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 Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2007 12:28 pm
I was looking for my guitar teacher on myspace to see if he had one yet... and I saw a woman my mom's age in the same county with a name that goes along with us having sled dogs. So I peeked of course, and it was her. I skimmed over it and something caught my eye. "Don't want kids"? I admit that was rather shocking. I found it months ago. I was thinking about it today after she yelled at me for not wanting to feed the dogs. Then I thought to when my older sister and her were fighting. My sister was going to move out because they fought so much (sometimes physically). They were just talking and my mom was explaining things to her. I overheard her tell my sister that we were both mistakes. My dad was going to leave my mom with my sister but my mom got pregnant with me. He stayed and is probably the best dad one could hope for. I noticed recently my mom only cooks dinner when her boyfriend (a lousy excuse for a man, if you ask me) is hungry. The dogs are fed every night, but I'm not >.> She's slowly started treating me like a cow pie. I don't mind being put second but this is really starting to hurt my feelings. Would one say I'm over-reacting or what?  Edit: since I forgot to censor a part... I ask that you don't look her up, send her stuff and such because I'd get in a lot of trouble and honestly... why would you do that? I'm not supposed to know about it and I bet no one else is either. So please, just talk to me and not her.
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Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2007 1:56 pm
Er.. All I can say, is be optimistic about it?
Maybe she meant she didn't want any kids NOW. . since, she already has some? sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2007 5:53 pm
: / I don't know... there is a "undecided" or "no answer" option...
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Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2007 9:50 pm
She probably meant she doesn't want any more kids right now. People go on MySpace to meet others (or the very vain, who wish to make their own personal shrine), and it's normal for others to be curious as to whether they want any kids from that point on. I wouldn't be too concerned.
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 4:01 pm
Maybe she means she doesnt want any more kids. She could just be having a rough spot...
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 7:59 pm
But there's always that "undecided" or "no answer" option... Just confuses the crap out of me. I switch houses and I spend a week at each parent's house. I noticed I'm at my dad's almost 2 weeks before she's "ready" to meet up and have me over. They live about 15 minutes apart and there's honestly nothing she does that would consume that much time.
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 8:40 pm
This is just my opinion, and I am usualy very pesimistic, but I think she realy regrets having you.
Now understand that I am not saying anything bad about you, just that your mother sounds like,...how to put subtly...
A c**t.
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 11:41 am
Er.. Myspace... It changes to "Don't want kids" when someone first makes a profile.
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Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2007 10:41 am
You and me, we have something in common
Ok first off I do not like to be in favor of a situation. My opinion to everything is to see it in any number of ways and see why this problem is occurring. BUT I have been in this situation before and am I to understand that you are of younger age? If so this is devastating because a child’s mind being messed up by someone like there mother is way too unbearable and I have survived and lived thought this. If at some point it seams like I am ranting I apologize and you may be able to ignore what I am about to say.
First of all I would like to say that it may not be intentional of your mom because as a human there is many ways’s to show “affection” to other people. For example my father is a secluded man and likes to be by himself. He has cheated on my mother and my mother has yet to respond to this after even she fully knew what is going on. Regardless, before he was cheating on her my father would take out his anger by working outside and building stuff, crapy stuff but stuff none the less. Never once saying to anyone that he loves or cares for them in the family, except when he is drunk. Though what they say “A drunken man is a sober man’s emotions” I never believed this in the case of my father. Though I seek affection and caring, I don’t know why (and just to make it clear I am a male), I always wanted to hear “I love you” or “thank you son” or any of those combinations but as I said I never heard them, but as the day’s lengthen I started to think whether or not my family even loved me. For 17 years I believed I was nothing more than there cow. To feed and care for till I’m 18 and get kicked out the house. As for now I still do believe that, but now I think of my self as there maid that they don’t have to pay. I have talked it with my mother and she says that yes she loves me and so does my father. But there way of showing it isn’t emotionally and forward. More of hidden in a way of “we will pay for your tuition” and “we will always worries about you” sort of way. I truly do not believe in this but then again I can’t complain.
Now as to if you should be worried, no… I strongly suggest not think about it too much. The constant strain in your mind will eventually be too much. You should just continue with life and never interact with your family about this. This will (and this is coming from experience) only lead to inevitable fighting and even worse if what you fear comes true it will devastate you. Do not hide from the world either; seeking help is a good way. I never did and I turned out pretty badly, continue to hang out and such and act like everything is ok. If your mother truly feels this way I apologize and have to say there would be no way you can fix it. For her saying she does not want kids it may only be that she does not want MORE kids.
Humans are hurtful and do not see who they are hurting. They also do not see the fact that the once they are hurting is there own chilled. Be careful with this subject and I suggest to talk it over with a non family and to people about this if it is too much for you. You may ask your friends but friends will tell you what you want to hear not what you should.
If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, or just want to talk to me further about this subject pm me. I would talk and figure things out with you as much as I can.
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Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2007 5:32 pm
Mr. Odd This is just my opinion, and I am usualy very pesimistic, but I think she realy regrets having you. Now understand that I am not saying anything bad about you, just that your mother sounds like,...how to put subtly... A c**t. I agree with Mr.Odd here. The whole situation with her not giving you dinner and what you found on what was presumably her MySpace is suspicious if you ask me.
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 6:43 am
Well I had some computer crashage so I havent been on. Thank you everyone and also thanks to Iternal Dragon, I suppose I'll just leave this go, after all I've about only 2 more years to go anyway. Thanks again.
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Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2007 1:32 am
you have every right to feel hurt about that.
all i can say, is that you need to work hard now, and set yourself up for the future. so that when push comes to shove you can leave and not have to look back.
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Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 7:21 pm
Little Labled Princess Er.. All I can say, is be optimistic about it? Maybe she meant she didn't want any kids NOW. . since, she already has some? sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 1:07 pm
My heart goes out to you. crying I don't know how old you are but one bright spot you can fix you eyes and heart on is, you will one day be old enough to leave!
A lot of women have children and when things get tough (money problems, husband problems or health problems), they wish they never had children and say things they don't really mean.
I really don't know what to tell you. Do you have other relatives that could take you in? What about grand parents?
Try to be strong and one day you can strike out on your own. There are many under age children in your situation. I'll say a pray for you and one for you mother to love her children. I wish I could reach out and physically help you but I can't. crying
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