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 Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2007 1:08 pm
Being in high school, I'm faced with many things that SAtan likes to attack me with. Sex, drugs, cursing, and putting other down for my own benefit. I'm sure this is the same for many of you.
But lately, I've noticed, that almost everyone in my school has had sex already..even my closest friends!!! It scares me, and makes me a little sad, because it makes me feel that the only way for me to get involved w/ someone, is if I 'do it' with them.
Of course I never would!! It just scares me, that's all.
So am I the only one who believes they should save themselves for marraige? If not please reply. I can't do this alone.
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Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2007 1:20 pm
Do you mean abstinence?
I'm pretty sure that you're not the only person in the world who plans to wait until marriage to have sex. confused
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Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2007 2:21 pm
wow, there are others willing to wait xd
actually, statistically P are virgins... so you and half of the school are unsexed, and also most of your school MUST be lying...
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Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2007 2:55 pm
I'm in high school too, and I'm waiting. I plan on waiting until my wedding night to have sex for the first time. It's a special thing I only want to share with one person.
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Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2007 6:21 pm
Well i plan on waiting till marriage. Even if i find the perfect guy who i love, it's not gonna happen. You should be proud, and i'm glad you're not gonna give in. Dignity! =) Plus, i'm just gonna listen to what God has said. Yep.
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Posted: Fri Apr 06, 2007 1:39 am
I plan on waiting til marriage. I'm still not sure what marriage is though, given that the Catholic Church started it around the 8th century. ^-^;
Yes, for those who wonder, marriage to a male.
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Posted: Fri Apr 06, 2007 8:00 am
British_Crumpet Being in high school, I'm faced with many things that SAtan likes to attack me with. Sex, drugs, cursing, and putting other down for my own benefit. I'm sure this is the same for many of you.
But lately, I've noticed, that almost everyone in my school has had sex already..even my closest friends!!! It scares me, and makes me a little sad, because it makes me feel that the only way for me to get involved w/ someone, is if I 'do it' with them.
Of course I never would!! It just scares me, that's all.
So am I the only one who believes they should save themselves for marraige? If not please reply. I can't do this alone. You are not the only one. mrgreen In my High School years, I have suffered the same environment especially when I truly became a Christian. Sex, drugs, and society became a dodge ball game. As a man in my teen years, sex was important because it "makes you a man." That's a bunch of lies... Today at the age of 21, I still have not commit sexual immorality. It was not by my own power but it was God who helped me to dodge unholy acts of the world. I do have people ask me these kinds of questions but I'm glad to say, "I'm saving sex for marriage." I do suffer temptation but I must try my hardest to stay pure for God and my wife. Its a daily struggle for me because I know I'm weak. May God help us through are struggles.
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Posted: Fri Apr 06, 2007 1:34 pm
Kuroi Kokoro no Mendori I plan on waiting til marriage. I'm still not sure what marriage is though, given that the Catholic Church started it around the 8th century. ^-^; Maybe the wedding ceremony as we know it, but marriage has been around as long as women. When God created Eve, she was at first called Adam's Wife. But if that isn't clear enough, a few chapters later, it talks about marriage again, over and over through out Genesis. There is a lot of marriage before the 8th century, so it is not something started by the Catholics, although the traditional wester wedding service may have been. But it is good to wait to have sex until marriage. Sex is a deep emotional thing, it is not to be taken lightly. These people around you who are sexually active are struggling with the issues this deep emotional connection has when taken lightly. not to mention stuff like STD's and unwanted pregnancies go way down when people wait until marriage. Don't get me wrong, there is much more to marriage then a license to have sex, but God's plan for sex was designed for marriage.
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Posted: Fri Apr 06, 2007 2:07 pm
Seraph68 Kuroi Kokoro no Mendori I plan on waiting til marriage. I'm still not sure what marriage is though, given that the Catholic Church started it around the 8th century. ^-^; Maybe the wedding ceremony as we know it, but marriage has been around as long as women. When God created Eve, she was at first called Adam's Wife. But if that isn't clear enough, a few chapters later, it talks about marriage again, over and over through out Genesis. There is a lot of marriage before the 8th century, so it is not something started by the Catholics, although the traditional wester wedding service may have been. But it is good to wait to have sex until marriage. Sex is a deep emotional thing, it is not to be taken lightly. These people around you who are sexually active are struggling with the issues this deep emotional connection has when taken lightly. not to mention stuff like STD's and unwanted pregnancies go way down when people wait until marriage. Don't get me wrong, there is much more to marriage then a license to have sex, but God's plan for sex was designed for marriage. Yes, I realize that it's only the formal concept of marriage that the Catholic Church started, but should I have to go through with the ceremony at all? Jesus's death freed us from having to follow all the ceremonies in life, so what's now required to be married? Is it just two people saying to God, "Oi, we're married now" and then screwing like rabbits? If we do have to go through with a ceremony, what's the right one? Until I can answer these questions, I don't plan on getting married. ^-^
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Posted: Fri Apr 06, 2007 3:38 pm
Seraph68 Maybe the wedding ceremony as we know it, but marriage has been around as long as women. When God created Eve, she was at first called Adam's Wife. But if that isn't clear enough, a few chapters later, it talks about marriage again, over and over through out Genesis. There is a lot of marriage before the 8th century, so it is not something started by the Catholics, although the traditional wester wedding service may have been. Actually, from my understanding, many of the traditions of Western marriage are heavily influenced by Roman marriage customs. Which makes sense when you think about it. I'd imagine that the Jews adopted some of their practises, and in turn the Christians picked it up from the Jews, and the Catholic church eventually made it all shiny and official. Quote: But it is good to wait to have sex until marriage. Sex is a deep emotional thing, it is not to be taken lightly. These people around you who are sexually active are struggling with the issues this deep emotional connection has when taken lightly. not to mention stuff like STD's and unwanted pregnancies go way down when people wait until marriage. Don't get me wrong, there is much more to marriage then a license to have sex, but God's plan for sex was designed for marriage. Not nessarily. You don't magically become immune to STDs once you're married, and just because you're married doesn't mean that you want/are ready to have children right off the bat. I don't think that waiting until marriage to have sex is bad by any means, but I just think that people need to realise that even when you're married, all the risks of sex still come into play. Marriage is not a cure-all for some of the nastier consequences of sex, and shouldn't be treated as such. Logic and common sense still need to be exercised.
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 7:41 am
SinfulGuillotine Not nessarily. You don't magically become immune to STDs once you're married, and just because you're married doesn't mean that you want/are ready to have children right off the bat. I don't think that waiting until marriage to have sex is bad by any means, but I just think that people need to realise that even when you're married, all the risks of sex still come into play. Marriage is not a cure-all for some of the nastier consequences of sex, and shouldn't be treated as such. Logic and common sense still need to be exercised. Theoretically if you've both remained virgins, then the risk of gettin an STD does go down tremendously. It's still there, but not nearly as high. However, unwanted pregnancies are still a problem. Women who get abortions are usually either teenagers or older married women. Marriage doesn't make you want every baby you have. It doesn't mean that there won't be emotionally hurtful consequences to sex sometimes. Marriage is a bit too much of a cure-all in many people's eyes, however I see it as the best route. That's just my opinion, though.
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 1:09 pm
Berezi SinfulGuillotine Not nessarily. You don't magically become immune to STDs once you're married, and just because you're married doesn't mean that you want/are ready to have children right off the bat. I don't think that waiting until marriage to have sex is bad by any means, but I just think that people need to realise that even when you're married, all the risks of sex still come into play. Marriage is not a cure-all for some of the nastier consequences of sex, and shouldn't be treated as such. Logic and common sense still need to be exercised. Theoretically if you've both remained virgins, then the risk of gettin an STD does go down tremendously. It's still there, but not nearly as high. However, unwanted pregnancies are still a problem. Women who get abortions are usually either teenagers or older married women. Marriage doesn't make you want every baby you have. It doesn't mean that there won't be emotionally hurtful consequences to sex sometimes. Marriage is a bit too much of a cure-all in many people's eyes, however I see it as the best route. That's just my opinion, though. Well, there's always the possibility that your spouse lied about being a virgin upon meeting you and/or that they contracted a disease that can be transmitted sexually through non-sexual means (most STDs can be contracted through ways other than sex). And then there's always a possibility (a high possibility, actually, based on some of the statistics out there) that your spouse will be unfaithful to you somewhere down the line. Those aren't things that most people seem to want to think about. It's always a "That would never happen to me" kind of thing. But honestly, I think it's dangerous to not think about it. I'm of the opinion that everyone should have a full range of STD tests done before they become sexually active, and even if they're in a long-term monogamous relationship with someone who is supossedly clean, I think it's a good idea to get tested once a year or so. Many STDs are curable, and even the big bad HIV is becoming more and more treatable; moreso if you catch it early. And if even you go through 50 years of negative STD tests, at least you'll know. Am I paranoid? Probably. But I think in this case, being paranoid is better than leaving things to chance. I work with AIDS patients, and I'll tell you, most people would probably be surprised how many married men and women got it from their spouse. So no, marriage is not a cure-all. Better? Probably. But you're never "safe."
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 2:31 pm
This is becoming a debate thread... Whoops I blinked and it already became a debate thread...
Anyways, I can't help that I have to save sex until marriage. It's the only way I'll have sex anyways seeing how no one's gonna date me. emo (rofl)
But seriously, eh. I don't really care for sex. It's just become another one of those actions that gets taken advantage of.
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 4:32 pm
The Noble Protoman.exe This is becoming a debate thread... Whoops I blinked and it already became a debate thread... Anyways, I can't help that I have to save sex until marriage. It's the only way I'll have sex anyways seeing how no one's gonna date me. emo (rofl) But seriously, eh. I don't really care for sex. It's just become another one of those actions that gets taken advantage of. I agree. And you're not alone in the nobody-will-date- you category.
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 5:26 pm
I know what you mean. I was thought for the longest time that I was an un-date-able one ... until I discovered what God was trying to say to me.
It's okay to have friendships, close friendships even, when you are still in middle school/high school--they can help you to grow. But don't forget what your main focus is to be: being a better mirror for the Lord. Sometimes He keeps us from getting into situations that we crave--such as dating--because He KNOWS we would be in over our heads. He also does this to try to get us to understand that we should not be striving for anyone else's approval but His. To me, He was a bit more specific: how can you possibly handle a mature relationship--like dating is--when you cannot be satisfied with Me?
But, sometimes, He allows to get into those situations so that we can see what He was trying to protect us from.
Your decision to abstain or practice abstinence is a wise one, and I can tell you, from my own personal experience, why. The gift that you give of yourself is only meant to be given to one person: your spouse. That is why the strength of emotions and feelings run so high when you get around someone you are attracted to who is attracted to you. But giving yourself to someone other than your spouse sets you up for all sorts of hurt, because once you give that gift, you can't take it back. You can't undo what you have done. And you can carry regret into other relationships, sometimes erecting insurmountable barriers where God wanted you to have an intimate relationship.
You also will almost always have feelings for the first person you gave yourself to, and their rejection will be the most painful and the most complete. The fire and the heat and the passion that the movies portray, and that everyone seems to want, can only be there if you BOTH are novices, if you BOTH are virgins. That will make everything all the sweeter, all the better for you. And those feelings of fire and passion may fade, but you will still LOVE each other, holding on to each other and the Father, until the fire sneaks back into your lives again.
That's the way the Father meant it to be. *shakes head sadly* Don't throw that away.
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