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 Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2006 5:04 pm
BlacksandBlues You mentioned this before in a previous post... And I find that sad. Mainly because I've grown up the opposite. True, like you already know, I have my... differences with my parents, but after all these years of being close and reliant on them, it's difficult imagining life without them, having a life without the word "family" attached to my head. sweatdrop In a sense, though it's kind of your fault, I mainly blame the parents for your relationship with them.... I'm so tired right now I can't be bothered to say why, but it's probably comprehensible, what I'm trying to say, right?? sad I'm so tired... Anyway, I can see why you barely spend/spent any time with your parents; many Chinese adults own takeaways, and many have their children help out. My dad's an accountant; the majority of his clients are Chinese who own takeaways, lol, so yeah.... I should know. I even do some of the accounts sometimes. xd So boring. Trust me, try not to become an accountant when you're older... My poor dad works his a** off... sweatdrop Even though my dad and mum are both workaholics, like, my dad hasn't got a choice, my mum just works like hell.... They still spend time with me, and they value that time, I know. They're good at balancing both equations, and I am grateful for that, because it made me, me, and gave me a good childhood with supportive (but annoying and overprotective) parents. We don't often get to go to the cinema or go shopping together as a family anymore, cause with the exception of Ken, my lil' bro *hugs Ken*, we're all freaking tied up and darn busy every day. Well, Ken has loads of activities too, but still being in primary school and having his entrance exams over, he's pretty laid back right now... 3nodding We usually just make up for lost time during the summer hols, the easter hols and stuff... biggrin Hmmm well you seem to cherish your time you spend with your parents. My bro and I hate being around them. They do try and make it up to us occasionally, but even then it's just to appease us. They don't enjoy going to the cinema or anywhere else with us, it's just a show to make it look like we're a family, when we're clearly not. Take the cinema for example, my dad usually falls asleep and my mum never knows what's going on in the movie. It's just pointless. And even when they're taking time off from work they always say they'd rather be out there working, earning money than moping around the house with us. But as you said, our childhood's are all different... this is just the way mine has always been.
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Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2006 5:14 pm
Tokioka BlacksandBlues You mentioned this before in a previous post... And I find that sad. Mainly because I've grown up the opposite. True, like you already know, I have my... differences with my parents, but after all these years of being close and reliant on them, it's difficult imagining life without them, having a life without the word "family" attached to my head. sweatdrop In a sense, though it's kind of your fault, I mainly blame the parents for your relationship with them.... I'm so tired right now I can't be bothered to say why, but it's probably comprehensible, what I'm trying to say, right?? sad I'm so tired... Anyway, I can see why you barely spend/spent any time with your parents; many Chinese adults own takeaways, and many have their children help out. My dad's an accountant; the majority of his clients are Chinese who own takeaways, lol, so yeah.... I should know. I even do some of the accounts sometimes. xd So boring. Trust me, try not to become an accountant when you're older... My poor dad works his a** off... sweatdrop Even though my dad and mum are both workaholics, like, my dad hasn't got a choice, my mum just works like hell.... They still spend time with me, and they value that time, I know. They're good at balancing both equations, and I am grateful for that, because it made me, me, and gave me a good childhood with supportive (but annoying and overprotective) parents. We don't often get to go to the cinema or go shopping together as a family anymore, cause with the exception of Ken, my lil' bro *hugs Ken*, we're all freaking tied up and darn busy every day. Well, Ken has loads of activities too, but still being in primary school and having his entrance exams over, he's pretty laid back right now... 3nodding We usually just make up for lost time during the summer hols, the easter hols and stuff... biggrin Hmmm well you seem to cherish your time you spend with your parents. My bro and I hate being around them. They do try and make it up to us occasionally, but even then it's just to appease us. They don't enjoy going to the cinema or anywhere else with us, it's just a show to make it look like we're a family, when we're clearly not. Take the cinema for example, my dad usually falls asleep and my mum never knows what's going on in the movie. It's just pointless. And even when they're taking time off from work they always say they'd rather be out there working, earning money than moping around the house with us. But as you said, our childhood's are all different... this is just the way mine has always been. Well, I admit I love my parents very much... And I do cherish that time... usually... xd Not when we're arguing like hell. gonk sad cry I know how much they don't understand me, how much they don't get me, cause I don't understand them AT ALL. Different generations, different countries, different people. A different childhood, with different oppurtunities and different perspectives. We're so different with our opinions. And they always think they're right, it pisses me off so much. However, even with that gap between us, I'm still close. I feel sad knowing that there IS a gap between us; I grew up naive and silly, thinking that soul mates existed, siblings were your best friends (clearly not, in my friends' cases) and that parents were your closest kin, ish. They ARE my closest kin, true, but not in mind... That makes me sad, but I accept it. There have been many times as well that I dreamed that my parents had gone, or my brother (which was very recent, mind you), and on the latter, I woke up... scared and still dreaming, lol... And thinking back on that feeling... I felt... really really sad, like a part had been ripped out of me. In the dream, though the situation wasn't real, the feelings were, and I could remember it all so clearly, that empty, lonely feeling... I don't know what I'd do with my bro. So I started crying for a sec, then stopped myself, and went downstairs... I'd gotten up early due to waking up from the nightmare/dream. I then saw my mum, who was in the kitchen, and we said the usual good mornings, and then I couldn't stop myself, and started crying. Lasted for a while and I think I freaked my mum out, lol... Happened when I was around ten as well, but that dream wasn't technically them dying, but about them GOING to die when they get old, and I was imagining what the hell I would do without them, not being able to see them ever again... Set of my baby waterworks. xd Okay, I think I am delirious... Why am I talking about this? *leaves* I'm sorry... I'll stop rambling now....
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Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2006 5:29 pm
Awww... the cute lil baby's crying razz -pinches B&B's cheek-
Well just cherish what you've got, you sound fairly happy. Just enjoy it while it's still there. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2006 5:39 pm
Tokioka Awww... the cute lil baby's crying razz -pinches B&B's cheek- Well just cherish what you've got, you sound fairly happy. Just enjoy it while it's still there. 3nodding Yeah, I do... I try to anyway. But I take things for granted. sweatdrop Them included. Meh?! whee I'm squishy but NOT pinchy! (That's probably not a word, lol).
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Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 8:00 am
*read BB's words*
awww.. dont worry.. it's just a dream...
u know... i ever dreamt that my mum died... and i was so sooo afraid... x_x
and like you... i love my family so much too.. i cannot live without them... they are my life.. they are whom i live for...
i've never been beaten before for i always listen to my parents..
i am obedient... but i was once slapped across.. >< becoz at one stage i went through depression... and she kinda brought me back to reality
anyway, sometimes i think im really lucky, although my parents are separated, but when i see other families, they go through the worst...
my mum may have been strict on me, over-protective, invade my privacy,... etc but when i put myself in my mum's position... i think i would do the same coz i will be worried for my child and want the best for him/her... sometimes they may not understand how we feel... but we know that whatever they do... it is for our own good...
sometimes we do not see the sacrifices they have made... but as i grow older... u will then to realised they have done so much for you...
i've seen so many families.... their mums... even a simple thing like cooking lunch or dinner... they will put so much thought and love into it.. yet the children failed to appreciate this simple love... deciding what to cook is not that easy.. geez. sometimes i dont even know what to eat.. xD so you can imagine mothers.. ^^
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however, i've this friend (not really that close)...but she was my long ago neighbour and childhood friend...
she was the oldest among the three daughters, and i heard that the mother dislike her coz she was fat...
i heard from my neighbour friends, that she often got caned.. that even the below neighbour could hear the canning sound... and the sounds of canning were so loud u could hear the wooden stick actually broke into half.. kinda scary...
i feel that this kind of treatment is horrible...
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Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 1:27 pm
soumakisa *read BB's words* awww.. dont worry.. it's just a dream... u know... i ever dreamt that my mum died... and i was so sooo afraid... x_x and like you... i love my family so much too.. i cannot live without them... they are my life.. they are whom i live for... i've never been beaten before for i always listen to my parents.. i am obedient... but i was once slapped across.. >< becoz at one stage i went through depression... and she kinda brought me back to reality anyway, sometimes i think im really lucky, although my parents are separated, but when i see other families, they go through the worst... my mum may have been strict on me, over-protective, invade my privacy,... etc but when i put myself in my mum's position... i think i would do the same coz i will be worried for my child and want the best for him/her... sometimes they may not understand how we feel... but we know that whatever they do... it is for our own good... sometimes we do not see the sacrifices they have made... but as i grow older... u will then to realised they have done so much for you... i've seen so many families.... their mums... even a simple thing like cooking lunch or dinner... they will put so much thought and love into it.. yet the children failed to appreciate this simple love... deciding what to cook is not that easy.. geez. sometimes i dont even know what to eat.. xD so you can imagine mothers.. ^^ --- however, i've this friend (not really that close)...but she was my long ago neighbour and childhood friend... she was the oldest among the three daughters, and i heard that the mother dislike her coz she was fat... i heard from my neighbour friends, that she often got caned.. that even the below neighbour could hear the canning sound... and the sounds of canning were so loud u could hear the wooden stick actually broke into half.. kinda scary... i feel that this kind of treatment is horrible... I do understand it from my parents POV sometimes, Kisa-chan, and yesh, I think like that too, however... It's difficult when it's against your own parents, it's difficult when it's your life they're messing with even when you tell them you're fine, and it's difficult because I want to make a stand. I mean, if a parent was beating you because they think it's "for your own good", then you wouldn't want to stand for it... It's the same principle for me and my parents. I just want to speak up for myself, but they nearly always turn into heated arguments. And that sort of treatment is illegal over here now... That shouldn't happen wherever it's happening - it's terribly cruel. Should be stopped.
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Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 9:56 pm
BlacksandBlues soumakisa *read BB's words* awww.. dont worry.. it's just a dream... u know... i ever dreamt that my mum died... and i was so sooo afraid... x_x and like you... i love my family so much too.. i cannot live without them... they are my life.. they are whom i live for... i've never been beaten before for i always listen to my parents.. i am obedient... but i was once slapped across.. >< becoz at one stage i went through depression... and she kinda brought me back to reality anyway, sometimes i think im really lucky, although my parents are separated, but when i see other families, they go through the worst... my mum may have been strict on me, over-protective, invade my privacy,... etc but when i put myself in my mum's position... i think i would do the same coz i will be worried for my child and want the best for him/her... sometimes they may not understand how we feel... but we know that whatever they do... it is for our own good... sometimes we do not see the sacrifices they have made... but as i grow older... u will then to realised they have done so much for you... i've seen so many families.... their mums... even a simple thing like cooking lunch or dinner... they will put so much thought and love into it.. yet the children failed to appreciate this simple love... deciding what to cook is not that easy.. geez. sometimes i dont even know what to eat.. xD so you can imagine mothers.. ^^ --- however, i've this friend (not really that close)...but she was my long ago neighbour and childhood friend... she was the oldest among the three daughters, and i heard that the mother dislike her coz she was fat... i heard from my neighbour friends, that she often got caned.. that even the below neighbour could hear the canning sound... and the sounds of canning were so loud u could hear the wooden stick actually broke into half.. kinda scary... i feel that this kind of treatment is horrible... I do understand it from my parents POV sometimes, Kisa-chan, and yesh, I think like that too, however... It's difficult when it's against your own parents, it's difficult when it's your life they're messing with even when you tell them you're fine, and it's difficult because I want to make a stand. I mean, if a parent was beating you because they think it's "for your own good", then you wouldn't want to stand for it... It's the same principle for me and my parents. I just want to speak up for myself, but they nearly always turn into heated arguments. And that sort of treatment is illegal over here now... That shouldn't happen wherever it's happening - it's terribly cruel. Should be stopped. yeah i know... sometimes they want to control too much... >< that's one thing i hate about being obedient sometimes... it may show that you're nice, police, good intentions... etc.. those are just the positive praises with a negative side.. easy to deal with, scared to speak up, coward, weak determination, cheatable, simple to be used.. *sigh* and like when you stand up for yourself, it's like... disobeying them >< i got a friend having a similiar case like you.. (although i dont know ur prob) her dad wants her to be an accountant.. but she's not interested in that.. she wants to be a journalist or writer... and her father doesnt allow it... i told her to stand up for herself tho.. coz it's her life.. it's her dream.. and she would only live once... but on the other hand, it is easier to find an accounting job (though the beginning pay is very low) and maybe she could do writing as a hobby thing instead.. my mum is also controling me.. wanting me to take over her business and study a specialised field in medical science... but im not sure if my passion is strong enough to make the business successful... my interest is too wide-spread... i like so many things that i sometimes i dont know what i want or what is good for me.. sweatdrop well... anyway.. it's good to stand up for urself at times... at least you tell ur parents how u feel about such and such.. it may turn out to be an argument... but at least it might give them something to think about =3
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