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 Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 10:07 pm
Well I kinda need some advice...This doesnt have anything to do with lolita really and Im sorry for that...anyway...
Ive never had a crush or fallen in love before,I guess Ive never thought about things like that until now.But now theres this guy...he's alittle older,and when he comes around me I just feel so strange...My heart races and my words get slurred,I cant even finish a sentance.About 8 months ago he got married and has a child now...But I still feel this way.I hate myself for it.How do I make it stop??I dont want to feel this way about married man....
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Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 9:50 am
Awww! Seems like you really love this person. The best thing is to respect that he's got a new life now, so try not to interfere. It'd be selfish to only consider your feelings and no one elses *specifically his wife*. It's gonna hurt at first, but you should forget about him. Focus upon what qualities you find so enticing in him and use those same qualities to find someone new, possibly around the same age of yours. It hurts to fall in love with an older man because you fear they'll think you're too young to know what love really feels like, and unless he's secretly in love with you, I'm sorry to say that he most likely thinks of this as foolish youth. While I'm all for following your heart, *I'm a hopeless romantic*, in matters like this I find it best you listen to logic. It's gonna hurt, but, you don't wanna end up feeling how I did when I loved someone older.
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Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 11:11 am
Hello!Kuu~Chan Awww! Seems like you really love this person. The best thing is to respect that he's got a new life now, so try not to interfere. It'd be selfish to only consider your feelings and no one elses *specifically his wife*. It's gonna hurt at first, but you should forget about him. Focus upon what qualities you find so enticing in him and use those same qualities to find someone new, possibly around the same age of yours. It hurts to fall in love with an older man because you fear they'll think you're too young to know what love really feels like, and unless he's secretly in love with you, I'm sorry to say that he most likely thinks of this as foolish youth. While I'm all for following your heart, *I'm a hopeless romantic*, in matters like this I find it best you listen to logic. It's gonna hurt, but, you don't wanna end up feeling how I did when I loved someone older. It sounds like you know what your talking about.Thanks.I have considered other people's feelings,and thats why Im trying to forget all this and go on,but you see it upsets me because his wife cheats on him.She doesnt appreciate him and only married him for money sad And that bothers me the most
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Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 12:45 pm
Blackrose Kaire Hello!Kuu~Chan Awww! Seems like you really love this person. The best thing is to respect that he's got a new life now, so try not to interfere. It'd be selfish to only consider your feelings and no one elses *specifically his wife*. It's gonna hurt at first, but you should forget about him. Focus upon what qualities you find so enticing in him and use those same qualities to find someone new, possibly around the same age of yours. It hurts to fall in love with an older man because you fear they'll think you're too young to know what love really feels like, and unless he's secretly in love with you, I'm sorry to say that he most likely thinks of this as foolish youth. While I'm all for following your heart, *I'm a hopeless romantic*, in matters like this I find it best you listen to logic. It's gonna hurt, but, you don't wanna end up feeling how I did when I loved someone older. It sounds like you know what your talking about.Thanks.I have considered other people's feelings,and thats why Im trying to forget all this and go on,but you see it upsets me because his wife cheats on him.She doesnt appreciate him and only married him for money sad And that bothers me the most Well, if *I* was you (and you shouldn't listen to me, I give terrible advice] I'd just go for it. That really is bad advice though. If I was nicer and less selfish, I would agree with Kuu-chan. Dx
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Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 1:23 pm
Screw her, take him for yourself. xD
Okay, so this wouldn't be right, would it. ^^;
I'm probably not the best person to give advice, i've never went on a date with anyone, but I understand how it feels. (I've 'admired' the same guy for about two years now, I see him every summer where I volunteer, he even lives in the same subdivision I live in. But I just can't even talk to him ever, I get so nervous and say stupid things. xD lolz. My heart beats so fast, and I get so nervous.) It's difficult to change suddenly, you can't just wake up one day and forget about someone you care about. I'd just give it time. Maybe talk to other guys, you'll eventually find someone else. It's kinda a cheesy cliche, but 'theres other fish in the sea.' Don't hate yourself for it, It's something that happens to everybody and you can't really help how you feel. :3
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 9:53 am
Blackrose Kaire Hello!Kuu~Chan Awww! Seems like you really love this person. The best thing is to respect that he's got a new life now, so try not to interfere. It'd be selfish to only consider your feelings and no one elses *specifically his wife*. It's gonna hurt at first, but you should forget about him. Focus upon what qualities you find so enticing in him and use those same qualities to find someone new, possibly around the same age of yours. It hurts to fall in love with an older man because you fear they'll think you're too young to know what love really feels like, and unless he's secretly in love with you, I'm sorry to say that he most likely thinks of this as foolish youth. While I'm all for following your heart, *I'm a hopeless romantic*, in matters like this I find it best you listen to logic. It's gonna hurt, but, you don't wanna end up feeling how I did when I loved someone older. It sounds like you know what your talking about.Thanks.I have considered other people's feelings,and thats why Im trying to forget all this and go on,but you see it upsets me because his wife cheats on him.She doesnt appreciate him and only married him for money sad And that bothers me the most
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 11:25 am
I say just stay out of it. There is a child in the picture, and sometimes relationships with a cheating spouse do work out. Just because she cheats on him would not justify you trying to come into the picture. Let things work out on their own. Love is tough, its a good lesson to learn when you're young.
Someone suggested trying to find the qualities you like in the person, and locating someone else with those same qualities. I agree. Age is just a number, but don't ever rush into anything, make sure of what exactly your feelings are, and know the difference between love and infatuation.
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 2:38 pm
Iluvnekokunsmile I say just stay out of it. There is a child in the picture, and sometimes relationships with a cheating spouse do work out. Just because she cheats on him would not justify you trying to come into the picture. Let things work out on their own. Love is tough, its a good lesson to learn when you're young. Someone suggested trying to find the qualities you like in the person, and locating someone else with those same qualities. I agree. Age is just a number, but don't ever rush into anything, make sure of what exactly your feelings are, and know the difference between love and infatuation. Yeah I understand the whole child in the picture thing,besides Im too young to get involved with him anyway i suposse
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 2:40 pm
Hello!Kuu~Chan Blackrose Kaire Hello!Kuu~Chan Awww! Seems like you really love this person. The best thing is to respect that he's got a new life now, so try not to interfere. It'd be selfish to only consider your feelings and no one elses *specifically his wife*. It's gonna hurt at first, but you should forget about him. Focus upon what qualities you find so enticing in him and use those same qualities to find someone new, possibly around the same age of yours. It hurts to fall in love with an older man because you fear they'll think you're too young to know what love really feels like, and unless he's secretly in love with you, I'm sorry to say that he most likely thinks of this as foolish youth. While I'm all for following your heart, *I'm a hopeless romantic*, in matters like this I find it best you listen to logic. It's gonna hurt, but, you don't wanna end up feeling how I did when I loved someone older. It sounds like you know what your talking about.Thanks.I have considered other people's feelings,and thats why Im trying to forget all this and go on,but you see it upsets me because his wife cheats on him.She doesnt appreciate him and only married him for money sad And that bothers me the most Thank you i really appreciate your advice 3nodding If its simply a crush it should go away in time right?
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 3:50 am
hopefully the crush will go away.
i had a crush on this one guy for years...
and it still lingers, but now.
i don't think of it as a crush anymore.
just fond memories of a great friendship.
if all else fails, go to Lacuna. :]
(re: eternal sunshine of the spotless mind)
i wish you the best~ heart
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 12:20 pm
Blackrose Kaire Hello!Kuu~Chan Blackrose Kaire Hello!Kuu~Chan Awww! Seems like you really love this person. The best thing is to respect that he's got a new life now, so try not to interfere. It'd be selfish to only consider your feelings and no one elses *specifically his wife*. It's gonna hurt at first, but you should forget about him. Focus upon what qualities you find so enticing in him and use those same qualities to find someone new, possibly around the same age of yours. It hurts to fall in love with an older man because you fear they'll think you're too young to know what love really feels like, and unless he's secretly in love with you, I'm sorry to say that he most likely thinks of this as foolish youth. While I'm all for following your heart, *I'm a hopeless romantic*, in matters like this I find it best you listen to logic. It's gonna hurt, but, you don't wanna end up feeling how I did when I loved someone older. It sounds like you know what your talking about.Thanks.I have considered other people's feelings,and thats why Im trying to forget all this and go on,but you see it upsets me because his wife cheats on him.She doesnt appreciate him and only married him for money sad And that bothers me the most Thank you i really appreciate your advice 3nodding If its simply a crush it should go away in time right?
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 8:17 pm
Hello!Kuu~Chan Blackrose Kaire Hello!Kuu~Chan Blackrose Kaire Hello!Kuu~Chan Awww! Seems like you really love this person. The best thing is to respect that he's got a new life now, so try not to interfere. It'd be selfish to only consider your feelings and no one elses *specifically his wife*. It's gonna hurt at first, but you should forget about him. Focus upon what qualities you find so enticing in him and use those same qualities to find someone new, possibly around the same age of yours. It hurts to fall in love with an older man because you fear they'll think you're too young to know what love really feels like, and unless he's secretly in love with you, I'm sorry to say that he most likely thinks of this as foolish youth. While I'm all for following your heart, *I'm a hopeless romantic*, in matters like this I find it best you listen to logic. It's gonna hurt, but, you don't wanna end up feeling how I did when I loved someone older. It sounds like you know what your talking about.Thanks.I have considered other people's feelings,and thats why Im trying to forget all this and go on,but you see it upsets me because his wife cheats on him.She doesnt appreciate him and only married him for money sad And that bothers me the most Thank you i really appreciate your advice 3nodding If its simply a crush it should go away in time right? Thatd be great if the last thing you said was true whee ..Unless the person is a really bad pervert eek
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 10:08 pm
Iluvnekokunsmile Age is just a number, but don't ever rush into anything, make sure of what exactly your feelings are, and know the difference between love and infatuation. I agree, theres nothing wrong with an age difference (age difference between my mom and dad is about 10 years) but its important to take things slowly so you can find out what your feelings are. Good luck with your relationships 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 4:17 am
I agree with everyone else, you need to work on slowly getting over him. If he's off and married then he's not Mr. Right. And that means that Mr. Right is still out there looking for you and will make you even happier than you being with this guy would.
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Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 5:21 pm
Nanie Chama I agree with everyone else, you need to work on slowly getting over him. If he's off and married then he's not Mr. Right. And that means that Mr. Right is still out there looking for you and will make you even happier than you being with this guy would.
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