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Oh heck that sounds like one hell of a bitchy godzilla who is on its period.
Hm I see your problems there fello.
And It's not good if you let her continue like this.
She must think she can boos around because she hasnt been seen who really is in charge, and I suggest you go teach her a lesson next time she goes all.."God" Like.
But I want to ask, .....Though it might seem offending, do your family show her love?
She might feell lacking in love and then she will rebel agaisnt the family and create tormoil and despair.
However This might not be a reason for her actions, I really want you to sit her down and talk to her properly, before she does something she will regret for life.

But thing is, Your sister sounds realll horrible, and It must be causing your mother a lot of grief, so if this continues any further, I suggest kicking her out, though it may seem a bit tight on her, its for her own good.
But if you can tell me a bit more.

Ah, I understand then.
Though our lives are different, I think I can feel whats she is going through.
Hm, I really think you guys need to let her know you truly love her, and care for her.
She might think that because of the past she is all alone, and feels the need to lie so to protect herself since she thinks she is all alone.
No girl is truly independant, they would want someone to care for her and all.
With her husband gone she must feel lonely, and fragile, and takes it all out on your mother.
All I can say is try and support her and let her know your true feelings.
You might not know it....but with a "I love you" And spilling out your true feelings, she would be quite touched....even if her heart is made of ice, it shall melt.
.....Hm Another thing that might be good....is...well actually does your mother always shout at her?
And well.....become all bosy and incorporative?
Or...like erm sometimes what she says isnt really right but shes says shes right?
I have a feeling she might be that kind of person hmm...

Hm, I think part of the reason your sister acts the way she is because of your mother.
Yuor sis already feels down about ..things that happened in the past, and your mother is making it worser.
Not that is completely her fault, but she shouldnt treat your sister like that...even if she does things wrong.
I bet she doesnt feel any love, which is crucial for people.
Your mum needs to be more loving, and less...movy I guess.
I get like your sister because of my mum as well.
Which is a bad thing
Nearly got kicked out twice.....>.>

Main things to keep in mind: Love, Mother, Yourself importantly.

Being the eldest mut of been stressful on your older sister because it means everything will be placed upon your sisters shoulders.
Its natural the parents do that, but it causes us to riot.
More further thinking she already found someone she could rely on...because in her life she was the one everyone relied on, .....having lost him must of brought a sense of insecurity and a feel of grief, more so then a b***h would ever feel in their lifetime.
She is suffering, and she really needs you there.
Even for a little.
I know it might be hard,...but how about trying to cook stuff for your sister one night and sit down and chat....its something seeming to be normal..but means a lot to her.

I dont think its a matter of liking, its maybe to avoid your mother and the troubles and chaos she faces at home.
Try and .... get a night alone with her, and just have a nice sibling chat.
She must love you guys, since she use to love you guys and always will right?

Hm no one would hate a cooked meal by family, she just doesnt wanna face her mother and home.
So any ideas on how to make her stay?
Eat alone with her
or with all the siblings.

Hey its not an absolute bad thing that you can relate to his sister.
I mean mostly every can, I relate in the fact that I always argue with my mother and we try hard not to fight.......

Everyone has their own ....... imperfections if people were to call it, and thats what makes us who we are.
Not only that, sometimes life gets stressful and we get our stroppy moments razz

The most important thing I think, is that people can put aside their own guilt, selfish acts and greedyness, and become selfless.
Creating harmony and all.

Try Meditating 3nodding Really helps, I meditate around...mostly daily, sometimes I cant fit things in because I am way too busy.
Still theres always time for a nice cuppa. heart

Will no one help me in my time of need? gonk xp

Tis a long story, dear mother. Would you like the long version or the short version?

Well then I'll guess I'll have to make a hybrid version of it then. Feel free to ask any questions between posts. 3nodding

Her name was Amanda. We've been friends since the 8th grade. We met on the school bus on a spring morning. Back then, girls and boys sat on seperate sides of the bus. There was another kid who sat next to me on the bus, but he moved away last Christmas. I sat alone for about a month, until one day there was a girl sitting near my seat. It felt awkard, because we were the only boy/girl seating arrangement. But we eventually got to talking and found out that we were similar is several ways. We were both military brats, born in european countries (me in Italy, her in Germany). Our fathers were both stationed in Germany. Our families resided in Florida after our father's retirement. We seemed to get along fine. And she made friends with my friends back then as well. Everything went fine until my 13th birthday.

Brb, need to do something work related and recollect my thoughts. Feel free to comment or ask.