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 Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 9:33 am
Help!
I recently renounced the religion my parents been teaching me since I was a child. Yes, they both hate me for it but won't admit it out-loud. I'm getting use to that.
BUT, I was suppose to conformation, which is what really had me question my beliefs and thus, I no longer like the church. YET, I don't need help with that. I need help with seeing this really guy from my church who manages the Youth Ministry. He's a big, BIG Catholic and bleh. Why do I have to see him? I don't know. He wants to 'talk' to me, but my guess it's some sort of guilt trip.
Does ANYONE have tips? Anything I can do? ._.
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Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 11:39 am
Eek!
I feel for you.
In all honesty, this is a situation that I think only time can heal.
Your parents shouldn't hate you forever for making your choice. If they do, they should adjust their priorities. Child over religion, not religion over child...
Seeing the guy from the Youth Ministry sounds like a definate guilt trip. But you shouldn't feel guilty. This is your decision, not anyone else's and if you firmly believe the church isn't for you, then that's your decision.
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Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 12:00 pm
Fan+asmagoric Eek! I feel for you. In all honesty, this is a situation that I think only time can heal. Your parents shouldn't hate you forever for making your choice. If they do, they should adjust their priorities. Child over religion, not religion over child... Seeing the guy from the Youth Ministry sounds like a definate guilt trip. But you shouldn't feel guilty. This is your decision, not anyone else's and if you firmly believe the church isn't for you, then that's your decision. Thank you ._.
What I'm now worried about is explaining myself, which I hate doing. Defiantly since lately I'm blacking out some of my thoughts. Don't ask. But I think it'll go alright....hopefully...
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Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 2:59 pm
Hey, you are you and you get to believe in whatever you want.
If this guy wants to give youa guilt trip, shove it up his a**.
Sure, people are going to disagree with your decision, but that's their problem. You made your choice and that's the end. If you decide you want to go back to the Church, become a Buddhist or even make up your own religion, that's completely up to you.
And, about your parents, I think you should just let the dust settle. So, you don't go with their religion, they'll get over it.
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Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 6:14 pm
You shouldn't have to explain yourself.
Guilt always sucks. I hate when my parents do that to me too.
I never renounced Islam, because I still believe in half of it...so yeah. But I'm not religious ENOUGH.
It's been about six years now...my parents have gotten over it. They still bug me about it, but I've learned to ignore it, especially when my mum goes to pray.
I respect their choices so they respect mine.
The big head church-youth guy should respect your choice too.
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Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2007 9:52 pm
I remember when mom made me go to church i wouldn't go cause i didn't believe in the catholic ways but she still made me go and i was forced to do all that catholic stuff. The only thing i absolutely refused to do was confess to some priest dude. Since i made my confirmation, mom finally left me alone saying now i can choose whether i want to continue going to church or not. Of course i stopped and still dont' want anything to do with the catholic relgion. Sure i believe in God but i don't believe in teh same things the catholics do and that doesn't make me a bad person just to have different beliefs. As i got older, i realized i probably should of done more to get my mom to understand i don't believe in the catholic ways instead of just waiting to finish up with confirmation so i won't be forced into catholicism anymore. Tell the dude you have your own beliefs and he should respect that because you're not there lecturing him to believe what you believe.It's not right to force someone to believe in something. It just makes that person bitter about things.
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Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 12:00 pm
 Stand up for what you believe in. If you feel this is right for you, then you shouldn't have any second thoughts.
Explain that it doesn't make you any less of a person, it's just a different belief than their's.
I changed from being christian to agnostic when I was only 12. My mom was upset, but she's always raised me to make up my own mind. So she let me think of things in my own way.
You have to explain you have a mind of your own, and you just don't feel confident in God. It doesn't appeal to you, and that's not really all your fault. I've never seen a heart that I couldn't break.
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Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 6:25 pm
Wow. More replies xd
Thank you all for your help. I think I've got it down of what I believe and don't believe, or at least what I defiantly don't want to do. I don't care what my parents want me to do. I'm just upset with them that they are upset. Oh well. I'll make it blaugh
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