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 Posted: Fri Apr 27, 2007 3:38 pm
Hello everyone! smile ,
Im currently 14 years old, 15 in a couple of months.
Anyway lets get to the point, Im ready for a baby, i think i would make a wonderful mother, I know what i wanna do when i get older, and money isnt really an issue.
I was thinking about having a baby around 16 but im not so sure yet, I wanted other peoples opinions.
What are your thoughts?
EDIT: Ok so now im 15 turning 16 i've tried to get pregnant and didnt succeed oh well I guess i;ll wait till im older.
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Posted: Sat Apr 28, 2007 12:06 am
I think you absolutely, 100% need to wait.
Finish high school, or at least get your GED, because otherwise, any future jobs, or even grants, are going to be a lot harder to come by.
Also, your body isn't even finished with puberty yet. It's actually dangerous for younger girls to get pregnant.
I had my son when I was barely 19, and I probably should have waited longer.
Just wait, please. You're still insanely fertile and in your prime for over a DECADE. Give yourself time to enjoy being young, and being able to do things without having to take care of someone else as well.
Also, you need to be able to provide things for the child YOURSELF. I know you said money isn't an issue, but unless you've got a billion dollar trust fund you can live off of for a long, long time, money IS an issue, and no one should have to fund your child but you.
Also, where's a father? You can't, and SHOULDN'T just go out and randomly choose someone to make a baby for you. You should try to find a relationship, when you're older, and make it long term. You obviously don't have to be married, but you don't want some guy to be a sperm donor and then disappear forever so your child doesn't have a father.
Wait, wait, wait.
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Posted: Sat Apr 28, 2007 11:19 pm
what savina said
come down
lol xd
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Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 4:04 am
Well, why is it exactly that you feel the need to have a child now? confused I mean, you'll still be able to have one in another 3-4 years. Why not just wait?
Yeah, kids are fun, but they're nothing to jump into lightly.
Plus, as Savina said, it can be dangerous for your body.
What's more than that, babies born to mothers under 18 have a higher chance of birth defects. Whether this is because they're bodies aren't ready, or because they aren't taking as good care of themselves, who knows?
Give me 5 good reasons why it's better for you to have one now than in 3-4 years.
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Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 9:45 am
I think you should wait, I felt like that and I'm 17 and I've decided to wait til I'm at least 18, just my opinion.
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Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 6:34 pm
[`Sakura] Hello everyone! smile , Im currently 14 years old, 15 in a couple of months. Anyway lets get to the point, Im ready for a baby, i think i would make a wonderful mother, I know what i wanna do when i get older, and money isnt really an issue. I was thinking about having a baby around 16 but im not so sure yet, I wanted other peoples opinions. What are your thoughts? I think you should wait, believe me. I am 16 right now, and getting ready to have a baby girl myself. It wasn't planned though. I thought I would be ready if it did ever happen to me when I was this young...But believe me it is harder than you think it is. You are under so much stress. You don't want to grow up this fast. No one should have to. It sucks, because you can't do anything you used to anymore. Even if you think you are ready at 16, you most likely aren't. I'm not trying to tell you what to do or anything, I just want to help you to make the right decision.
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Posted: Mon May 07, 2007 3:22 am
So what do YOU all think is the right age?
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Posted: Mon May 07, 2007 11:01 pm
I think it varies on a case-by-case basis.
I think people should wait until they're done with school first, because it's hard to get through school with a baby.
Then, I think a steady income and a good place to live is in order. There needs to be medical care, and a support group.
Really, I think it'd be hard to have a child under 18. I'd recommend waiting at least until 20-23. I had my son when I was 20, he wasn't planned really, and I love him. But things would be a lot easier on me if I had my vet tech schooling done already, and a steady job. But, it's my life, and I'm managing. xd
Ultimately, it's your life, but I urge you to reconsider.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2007 5:56 am
It is up to you. I fyou really feel that you are reasdy to do daycare and all-nighters and everything else, go for it. i'm nt focusing on negitives, but these are some this to think about. How are you goign to finance a baby? more over, you said you wanted a baby, but do you also want a toddler, a child, a teen? I'm not trying to talk you out of it becuase it i ultimatly up to you. I, myself, am TTC at 17 so I totally get the same comments that you so sometimes.
One last thing, who would you concieve with? He may not want to stick around. I've seen people break up with a boyfriend, fiance and husbands because he decided he didn't want to deal. Are you prepared to do it on your own? It happens all the time it's totaly somethig to think about.
If you want to keep raling, feel free to PM me. Like I said, i'm TTC before the "acceptable" age and i've love to talk to someone like me.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2007 3:51 pm
I don't think there's a right age. Whenever you have your finaces and other life issues in order, that's when it should be. I say it's best to be married or at least have a long term partner you know will stick around. It's best to wait till you have finished college IMO (if you go, and I think it's a good idea that you do) becuase that increases the chances that you'll be able to provide for the baby.
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Posted: Tue Jun 12, 2007 8:39 pm
[`Sakura] So what do YOU all think is the right age? When you have a stable job and an income, and not living to paycheck. When you have some schooling under your belt, so you have a better chance of getting a half-decent job instead of just whatever comes your way. When you have a place of your own, or are at the very least are paying bills and are learning how to support yourself. Rent bills, groceries, utilities, etc. When you preferably have someone to support you, like a partner, boyfriend, etc. Family support is crucial too, because if they choose to turn their backs on you and not help you, and you have few other resources, you could be screwed. When you have money saved up and have something to fall back on. Living on welfare or living paycheck to paycheck isn't the best thing for you, let alone when you have a baby relying on you 100%. When you're old enough to stop and say "Hey, is this the best thing for me right now? What can I do that would be best for my child, not what I want?" Basically when you can show self-control and not get pregnant just because you want a baby. I'm almost 21 and have wanted to be a mother since I was 19. But I'm holding back because while I have a good job now, my child deserves better than a mother on government aid or a mother who's living paycheck to paycheck and can't give it everything it needs. 14 is way too young, IMHO. Wait a few years until you're at least out of high school and can make something of yourself, so you can pass down something to your child other than a legacy of teen pregnancy. My last landlady had her daughter, unplanned, when she was 15. Her mom kicked her out of the house, and she had to drop out of high school I believe. She got her GED, and is now in university, and while she loves her daughter, she said she's had a very very hard life. Being a teen mom is not an easy thing. I know my post is full of a lot of stereotypes, and I'm sorry. I've just met very very few people who've been pregnant at a very early age and have had an easy life, or who have been able to adequately provide for a baby at your age.
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 2:02 pm
My name is Jessica. I am 19 and I have a 2 year old son. Which means that I got pregnant at 16 and had him at 17. It is NOT easy. You might think you are ready but it isn't all the glam that it seems. I love my son and wouldn't give him up for anything even when everyone said I should. I graduated from high school with honors and in the top 25 of my class. But I had the help of my parents which i am very grateful for. I just recently moved from louisiana and they have a program called TOPS that pays for any college in Louisiana but since the hurricane and all that I had to move so I couldn't use it. So I have not gone to college and I have a good job and so does my husband. SO even though I am young we are doing pretty good. It's just better to wait so that you don't have to worry about anything. Wait until you meet the guy you know won't leave you. Wait for the job that won't leave you living from paycheck to paycheck. Remember the younger you are the harder it is and the younger the guy the more likely he won't help because he isn't mature enough to handle it. Not saying for all guys. Just an average. So please no one jump down my throat.
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Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 7:50 am
 I agree with almost all the opinions here. I had my son at 18. It is hard as hell sometimes for us. Sometimes my fiance and I live paycheck to paycheck. If work gets tight for him. And this is WITH him supporting us and having a decent job. Granted, we find a way for Aiden to have everything he needs, its still hard. If you had a child so young, who would support you? I know a girl who had her daughter at 13. The father was 28 and is now in jail. Her family literally disowned her, so now she lives with random people who are kind enough to support her and her child. But that is no way to live. And I'm not saying all young people would end up like that if they had a kid. Just saying what I know of. I was lucky enough to be done with school and have a boyfriend who loved me and now loves his son to death. If he would have dumped me, I would have had to move back with my parents and have them support us for awhile. You do not want that. If you become a parent, you should be able to support your child for the majority of whatever you need for them. And I've never known of anyone 14 who could do that.
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Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 1:54 am
Even if money isn't an issue and you don't need a job to survive that doesn't mean you shouldn't have one.
My views on life were pretty messed up because my Mom never worked. So, I never saw the point in getting a job.
But you want your child to have the best start and showing them proper adult behavior starts very, very young.
The best advice I can offer is have a stable education(complete highschool or earn your GED. Let me tell you though, it's easier to get your diploma than a GED because you have teachers to help you. You're pretty much on your own for a GED), get a job and hold it, and get your life in order. Be certain who you're with is who you want to be with. You don't have to stay with the father of your children, of course, but you will be tied together for life if you have a child together.
I figured pregnancy would be easy but it's so not. It's been very difficult for me to handle and I'm 18(I had to think about that one a minute, I couldn't remember my age! >.<). I can't imagine having a child any younger than this.
Oh, quick note! You have a better chance at getting a good, stable job at 18 than 16, just so you know. No need to rush your life too much. Enjoy being a kid, it won't last forever.
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 12:02 am
This topic hasn't been posted in for a little while >.<
but there is a really nice, sweet girl at my church who is about my age named Katie.
She got pregnant and had to finish up school early. She actually finished just recently, doing 40 hours of school a week to finish before the baby came. I'm very excited for her and I'm happy for her, but I can tell that the pregnancy has taken a toll on her. She's felt somewhat alienated and sometimes feels doubtful of herself and what others think of her.
Not that what other people think should affect how you live your life. However, the younger you are, the higher the chance of your baby being born with complications. There is a good chance that, although Katie takes good care of herself and visits the doctor often, her baby may be a stillborn.
After being with child for months, premature birth or giving birth to a stillborn could absolutely shatter your world.
Please consider the health of the baby and your health (mental and physical) before you decide to have a baby.
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