1. I wish you would not be afraid to mention my baby. The truth is just because you never saw my baby doesn't mean they don't deserve recognition.
2. I wish that if we did talk about my baby and I cried, you didn't think it was because you have hurt me by mentioning my baby. The truth is I need to cry and talk about my baby with you. Crying and emotional outbursts help me heal.
3. I wish that you could talk about my baby more than once. The truth is if you do, it reassures me that you haven't forgotten and that you do care and understand. We never want our baby to be forgotten.
4. I wish you wouldn't think that I don't want to talk about my baby. The truth is I love my baby and need to talk about him/her.
5. I wish you wouldn't think what has happened is one big bad memory for me. The truth is the memory of my baby, the love I feel for my baby, the dreams I had, and the memories I have created for my baby are all loving memories. Yes, there are bad memories too but please understand that it's not all like that.
6. I wish you wouldn't pretend that my baby never existed. The truth is we both know I had a baby growing inside me, even if it was just for a few months.
7. I wish you wouldn't think if I have a good day I'm "over it" or if I have a bad day I am being unreasonable because you think I should be over it. The truth is there is no "normal" way for me to act.
8. I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be "over and done with" in a few weeks, months, or years for that matter. The truth is it may get easier with time but I will never be "over" this.
9. I wish you wouldn't think that my baby wasn't really a baby and he/she was just blood and tissue or a fetus. The truth is my baby was a human life. My baby had a soul.. I have seen my baby's body and face in my dreams over and over again. My baby was real.
10. I wish you would understnad that on Mothers Day, celebration times, and the day I found out my baby didn't make it are all important and sad days for me. The truth is, I wish you could tell me you are thinking of me on these days.
11. I wish you understood that losing my baby has forever changed me. The truth is, I am not the same person I was before and will never be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back to ""normal" you will just stay frustrated. I am a new person with new thoughts, dreams, beliefs, and values. Please try to get to know the real me-I hope you'll still like me, but please know I will never be "the same".
12. I wish you wouldn't tell me I can try again. The truth is I want the baby I lost and no other baby can replace that baby. Babies aren't interchangeable.
13. I wish you would understand that being around pregnant women is uncomfortable for me and I just can't do it yet. The truth is I feel jealous. Even being around children can get to me on my bad days.
14. I wish you wouldn't say that this is natures way of telling me something was wrong with my baby. The truth is, my baby was perfect to me and still very wanted no matter what you think nature is saying.
15. I wish you would understand what you are really saying when you say "things will work out". The truth is that you don't know.
