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Guys, I need some help. A couple weeks ago, I met this cute boy at a Halo party (That's like a nerd version of spin the bottle. xDDD) And I instantly liked him. He seemed friendly, and invited me back (I was only there as a guest) and yesterday, While I was skipping, he ran into me, told me he got suspended from school and invited me back to his house for a bit. I'm not calling it a date, but it felt kinda-sorta like one. ^-^;; So back at his house, I found out his name was Aaron (Is that how you spell the name? I seem to recall it had a "y" in it instead of an "o" too, but that doesn't look right...) he was studying to be a mechanic, and he was scared of heights. AND MYUUUU HE'S CUUUUUTE. Ahem.

We ended up trying to fix his "s**t bike" (It's what he calls it) and eventually, we gave up and headed into town, where I got us both italian sodas (If you haven't tried them, I HIGHLY recommend them to you) And he ordered kiwi watermelon. <3 He said he couldn't finish it, gave it to me.

Then we went to his... cousin's? house (He apparently has a very extended family in summerland), talked to his druggie cousin (He assured me she's clean, but she was obviously hungover from something....) and wrestled. Yes. The great fairy mendori wrestled someone to the ground. cool Granted, he's thirteen, but SHUT UP. IT'S LEGAL HERE.

So we ended up doing a bunch of random crap and then went to SADI to relax, where I met some friends and started being more phairylike again. X_X He got uncomfortable, and told me he was leaving after a while, and now that I think back on it, that was a clear invitation to go with him. >_> DAMN ME.

Anyways. The kid's basically a juvenile deliquent, though apparently he's never been arrested. He smokes pot sometimes (very rarely, he assures me), "carhops" regularly, and he's apparently had a whole lot of sex with his girlfriend. He does call himself a christian, and there are some clues he's been giving off that make me think he's gay in denial. He seems desparate to make himself seem "not gay", I caught him hugging all his female friends, (Awwwww) and when he said he wasn't gay, he said [LYKQUOTE]I'm not gay, I'm Christian, Christians are against gays."[LYKENDQUOTE] and he was totally blushing as he said it and obviously embarressed, Which makes me think he's trying to convince himself.

SO. The after-tax five-hundred-thousand-dollar-question: How do I get him to start being more Christlike (or give it up altogether) without letting myself get dragged down into what he does, AND keep him either as a friend or as /more/? I admit, I DO need to get out more, but some of the stuff he does.... Meh, both of us could probably live without.

Ignore the "is being gay/having gay sex a sin" debate, please.

DISCUSS:

Him/me (YES THAT'S SLASH. =O)
Missionary dating
christian beliefs
the question I have above
my (not-really-a) date with him


OH YEAH. Ever since then, I've had this feeling in my chest and stomach, like total emptiness and I can't fill it up no matter how much I eat. Is that heartache? ;-;


<3 Thank you, all!

EDIT:: I'm male, just to clarify. AND NO DISCUSSING THE IS BEING GAY A SIN THING. That's for other threads, and I'd really like to get some actual advice on the topic at hand.

wait...him aren't you a dude...!!?!?!?!!?!?!? gonk

EDIT: I saw the bottom half of your post now...so yea.... and actually now that I know your gay I have a few question for you?

.,..you're a guy, I never put that together!

...oops. Wrong guild. redface

anyways yes, I would like to ask you those question now do you wish to do it over pm or in this guild?

well the reason I ask this is because I feel it would be enlightening, yet at the same time I wish to ask questions that aren't exactly wholesome, and this is a christian guild and I'd rather not cause the spiritual stumbling of some people if you know what I mean.

That would explain it. I thought everyone had gone completely insane for a moment (I must be in the other guild, or I am better at picking up the hints?)

Him/me (YES THAT'S SLASH. =O)
Dates are gross. Everyone should become a monk/nun (that is my excuse for never going on dates, well that and I think I am too young... or was. Forget it.)

Missionary dating
Dating a non-believer? I personally don't think it is the best idea, although it can work for strong Christians I suppose. It is much easier to pull someone down, than to pull someone up

christian beliefs
Christians should not be against gays. We should love them as much as everyone else. Last time I checked, they were human... are you human?

the question I have above
Open his mouth, shove a Bible down his throat. That should work. Yep. No doubt about it.

I don't really know. Pray. Always pray. Talk to him about it.

my (not-really-a) date with him
Well seeing as your talking to the man of a thousand dates/ not-dates... I have no clue.

I deem missionary-dating wrong: you're trying to impose your will on someone. Besides, if you don't love that person for who he/she is, then what is the point in dating anyway? And Christians can date non-believers, but most Christians in this guild are extremists, it's true. I know plenty of people who you'd never think are Christian, but they still are. They just aren't as obsessed.
I hope this isn't too offending...