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Well let me see I have been with this guy for 6 monthes the first 1 or 2 were fine but that he turned into this conrtroling suicidal freak who threatend that he would lkill himself if I left. He continusly called me a whore, and never learned to truest me. He was more insecure than anyone I have ever dated. I stayed with him long enough to fall in love with him, and that he turned into boyfriend from hell and negleted to leave him because I was stupid and amde the mistake I always make, "He says he'll get better, he says he'll change, I'll help him change." Why am I so stupid. He always said he had to worry about me being bi because than he was suspisious of both sex's. That shoulda been a red flag there, that I couldnt ever be trusted by him, he never would. I couldnt even be myself. I lied to him told him I was only intrested in girls if he wanted to introduce another one into the realtionship. He wasnt open like I thought he was. All he cared about was his mosic he movies and himself. On my birthday his mother went psycho and called me a whore, a psycho and a b***h. From that momment I knew this was coming. I knew I wasnt going to be able to call the house comfortably, let alone ever go there again. SO he went comping this weekend and I realised without him I had fun, I went to friends houses, I talked to who ever I wanted too, I wore whatever I wanted to.. it was great. He comes back today and starts yelling at me and calls me a whore, and said I didnt care. I care so much about everyone I take that as the biggest insult EVER. I even had to go to therpy because people called me a whore and he knew that, but yet he still continued to hurt me. So I called him up told him it was over I couldnt take it anymore, that I did love him but If I stayed I wouldnt be alive much long to be there to love him. He fought so hard against it and it made it so hard for me.. I sat here for a half an hour screaming and whaling and crying.. I know it was the right thing but it hurts soo much, for 15 minutes I just kepts repeating " I want him back" but I knew I couldnt... and not long ago he called back.. mom was on the phone so that made it easier but now shes not, and I'm doing this to distract myself from giving in and calling him becuase I know if I do I'll end up in his little black hole. Sorry this is so long but I needed to vent friends and failly are great, but I just like to let the world know how I feel sometiomes.. so now its over, I no longer have an adam that I can call mine.. Okay shut up brittaini you're going to get yourself going again... Sorry talking to myself ...

Not that I'm one to come to about guys...but I think you need to leave him. I had a pretty similiar...actually very similiar...relationship with a girl. I finally chose to break it. I thoguht I would die of the separation, but now that I have gotten over it I'm better then ever. You dont have to listen to me...it's just my opinion.

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Babes you can't stay with somebody like that. My ex pretended we'd get married and promised me loads of stuff. Then dumped me after 11 months. He'd not loved me for about 6-7 months of the relationship but stayed with me for sex. I pined for him for months and it just made me worse. You need to find a guy who treats you right. Emotional blackmail with suicide is not treating you right, nomatter how much you love him. Neither is physical abuse. Or mental abuse. Nomatter what he says, or what he does, it is NOT your fault. He was manipulating people; you, people you knew, his mother. You are NOT a whore. Unless somebody has paid you for sex you will NEVER be a whore. I hope the therapy works. I felt better when I was hanging out with friends who treated me right. THEY know what you are. And they know how special you are. You have a lot of love to give to the right person and you've proved that by staying with him even though he treated you bad. I hope everything works out and you find a guy who treats you right. You deserve it. Pm me if you ever get to low; I know how desperate you can get at those times and I'm always here to reply.

Omg, he called like 5more times last night, and I got so fed up I said go by to my rock (the person that has been through me throught the process) even though didnt want tooand went to bed. He called 3 more times, the last two I just said ******** it and picked it up. I tried not to give him false hope that there will ever be a chance but I think I did... I'm so ******** stupid I shouldnt have picked up at all... The words "When you can prove you've changed" And "I love you, I'm not going to lie, but I'm hurt right now, just give me some time to heal". Now that I look back on it I feel like such a horrible person, I want to ignore him completly but I promised we could talk about it today.. Hes only beating a dead horse. It's over, I'm not going back on that. When he called he said something to the effect of "Was everything you said true, are we really over" And it took me like five minutes just to spit out the word yes...God it hurts sooo much. I cried practically all night, AND I DONT CRY. Since the time I was 10 I turned into stone, no one and nothing could make me cry, not event he death of my closest reletive, and now I regret not letting them emotions out than, because everything is coming out now. I've been crying since I've been awake. I just can't stop. Hey have any of you seen the Sex In the City eposode when one of them says "The amount of time it takes to get over someone you love is half the amount of tim eyou were with them"? I wonder if thats true, I dont want it to be, I want to be over him now.. I never thought this day would come.. I mean I dont want to be alone..I'm gonna miss being called his little strawberry bunny (I know its cheesy but it worked when I was sad.) I'm gonna miss playing dice with his familly or helping his preppy little sister strech her ears. I'm going to miss how hewould alwasy kiss my forhead when I did something wrong, and say it was ok. I'm gonna miss that house, that room, that bed, those songs, those movies.... Sitting around the fire, I'm going to miss the piggy back rides and the butterfly kisses..I'm going to miss being told I'm loved every night before I sleep... I'm going to miss coming home and seeing his number on my phone...And the little doodles I would draw of our names.. I'm gonna miss his smell, How pathetic is that...

Hey, Kaz, I'm really sorry to hear about all that..I would have told you the same thing as Eeevie did (minus the exrelationship part) if she didn't post first. If you ever want to, you can come to me..Although I told you that before, didn't I? Oh well. I sincerely hope things get better for you..

no offense but this type of post is the reason I decided to stop spending all my time in here and reinvent my guild. stare

I would have to say that you're stupid for picking up the phone. But I was in your same shoes when I was still straight. The best advice I can give you is to give yourself time and space. Get away from him and get over him. You can't talk to him until you do that. Don't think about if he needs you. You need to heal and repair your heart right now.

My last boyfriend, before I realized I just liked girls, told me after two and a half years of dating that he loved another more than he had ever loved me if he had ever loved me at all.

So be comforted, if not happy, in the fact that you were the mature one who realized it was an unhealthy relationship. That's the most important thing, in my opinion. It's making that choice. Then it's like rehab. You're fighting against relapse. Just hang in there and keep strong. The more time you put inbetween you two, the easier it will be to say 'No, I can't be with you anymore.' And that's where you want to be with this kind of guy.

*hugs* It will all turn out okay if you really want it to.