heated in here. Seems like everywhere I go right now it's like this. Must be the weather or something. xD
It's really not fair or right to try and argue who has it worse: all branches of the military have unique aspects to them and while stereotypically army soldiers are home more often then naval ones, it's not always the case. There were a bunch of them here from Hood that were about to come home from their year in Korea and were shipped directly to Iraq for another straight year with no family time. It really depends on what they do and who they're stationed with. Every soldier's experience is different.
I know I have my own ideas about the other branches and how they work and most likely, they're wrong. xDD Stereotypes are funny that way. I try to keep an open mind about them so I can learn.
Other then that, welcome, I think you're our first Navy wife in here. Maybe someday I should make a list of everyone.
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 10:08 pm
Nopenname downninjettewa was that an attempt to respond to what i wrote? i know that its what you have to deal with, but it doesnt make it any easier........not trying to be rude......its also different when its your husband.........i can deal with my parents not being around to keep me company, but i dont like my kids being so young without their dad....are you going through something like that so that you can relate??????? Glitter was probably very young like your YOUNG kids when her dad was consistenly gone. I don't have a husband in the Military but I REMEMBER being so sad and afraid when my dad (in the airforce) was gone for MONTHS and MONTHS at a time and there wasn't even a war going on. It was just for stupid field work. Just because someone doesn't share the exact same life experience as you doesn't mean they can't relate to you or understand you.
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Posted: Thu May 12, 2005 9:26 am
Well, it's nice to see that you guys took my email the wrong way. I wasn't in any way trying to say that I had it any harder than any of you. I was actually asking her a question when I said "are you going through something that you can relate". I was just saying "HI" and wanting to let you guys in on my experience and where I am right now. I have perfectly good typing skills and don't need anyone to correct it for me. I came to this guild to try and get away from all of the childish badmouthing. I would appreciate it if you guys would get off my back. I was seriously just trying to say hello and let you in on some of my history so that anyone who could relate could help out.
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Posted: Thu May 12, 2005 12:19 pm
The people who offered to correct your typing are all moderators for this guild and it is in the rules to do the best job you can and be coherent in typing. We understand typos, they happen. But if we can't understand what you're trying to say it's going to be hard for us to respond with quality answers. I'm sorry you take offense to that and find it childish, but it is in our rules so please do your best to abide by them. We've been cracking down on it in general lately so it's not just you.
Perhaps that is what caused the misunderstanding of what you were trying to communicate in your original post? ( I read it through twice myself and also interpretted it that way.)
Everyone in this thread can relate to your experiences and will help as best we can, but please understand that we will take offense if it seems we're being belittled or told we can't understand. We're all going through similar things and it can be trying, but with support we all can do it.
Now please play nice in here...all of you. xd
Chris will be home soon. *bounces around*
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Posted: Thu May 12, 2005 12:27 pm
Rorek Thanks! smile He shipped off for Boot Camp this last Monday or was supposed to but I have yet to hear from him. The recruiters and the video they showed said he was supposed to get a five minute phone call sometime that first day. I should have gotten that call yesterday I think because there were flight complications on Monday. I'm a bit concerned, but hoping it's nothing to worry about. ^^; He's going to miss our 2 year anniversary. It's May 13th. I'm glad he's doing something responsible for himself and us, but I'm missing him alot too.. sweatdrop Well, I know Chris never got one that first day. It really depends on where he's doing his BCT. The entire time he was in basic he got 3 phone calls I think and the first two were under 5 minutes and only the third was 15 minutes like they were supposed to get. @_@ It caused a lot of problems with my now MIL who was convinced he was supposed to get one 15 minute phone call a week and just assumed he was calling me without even asking. Oh, and happy anniversary tomorrow! surprised
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Posted: Thu May 12, 2005 1:29 pm
I wasnt aware of the moderators corrections, but thats not what I found childish, and was in no way offended by it. I have had several other people read my post, and found no way to be offended by it. One of them is even married to a man in the army. I found it childish the way that so many people were ready to jump on the bandwagon. I dont see how me sharing my experience was belittling to anyone, and I never once said that no one else could understand. I know very well how we can all relate and wasnt expecting to be attacked by so many people for letting them into my life. I dont see how I wasnt "playing nice".
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Posted: Thu May 12, 2005 1:39 pm
And to set the record straight, I never once said that Army wives have it better than Navy wives. I know that we all have it hard, especially with the craziness over in Iraq. Im sorry that you all took such offense to it. I wasnt stating what was going on in my life to try and compare mine to anyone elses. I wasnt looking for pity or for anyone to try and tell me that they had it worse. Like I said before, it was just a way to let people know where I am in life right now.
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Posted: Fri May 13, 2005 9:12 am
Neko girl Manda Rorek Thanks! smile He shipped off for Boot Camp this last Monday or was supposed to but I have yet to hear from him. The recruiters and the video they showed said he was supposed to get a five minute phone call sometime that first day. I should have gotten that call yesterday I think because there were flight complications on Monday. I'm a bit concerned, but hoping it's nothing to worry about. ^^; He's going to miss our 2 year anniversary. It's May 13th. I'm glad he's doing something responsible for himself and us, but I'm missing him alot too.. sweatdrop Well, I know Chris never got one that first day. It really depends on where he's doing his BCT. The entire time he was in basic he got 3 phone calls I think and the first two were under 5 minutes and only the third was 15 minutes like they were supposed to get. @_@ It caused a lot of problems with my now MIL who was convinced he was supposed to get one 15 minute phone call a week and just assumed he was calling me without even asking. Oh, and happy anniversary tomorrow! surprised
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