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 Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 9:36 am
I would like to pose a question to all my chubby friends out there: Has something traumatic ever happened to you? When you think about it do you think it has anything to do with your size?
I ask because today I went for a walk, and a man said something lewd to me. When I got home I found myself eating everything that didn't scream when I bit it and shaking. Thinking about it I think I started getting huge because I didn't want anyone to find me attractive sub-conciously. As a kid I was pulled off the street and raped. Since then I've gained a good 150lbs. Does anyone have similar thoughts?
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 12:49 pm
I'm sure gaining weight can have something to do with a traumatic experience, just like I've heard of people losing weight from them or changing their lifestyles due to them.
The most traumatic thing that might have ever happened to me that I can think of would be my dad dying before I was born. That's not really traumatic I don't guess, so much as kids without fathers tend to have a lot of problems. I don't have the greatest home life either, but I think part of mine is genetics, the other part is stress and lack of opportunities.
Plus, I know I have an issue with being afraid food will dissappear and I'll never get to have it again, so I have a tendency to eat it all when I get the chance. I'm having to work on getting over that, and I've gotten better but it's hard. It's a fear of not having the food later when I need it to survive, partially. So I stay fat to protect myself from starvation >_<
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 4:00 pm
That's terrible...I haven't had anything like that happen to me, but I'm pretty sure there could be a connection.
I know many women (including myself) eat when we are depressed. And I have a lack of seratonin in my brain, so I crave and eat carbohydrates to make up for it.
I think most people want food when they experience something traumatic, or even just upsetting, because food is always there for us. It doesn't judge, it doesn't care if we gain wait, and it provides both nourishment and pleasure.
...Ugh, I'm sorry, I'm starting to sound like a psychologist. sweatdrop
*hugs everyone*
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 4:09 pm
Little Rachael That's terrible...I haven't had anything like that happen to me, but I'm pretty sure there could be a connection. I know many women (including myself) eat when we are depressed. And I have a lack of seratonin in my brain, so I crave and eat carbohydrates to make up for it. I think most people want food when they experience something traumatic, or even just upsetting, because food is always there for us. It doesn't judge, it doesn't care if we gain wait, and it provides both nourishment and pleasure. ...Ugh, I'm sorry, I'm starting to sound like a psychologist. sweatdrop *hugs everyone* But it's TRUE. So it's okaies 3nodding I never really thought about it like that before. I've always just said "I'm fat. That's me. I don't care why because I'm fine with myself." But I'm kinda' curious now.
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 4:40 pm
I think I pretty much grew up with the perfect recipe for chubbiness, if trauma and depression have anything to do with it. I was seperated from my mom when I was 2, because of legal issues when I got burned in hot water from my thighs down. So, I was sent to live with my great aunt and uncle, and was in and out of hospitals for skin grafts during the time when most kids are learning to be active by playing games with their friends. When I was twelve, I came home from a surgery to find out that my uncle had died.
The inactivity, trauma, and chronic depression have always made me feel like eating to feel better, and my aunt taught me to cook, because it was something we could do together. My mom is a large lady, but not 'fat' really, so, yes, I think trauma and depression have A LOT to do with it.
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 6:04 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty I'm sure gaining weight can have something to do with a traumatic experience, just like I've heard of people losing weight from them or changing their lifestyles due to them.
The most traumatic thing that might have ever happened to me that I can think of would be my dad dying before I was born. That's not really traumatic I don't guess, so much as kids without fathers tend to have a lot of problems. I don't have the greatest home life either, but I think part of mine is genetics, the other part is stress and lack of opportunities.
Plus, I know I have an issue with being afraid food will dissappear and I'll never get to have it again, so I have a tendency to eat it all when I get the chance. I'm having to work on getting over that, and I've gotten better but it's hard. It's a fear of not having the food later when I need it to survive, partially. So I stay fat to protect myself from starvation >_< I tell all my friends that us fat girls will survive the next ice age/famine, but all those skinny girls won't because that have no fat to keep them nice and cozy warm mrgreen
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 6:18 pm
Kitz_sune I think I pretty much grew up with the perfect recipe for chubbiness, if trauma and depression have anything to do with it. I was seperated from my mom when I was 2, because of legal issues when I got burned in hot water from my thighs down. So, I was sent to live with my great aunt and uncle, and was in and out of hospitals for skin grafts during the time when most kids are learning to be active by playing games with their friends. When I was twelve, I came home from a surgery to find out that my uncle had died. The inactivity, trauma, and chronic depression have always made me feel like eating to feel better, and my aunt taught me to cook, because it was something we could do together. My mom is a large lady, but not 'fat' really, so, yes, I think trauma and depression have A LOT to do with it. Holy s**t, Kitz(wo)man!!! That's awful!!! I was in the hospital for a brain abcess when I was a child, so I was inactive then too. I never even thought of that!!!
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 6:19 pm
Victorie Rose I tell all my friends that us fat girls will survive the next ice age/famine, but all those skinny girls won't because that have no fat to keep them nice and cozy warm mrgreen So true 3nodding
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 8:23 pm
CthulhuKitty Kitz_sune I think I pretty much grew up with the perfect recipe for chubbiness, if trauma and depression have anything to do with it. I was seperated from my mom when I was 2, because of legal issues when I got burned in hot water from my thighs down. So, I was sent to live with my great aunt and uncle, and was in and out of hospitals for skin grafts during the time when most kids are learning to be active by playing games with their friends. When I was twelve, I came home from a surgery to find out that my uncle had died. The inactivity, trauma, and chronic depression have always made me feel like eating to feel better, and my aunt taught me to cook, because it was something we could do together. My mom is a large lady, but not 'fat' really, so, yes, I think trauma and depression have A LOT to do with it. Holy s**t, Kitz(wo)man!!! That's awful!!! I was in the hospital for a brain abcess when I was a child, so I was inactive then too. I never even thought of that!!! This may also have something to do with my love of pets, so I always have someone to talk to, even if I'm alone in the house. But when I'm sad or depressed, the ice cream looks really good. whee
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 10:58 pm
I can't say I've ever really had anything super traumatic happen to me and one bad thing that did occur happened long after I was chubby. I was never a skinny kid. I think I started packing on the pounds when I was about 7 or 8. It had more to do with genetics and learned behavior than anything. I wanted to eat what my parents ate and eat from the "big person" menu because I was still "hungry" after a kids menu. The truth is I wanted to mimic and I was a super picky eater. A love for simple fatty foods keeps me at my weight despite my love for dancing and DDR which gets me up and moving.
Though the boyfriend is telling me we're cutting back on the salt in our food because my blood pressure is starting to get borderline high and eating more fiber filled items to get my good cholesterol up, since it's low. He claims he's the only one who can have any health problems.
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 11:45 pm
i believe that childhood trauma was directly related to my current state of obesity..
i had a less than pleasant childhood and my great- grandfather's *who is my living guardian angel to this day* good intentioned , but misguided way of helping me deal was by buying me food treats..
i have a very bad addiction to food now.. it's not even eating for boredom or pleasure anymore.. it's eating because i need a fix and the internal madness won't stop until i give it what it wants...
i'm moving soon, and i hope this helps me lose weight.. i'll be out on my own, and too poor to buy all kinds of various food things except for what i absolutely need..
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Posted: Sun May 06, 2007 1:03 am
Well, when I went to the psychiatrist a number of years ago (for an extended period due to intense emotional stress and such) she suggested that one of the main reasons why I might be fat is because I'm highly gifted. I remember going to kindergarden and being the only kid able to read and getting immensely bored. Then in grade school my school insisted I skip two grades (my parents intervened and it became only one) and right after that I started to become significantly heavier. I also was teased a lot at that time, not for being heavy which came later, but for being smart. She says I might've subconsciously started to overeat in order to be judged simply by my appearance and not by something as integral as my intelligence. In hindsight this idea makes a lot of sense to me.
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Posted: Sun May 06, 2007 7:02 am
Oh, I also think my job is helping me not lose weight...
Might be stress, probably stress... I think I've gained 10lbs since Spiderman 3 came out. Actually more, I was lower on the scale than usual somehow and in one day I managed to gain 10lbs gonk
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Posted: Sun May 06, 2007 8:12 am
Suicide Jade i have a very bad addiction to food now.. it's not even eating for boredom or pleasure anymore.. it's eating because i need a fix and the internal madness won't stop until i give it what it wants... quote] I thought I was the only one addicted to food... there are some days when I feel that I could kill to get a cheeseburger from Jack in the Box. It is frustrating because I know its not healthy and I know all the healthy ways to eat and yet I cannot. And its not like I dont like healthier foods I love salads and fruits and beggies and I know I would be able to do it but I cant. I too have had a traumatic experience but I would prefer not to talk about it. I know that I eat for that reason and it sucks.
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Posted: Sun May 06, 2007 5:12 pm
When going through grief(sp? I should be able to spell it by now) You go one of two ways.
You stop eating or you over eat. Unfortunately, I went with the latter when my mom died.
I mean, I've been big all my life, some of it is genetic, some is me just being me but I gained probably 50 pounds in the first months after my mom died.
I had gained so much weight so quickly that people in my town were spreading rumors that I was pregnant.
I don't blame my weight on that but it was a traumatic experience that did help in making me this big.
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