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 Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 11:30 pm
Okay so I am having an issue with this guy I have been seeing. We are kinda serious and agreed to be monogamous about a month ago... a few days ago he told me that a girl he had sex with "right before" we got together might be pregnant now... he says he didnt cheat on me but she is only a week late... I dont know if I should believe him because usually you get pregnant a couple weeks before your period... I dont know... its upsetting me and I dont know if I should believe him because I have caught him in a few lies already... AHHH!! stressed somebody help me please it is driving me insane
Thank you anybody and everybody that can help
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 12:14 am
Well, that isn't a lot of information to go on...
I wouldn't worry about it too much until you for sure found out she was pregnant (my friend has had a few scares and part of it was lack of regularity)... or if it's a false alarm.
However, my typical rule... and this is coming from a person who has had pretty amazing relationships and wants to be a couples therapist
(if that makes any difference sweatdrop ), I would never date somebody who I didn't trust. Especially about big things like cheating on me. I know when to trust my boyfriend (if he says he's going to do something and I know he isn't, I can live with that... if he says he didn't kiss another girl and I know he did, can't live with that).
Why would you even want to deal with that? I don't know the guy, but a guy that you can't trust isn't a great catch in my book, and you can do better. And from what I've seen in other couples, if you doubt them once it's bound to happen over and over and over and over again, weather or not it's just about cheating...
But goodluck with whatever you choose ^_^
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Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 1:33 pm
I think, probably in your case – and in most others’ – you should consider a rule of thumb similar in principal to, maybe, “I, from this day forward, will avoid monogamous relationships with men I suspect of dirt-baggery less than a month into our relationship.”
Luckily for me, I can’t relate to your problem. 1. I’ve never cheated or been cheated on. 2. I understand the basic theory of contraception, and in 5 years of sexual activity I’ve managed to dodge the baby scare and STD bullet.
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Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 9:03 pm
Pfft, I look for the dirt-bags. Actually I'm more into assholes... they're so wonderful... 'cept they piss me off all the time stressed
Contraception for the win! Unless you're like me, and like to play "let's race"
...Actually, it's still ftw, unless you're retarded like me, and willing to admit it. sweatdrop *no babies yet*
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Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2007 3:32 pm
It is possible that if he had sex with her right after her period ended, and she has a short period (like 3 or 4 days), and this was only a few days before you decided to be monogamous, he may still be trustworthy. However, if you think he's really not being honest with you, I suggest you talk to him about it. And I wish you the best *hugs*
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Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2007 5:38 pm
With no trust there is no relationship.
But aside from that.
You have to trust your heart. If it's telling you he's a lying dog, they you don't need him.
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 7:28 am
HE IS A LYING DOG!!!... he admitted to me that he lied to me the first time... thank you all for your advice, but I cant be with someone I dont trust... so it looks like this relationship is done... oh well c'est la vie!!! Thanx again
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 8:35 am
You made the right choice 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Apr 28, 2007 11:02 am
If he lies to you now, I'd say cut your losses and run before you do something really dumb, like marry his sorry a**. I didn't and I just caught him cheating (again) 3 months after our wedding. He's going into therapy, and we're trying to make it work, but sometimes I wish I had just walked, you know? You deserve waaaay better.
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Posted: Sat Apr 28, 2007 12:00 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 10:22 pm
CthulhuKitty If he lies to you now, I'd say cut your losses and run before you do something really dumb, like marry his sorry a**. I didn't and I just caught him cheating (again) 3 months after our wedding. He's going into therapy, and we're trying to make it work, but sometimes I wish I had just walked, you know? You deserve waaaay better.
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Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 10:30 pm
Chachi1984 CthulhuKitty If he lies to you now, I'd say cut your losses and run before you do something really dumb, like marry his sorry a**. I didn't and I just caught him cheating (again) 3 months after our wedding. He's going into therapy, and we're trying to make it work, but sometimes I wish I had just walked, you know? You deserve waaaay better. Hey, come on now, we're not all that bad. Its guys like that that give guys like us here a bad rep you know? stressed jerks.....
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Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 8:49 am
You know, technically we don't even need men anymore to continue the human race. They can combine eggs in a lab to create a baby, though they've only done it with mice and stuff as far as I know.
Women are just as bad, if not worse to date (no, I've never dated a girl but my friend, another girl, has... during the relationship she said that girl made her feel guilty for every time she'd been moody or snappy at her ex boyfriends), in some ways. It really boils down to finding the right person for you.
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Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 10:53 am
Locke_Dirks Chachi1984 CthulhuKitty If he lies to you now, I'd say cut your losses and run before you do something really dumb, like marry his sorry a**. I didn't and I just caught him cheating (again) 3 months after our wedding. He's going into therapy, and we're trying to make it work, but sometimes I wish I had just walked, you know? You deserve waaaay better. Hey, come on now, we're not all that bad. Its guys like that that give guys like us here a bad rep you know? stressed jerks.....I think in this case, though, Chachi Locke is right. Just because we've had a run of shitty luck doesn't mean there isn't someone wonderful out there. Don't give up!!! Just keep looking 3nodding And it's okay about my husband. We're making it through, one step at a time. I strictly believe in keeping my vows, even if he doesn't, so I'll work at it with him. But if he won't try then I'm outta' here. It's kinda' scary facing the prospect of divorce when your about to give birth and you have no marketable job skills because you're disabled sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 11:06 am
Um, yikes. eek
How are you disabled?
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