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 Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 7:11 am
I go to Chabad and I know that the girls don't read out of the torah, so what else do they do?
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 12:06 pm
I'm not sure if there are Chabad Bat-Mitzvahs... o _o
I'm Reform, and I wasn't so good a student in Religious Studies class. > _>;;
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 5:09 am
I don't know about chabad, but I know in the orthodox movement she gives a Dvar Torah at the end of services.
At least, they do at the orthodox shul in my town...
And you'll probably have to to a community service project. I think most synogogues like if you do a project. sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:43 pm
hey everybody! im chabad!
a chabad girl on her bat mitzvah will usually say a dvar torah, make a hachlata, give everybody money for tzedaka, and say her new kapital. otherwise, its just like a regular party.
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Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 3:34 pm
I'm chabad too. what mellela said was true. they don't read from the torah because it isn't modest. they have a regular birthday party but might do something a little bit extra.
I invited two of my friends and we had a hotel sleepover party.
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Posted: Sat Jan 26, 2008 5:14 pm
I didn't get to attend it myself, but I do have a Chabad friend who lives across the country from me, whose daughter celebrated her bat mitzvah about five years ago with a Torah reading.
The modesty thing only is relevant if she reads Torah before a community of men. She wanted very much to read from the Torah, and so she worked it out with her rabbi. Only nine men were allowed to be present, not a full minyan; she had her father, her grandfather, her two brothers, her rabbi, and three uncles (I think that was what she said). Plus, all the women in the community. But the innovation that I thought was fascinating was that the rabbi had all the men sit behind the mechitzah (the dividing curtain/wall between the men's and women's sections) and all the women got to sit in front. That way, the rabbi reasoned, she wouldn't be praying in front of the men -- she'd be praying for the women, and the men would simply be there to show support of her. She read in plain voice rather than chanting, so there was no problem of kol ishah (the prohibition against a man hearing a woman singing).
Afterward, the women said it was beautiful and felt great to hear a daughter of their community showing her knowledge; they said they felt it honored her father, to show that he had raised such a knowledgeable daughter. The men felt the same way, they said -- but they also noticed that they could barely follow along. They felt a bit left out, because they couldn't see well, couldn't hear well, didn't feel really like they were a part of anything at all. My friend told me this with some satisfaction in her voice. She said, "Good, now they know how we feel every single time we enter the synagogue." And sure enough, the following month, the synagogue was talking to several rabbis about how to modify the mechitzah so that women could see, hear, and feel more a part of the community, without compromising the kashrut of the mechitzah. Apparently the women in question were very pleased with the results.
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