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 Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 11:26 am
I hear a lot of people saying that looks don't matter in a person. I find this somewhat doubtful. I mean, if somebody just has a good personality, that's the criteria for a friend. Actually forming a relationship of the senuous nature normally involves some physical attraction, and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not sayng that personality doesn't matter. It's very strong as a negative trait, in terms of if somebody has a really annoying or obnixious behavior you won't want to date them because you can barely talk to them for five minutes without wanting to throttle them. I'm just saying that there's nothing particularly shameful or shallow about having standards and a sex drive.
Little things annoy me, like when people say the sexiest thing is a person's eyes. Unless you have a retina fetish, I doubt you become physically aroused by looking at people's eyes.
I also hate it when, after being asked what kind of person they find attractive, they say "I like inner beauty." In my opinion inner beauty is an oxymoron, what people term inner beauty is charisma.
People say that they are attracted to somebody nice or a good person, but I seriously doubt if you have steamy fantasies about somebody helping out at a soup kitchen.
It's not right to be a shallow jerk, but there's no need to act as if physical attraction is entirely nonexistant. neutral
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 12:19 pm
Ok...this is how I see it. I am seldom attracted to a person physically without needed some kind of emotional connection to them. Seriously, if a guy is a good person and does nice things, I can lust after his body. Before hand...for some odd reason...I seldom think to look. Occasionally I do...but if I want to be with someone in a dating nature, I NEED that emotional/mental/and or spiritual connection. If I don't have it, the physical attraction fades quickly. I'm flighty that way. Besides, I can't see myself having sex with someone I don't (at least believe at that time that I) love. The physical is nice...but if I want it to last more than a few days...then I need that friendship connection. If I don't have that and since I won't have sex with them or anything of the intimate nature...why the hell am I still around them? sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 1:19 pm
"Personality is key , the weigth factor is all but a freebie"
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 5:28 pm
I can tell you what I am usually attracted to physically when it comes to men and women it differs.
In men I'm more physically attracted to guys who look like they are italian or hispanic. I usually don't like guys who are too tall. But that's at first glance, it doesn't mean I'm not attracted to other kinds of men, or that I may not be attracted to a man of italian or hispanic descent.
Personality wise, I like a little arrogance/self confidence, suave, charismatic, and a bit of an a*****e especially when it comes to getting along well with others.. however they're also caring, sensitive, and would do anything for that one girl. Pretty misunderstood, and hard to handle.
I am rarely attracted to guys who are timid or shy. One's that are mild and need reassurance. Often in relationships like that they cannot say no, I walk all over them, and become placed upon a pedestal... which I could never live up to.
In women, I'm attracted to girls who are pulmper , of german or japanese descent. I like dark hair, and a little tallness and small button noses. I don't like huge breasts, below a C is nice. I like straight hair.
I like my women a little less bold, but not clingy. I don't like when they suffocate me. I like when they are modest, but at the same time know that they're beautiful. I like one's that are warm, compassionate, a little distant but not so much so that there would be a chasm.
Really it's hard to describe what one's attracted to. Physical can help, but it can also be pretty irrelevant.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 5:49 pm
Personaly, looks mean 2% to me, litterally. But I would not hold their looks against them. I am more into personality more than anything, I feel that is the right key for a relationship, since not everyone relationship needs to be physical.
If the person can carry on an intelligent conversation, has a good sence of humor and takes care of themselves that is all that basically matters to me and I'll be happy.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 6:52 pm
-Magicians Trick- Personaly, looks mean 2% to me, litterally. But I would not hold their looks against them. I am more into personality more than anything, I feel that is the right key for a relationship, since not everyone relationship needs to be physical.
If the person can carry on an intelligent conversation, has a good sence of humor and takes care of themselves that is all that basically matters to me and I'll be happy. Is that honestly wholly true? Would you seek out and date somebody who for example had the elephant man's condition, or live fungus cultures on their face?
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 7:32 pm
Fuzzy Necromancer -Magicians Trick- Personaly, looks mean 2% to me, litterally. But I would not hold their looks against them. I am more into personality more than anything, I feel that is the right key for a relationship, since not everyone relationship needs to be physical.
If the person can carry on an intelligent conversation, has a good sence of humor and takes care of themselves that is all that basically matters to me and I'll be happy. Is that honestly wholly true? Would you seek out and date somebody who for example had the elephant man's condition, or live fungus cultures on their face? Not holding their looks against someone and not seeking to have a relationship because of it isnt the same thing.( i dont think that came out the way i wanted it to) Nevertheless, Unless someone PREFERS someone with Elephantitus or other unfortunate maladies, you shouldnt judge them for chosing someone without them over the afflicted person. Aside from that fact, if you look into relationships IRL, away from the computer, and your not blind, most usually how a person Looks is probably the first thing you notice.Most self respecting people would want someone who is pleasing to them, even if the pleasing part is how they look. That does not, however, mean its alright for a person to judge other people solely on looks alone, and not give a visually pleasing person a chance. i just mean that most often, you see a person before you hear them.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 8:05 pm
I find that most people when they say looks don't matter don't mean that weight doesn't matter to them. Physical beauty may not matter, but weight almost always does. Stupid society.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 8:16 pm
Fuzzy Necromancer -Magicians Trick- Personaly, looks mean 2% to me, litterally. But I would not hold their looks against them. I am more into personality more than anything, I feel that is the right key for a relationship, since not everyone relationship needs to be physical.
If the person can carry on an intelligent conversation, has a good sence of humor and takes care of themselves that is all that basically matters to me and I'll be happy. Is that honestly wholly true? Would you seek out and date somebody who for example had the elephant man's condition, or live fungus cultures on their face? Yes, that is wholly true. Take it or leave, but if that person and I were meant to be I would see past his/her material form and love him/her for what I saw in them.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 10:44 am
The only thing that looks are for me is a bonus.
Honestly, I can find soemthing I like about every persons looks...big whoop!
Now a great personality? THATS sexy. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 2:39 pm
Fuzzy Necromancer I hear a lot of people saying that looks don't matter in a person. I find this somewhat doubtful. I mean, if somebody just has a good personality, that's the criteria for a friend. Actually forming a relationship of the senuous nature normally involves some physical attraction, and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not sayng that personality doesn't matter. It's very strong as a negative trait, in terms of if somebody has a really annoying or obnixious behavior you won't want to date them because you can barely talk to them for five minutes without wanting to throttle them. I'm just saying that there's nothing particularly shameful or shallow about having standards and a sex drive. Little things annoy me, like when people say the sexiest thing is a person's eyes. Unless you have a retina fetish, I doubt you become physically aroused by looking at people's eyes. I also hate it when, after being asked what kind of person they find attractive, they say "I like inner beauty." In my opinion inner beauty is an oxymoron, what people term inner beauty is charisma. People say that they are attracted to somebody nice or a good person, but I seriously doubt if you have steamy fantasies about somebody helping out at a soup kitchen. It's not right to be a shallow jerk, but there's no need to act as if physical attraction is entirely nonexistant. neutral I totally agree with you. I believe that when you love someone, you don't see the little flaws, they don't matter to you even if you notice. No matter how unbiased you think you are, when you first see someone you find physically unattractive, no matter how friendly he is, you're not going to be thinking, "Oh my God, I'm so having his babies!" There are a lot of those little rules that bother me. 1. People considered to be physically unattractive by society are automatically brilliant, unique and interesting people. 2. People considered to be physically gorgeous by society are automatically stupid. 3. Men who dump a woman for someone he considers more attractive is automatically a shallow jerk. 4. All women want a man who can make them laugh, and is in touch with his feminine side. 5. It's attractive when men cry. 6. Skinny girls are starving themselves. Anyway, I'll stop now.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 5:44 pm
I think women (tend to, not always) like to be more attached emotionaly and mentally before they really get attracted. I know I was that way. Many peopel I know are the same way too. I think that looks do play a part because someone could be the sweetest but if you are just not attracted to them its not going anywhere. Men tend to be more vissual though but what men find attractive from man to man is different. So.... both play a part.
I had a crush on my husband first (physical attraction) but it turned into love and the emotional, mental and spiritual level grew.
In the end, looks do matter but what one person finds as beautiful may not be to someone else.
I hope I said this right sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 9:48 pm
ClaudiaJade Fuzzy Necromancer -Magicians Trick- Personaly, looks mean 2% to me, litterally. But I would not hold their looks against them. I am more into personality more than anything, I feel that is the right key for a relationship, since not everyone relationship needs to be physical.
If the person can carry on an intelligent conversation, has a good sence of humor and takes care of themselves that is all that basically matters to me and I'll be happy. Is that honestly wholly true? Would you seek out and date somebody who for example had the elephant man's condition, or live fungus cultures on their face? Not holding their looks against someone and not seeking to have a relationship because of it isnt the same thing.( i dont think that came out the way i wanted it to) Nevertheless, Unless someone PREFERS someone with Elephantitus or other unfortunate maladies, you shouldnt judge them for chosing someone without them over the afflicted person. Aside from that fact, if you look into relationships IRL, away from the computer, and your not blind, most usually how a person Looks is probably the first thing you notice.Most self respecting people would want someone who is pleasing to them, even if the pleasing part is how they look. That does not, however, mean its alright for a person to judge other people solely on looks alone, and not give a visually pleasing person a chance. i just mean that most often, you see a person before you hear them. That's more or less a point I was trying to get across.
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Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2005 8:07 pm
I don't care about looks at all. I never have crushes on guys anyway unless I know them for a while, but of course I never say anything. sweatdrop . I don't believe in love at first sight at all and I sometimes find guys who are really nice looking, turn out to be really big jerks in the end.
Though, what do I know. Guys don't give me a chance anyway.
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Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2005 10:56 pm
EVERYONE is slightly shallow, no matter how hard you try to deny it. Face facts, we are a materialistic race. But looks do only go so far.
i hate saying "personality is better than looks" even though its completely true. i just sound like everyone else who half of them dont believe what they say.
and i hate when people think im a shallow b*****d everytime someone asks "what do you like in a girl?" and i start to name physical as well as mental qualities. people ask me so i answer truthfully. a girl who can hold a conversation and a logical thought in her head reigns supreme over a stick figure with balloon breasts or a "blonde bombshell"
GET YOUR PANTIES OUT OF A WAD. im only being truthful because i seriously doubt that you can say with a straigh face that someones physical appearance isnt what you look for when you look for another to be with you.
your here arent you? obviously your a dam hypocrite if you deny it.
people find certain body parts and features attractive not because of a persons physique. rather is is a quality or trait that reminds them of something sensual or pleasent. i love eyes becuase they express someone true thoughts, sinserity, hate, or love. not because they have black eyes with red vains.
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