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 Posted: Sat Feb 17, 2007 10:29 pm
Alright guys. I'm a Senior in High School, and I live in america. My Boyfriend is two years younger then I am. We're sexually active, and we are okay with that. His mom is fine with it, and no one else really knows. Well... Lucky me, I'm Pregnant. I haven't ever been this scared. I've done two tests on myself and both said the same as I've said above. Right now, We're more scared the anything. My boyfriend is amazing though, He's somewhat calm, and he's being a great person overall. He even gave me money to buy the tests! Right now, I don't know what to do. It's been two days (Today's Sunday) since we found out for sure. We haven't told anyone, however, we are planning on telling his mom today because she would atleast be understanding. My parents will flip when they find out, and I'll probably be killed or atleast beaten within an inch of life, so telling them is out of the question.
I guess I need help, or whatever you're willing to give me at this point. I'm exhasted from hiding this and it's only been two days! I have to wait another four-ish months to even talk to my parents! O.O! dramallama to yeah...
Help?
- Kitten
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Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 10:18 am
I don't understand why waiting 4 months to tell your parents is a good idea?
First and foremost, you NEED to tell your parents ASAP. You are under their insurance. Regardless of your decision (abortion, keep the baby, a form of a adoption), you NEED to seek medical care.
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Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 4:12 pm
I agree with luna that you should tell your parents as soon as possible. It won't be easy, but it needs to be done. I know that if I had a pregnant teen, I would be more angry if she kept that information from me. I certainly would not be happy about the pregnancy at first, but I would want her to get the medical attention and prenatal vitamins and everything else that she needs.
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Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 8:06 pm
Update: We've told my boyfriend's mom. She's offered to buy everything and help us out as much as possible. We're saving a lot of money for everything, and we have decided to keep the baby. His mom is very calm and collected about it, and didn't get mad, which is what we were expecting. My boyfriend is more in a shell-shock about it, but he's getting over it, and overall, things are going good.
The reason why I'm waiting to tell my parents is because I'd probably be kicked out. I'd like to wait until I'm legal ( 18 ) to be able to tell them. I'd also like to wait until our vacation is over with, but I don't think that will happen. Alot of stuff I've planned is going to dissapear now, so I'm dealing with that.
Thank you all,
Kitten
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Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 3:18 am
Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend's mom about how you feel about telling your parents. If she could put you up, that would be wonderful.
But waiting isn't and is a good idea.
On one hand, after the third tirmester the risk of miscarriage drops and at 20 weeks(4 months)it drops again. If you were to miscarry, that would be the time for it to happen(but it hopefully won't!).
On the other hand, those first four months are when you need the most care because your baby is growing so rapidly.
Your best decision is to tell your parents and see how they react.
I'm in the same boat with you with my fiance's parents.
Good luck!
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Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 8:39 pm
LonesLover Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend's mom about how you feel about telling your parents. If she could put you up, that would be wonderful. But waiting isn't and is a good idea. On one hand, after the third tirmester the risk of miscarriage drops and at 20 weeks(4 months)it drops again. If you were to miscarry, that would be the time for it to happen(but it hopefully won't!). On the other hand, those first four months are when you need the most care because your baby is growing so rapidly. Your best decision is to tell your parents and see how they react. I'm in the same boat with you with my fiance's parents. Good luck! Talked to his mom, and she agrees that It would probably be best for me to wait. They have a spare room that I could "rent" from them, but I'd probably be in my bf's bed hanging out with him. I'd still pay rent though. Waiting is better because I won't get beaten into a bloody pulp, and I won't get kicked out until later. Once they kick me out, they can pretty much do anything, and since I'm not legally 18 yet, I could be called a runaway and get sent to jail. Once I'm 18, they can't really do anything about it and they really don't have a say in my life. That's what I'm waiting for. - Kitten PS: Thank you and I like your Avi btw!
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Posted: Tue Feb 20, 2007 1:41 am
VampireKitten0000 LonesLover Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend's mom about how you feel about telling your parents. If she could put you up, that would be wonderful. But waiting isn't and is a good idea. On one hand, after the third tirmester the risk of miscarriage drops and at 20 weeks(4 months)it drops again. If you were to miscarry, that would be the time for it to happen(but it hopefully won't!). On the other hand, those first four months are when you need the most care because your baby is growing so rapidly. Your best decision is to tell your parents and see how they react. I'm in the same boat with you with my fiance's parents. Good luck! Talked to his mom, and she agrees that It would probably be best for me to wait. They have a spare room that I could "rent" from them, but I'd probably be in my bf's bed hanging out with him. I'd still pay rent though. Waiting is better because I won't get beaten into a bloody pulp, and I won't get kicked out until later. Once they kick me out, they can pretty much do anything, and since I'm not legally 18 yet, I could be called a runaway and get sent to jail. Once I'm 18, they can't really do anything about it and they really don't have a say in my life. That's what I'm waiting for. - Kitten PS: Thank you and I like your Avi btw! If you really, really think they'll do that, get yourself emancipated. But I was pretty sure that once someone became pregnant, they were considered an adult already. That might just be my state but you should look into that. But you probably should take your boyfriend's mom up on her offer and take the room. Start moving some things into it slowly and such. Look into the laws to get emancipated. And when you do tell your parents, have someone there and make sure no one leaves your side unless you're not in your parent's house. Stay safe. And thanks for the comment about my avi lol it's a little slutty but meh
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Posted: Tue Feb 20, 2007 7:45 pm
That is a common misconception that getting emancipated is an easy (and costfree) process. If things are that bad, do what you need to, but please make sure you receive the medical care you need. Good luck.
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Posted: Tue Feb 20, 2007 8:00 pm
lunashock That is a common misconception that getting emancipated is an easy (and costfree) process. If things are that bad, do what you need to, but please make sure you receive the medical care you need. Good luck. I know about emancipation because I've tried, but I couldn't do it within my state. There's no abuse happening that's to be seen. I'll try to get a few things moved out before my birthday, but after that, I'm hopefully getting the title on my car switched over, ect. and then I'll tell them. I have a plan, I really do... - Kitten
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Posted: Wed Feb 21, 2007 5:29 am
VampireKitten0000 lunashock That is a common misconception that getting emancipated is an easy (and costfree) process. If things are that bad, do what you need to, but please make sure you receive the medical care you need. Good luck. I know about emancipation because I've tried, but I couldn't do it within my state. There's no abuse happening that's to be seen. I'll try to get a few things moved out before my birthday, but after that, I'm hopefully getting the title on my car switched over, ect. and then I'll tell them. I have a plan, I really do... - Kitten Just try to get in and see a doctor soon. Waiting too long could be worse =( And you need the best care you can get.
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Posted: Wed Feb 21, 2007 5:26 pm
His mom's setting up everything, so I'm not sure. I'll ask her tonight when I see him what's going on with that.
- Kitten
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Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 3:57 am
VampireKitten0000 His mom's setting up everything, so I'm not sure. I'll ask her tonight when I see him what's going on with that. - Kitten That's good^_^ I'm glad she's being so helpful and supportive of you! That can make such a difference over all.
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Posted: Fri Feb 23, 2007 9:00 am
So your parents would kick you out and then report you as a runaway? I'm sorry, but it doesn't make sense to me. If they throw you out, why would they try and get you back?
I know one thing... if I had a kid who was pregnant and suddenly she says "I'm pregnant" and I ask how long and she says "four months"... I'd be much more inclined to kill her right there than if she came forward and said "I just found out". Any trust they have in you will be shattered. If you've kept this from them, what else?
And what if they don't react the way that you are anticipating? What if they don't throw you out? I'm not saying that you don't know your parents, but there have been several times when I thought I knew how mine would react and they did just the opposite.
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2007 7:16 am
Just wanted to say thank you to everyone. Unfortuantly, My boyfriend and I have made the descision to terminate pregnancy after I turn 18 in about a week.
We just wouldn't have the funds, or the means to raise a child, and even if we did, we're just too young.
Thank you all
- Kitten
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Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2007 12:37 am
VampireKitten0000 Just wanted to say thank you to everyone. Unfortuantly, My boyfriend and I have made the descision to terminate pregnancy after I turn 18 in about a week. We just wouldn't have the funds, or the means to raise a child, and even if we did, we're just too young. Thank you all - Kitten Sorry to hear that, and best of luck to the both of you. heart If you feel you both need the extra support, there should be counselling or support groups/services available in your area. *hug*
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