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Yes, this is the thread where we can share problems, relate problems, and solve problems in our lives.
I wanted to make this thread because I love helping people, I'm sure we all do, and every now and then I'd like to spill out some problems I have.
(I tend to bottle up my emotions and feelings. Not a good habit.)
Please forgive me if this thread seems stupid, it's my first one in this guild.

yup i agree now if i need a place to vent i can come here and get advice and stuff smile

i am a drug abuser and my therapist tells me that i use them because i am afraid of what other people say about me. she says that i get high just so i can escape and be in my own little world, away from reality. i tell her that i'd stop but i really can't give it up..i feel like i've lied to so many people and the thing is i don't even feel guilty..

therapy. can be good are bad. if youre in it willingly it could help. if only to please your parents, and youre not doing it by freewill. it could actually do more damage. cause you to receed into a shell. causing further psycological damage.

this is a life issues place to vent and get advice maybe some one can help me.

my dearest mother (NOT) does drugs. and my grandma bails her out everytime. my grandma will buy her new clothes. will help her buy a new car and gat a job so that in about two months she can mess it all up agian by going on her stupid crusades against the world while being high on meth. i live with my dad so i dont have to see her. but i wouldnt mind see my aunts of uncles that live near her. unfortunatly she threatens them and harrasses them when they have some thing to do with me. she even harrassses me about idiotic things she dreams up while she's high. i was so sick of it once that i filed a restraining order against her because she threatened my step mom, my little brother, and even me. now i didnt see anything wrong with this but my grandma threatened to disown me. i am so pissed at everyone. why do i have to associate with my mom. she's only a mother by biological meanings! what they ****?! who is wrong was the restraining order bad and too extreme or was disowning me too extreme?

It's alright. THe restraining order is totally understandable if you feel that she is going to harm you or your family in any way then biological mother or not you have the right to do that. I think it's the smartest move on your part because you have the right to feel safe. As far as your grandmother goes I think she's rather in denial about it. I don't think she can really understand the harm that is going on to her daughter everytime she bails her out and that only just gives her an excuse to keep going. If your grandmother is going to disown you because you felt you were unsafe and have to give a restraining order then it's really a shame. What you and your mothers relationship is like should not effect your grandmothers. I don't understand how she can unconditionally love your mother then threaten to disown you because you don't feel safe around her. You should tell her how it makes you feel, tell her that you feel threatened or get another adult to help you out talk ot her and let her know what's going on. If she still wants to disown you then it's her fault she is loosing a chance to be with her grand daughter. I'm sorry though and I hope things get better.

Well I dont understand how I am shy, I dont want to be but I guess I am. I know that I can change this and I espicially act different around girls which is the wrong way to approach completly so I'm trying to change that about myself. so really I dont know what to do. I mean I dont want to be superficial but at the same time I like meeting new people its really ironic for the most part.