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I dont have any kids yet so I dont know what to tell you but I think what your doing is great idea

I went with straight-up bribery. Sharp kids find all sorts of dodges, as you have apparently noticed, and around three is when they can understand the concept of "if you do this, you'll get this". Therefore, when my son goes peepee in the potty, he gets either a packet of gummy snacks or ten jellybeans. It *was* lollipops, but he started wetting his pants again when he got tired of lollipops. (Maybe your daughter is bored with the old reward? Ask if she would prefer something else. Her participating in the decision about rewards might help encourage participation in the potty-going.) I started every day of bribery by reminding him what the bribe was, and by reminding him that he had on big boy pants and that peeing in them would get him a punishment (time-out to the tune of five minutes or, after repeated offenses, he had to help me clean the floor and his clothes). Peeing a little bit in the potty afterward did not net a prize, but might get him a shorter time-out. Poopoo in the potty nets the big sparkly grand prize - gum. We never let him have it otherwise, because he always swallows it. I decided him swallowing a piece of gum once a day was a fair trade-off for me not having to clean him up....

Now we're on the next step - the prizes for bathroom-going stay, because he's at the point where he might revert if they stop, but also he gets a piece of gum if his pants are dry in the morning. Not too many dry morning pants since the baby sister was born, but I have confidence it will work, especially once he's in school with a healthy dose of peer pressure.

Thanks to everyone for your feedback!

dragonfly1212: Link to that site with Elmo?
We had tried candy, but it's too redily available to her. We don't let her eat it all day long, but it wasn't enough of a treat to her so as to be an incentive. She is wearing the pull-ups with the damp feeling...

Yvaine: We did (and do) want her to be part of the reward. That's part of why we went with a sticker chart. At the time of using the toilet she gets to put a sticker on her chart which she enjoys (and after the sticker chart is filled up she is able to choose a prize at the store We've given each sticker chart the aproximate value of a dollar so she can "spend" one chart on something cheap or save up for a nicer prize.

Also the sticker chart that I made has a potential of 5 stickers per visit to the bathroom. She gets a sticker for going to the bathroom, a sticker for wiping, flushing, washing her hands and drying her hands. I feel it's impornant to teach her to do all of these.

Argh. My twins will be 4 at the end of this month. They didn't care about charts or stickers and anything. I had a potty in the bathroom for 2+years and it made little difference. In January, out of the blue, Alex kept the same pull-up for 3 days until it fell apart and he's never gone back. Max is just plain lazy and just getting around to a dry diaper or underpants for whole hours until something distracts him which can be almost anything!

My little guy will be four in August, and just this week he finally earned the right to go commando at bedtime! (Yeah, commando was his idea - I thought he wanted underpants. Whatever...) The deal was that he needed a dry pullup 7 nights in a row before he was allowed, and he just suddenly did it - he even refused the usual reward for dry pants most mornings! We think news of a slightly older cousin being able to go pantsless was a big incentive, but to be honest I'm still not sure what triggered it. It was just something he wanted to do, I guess. I can't help but wonder if him remembering hot sticky Summer nights with a pullup was a factor as well. Either way, I'm thrilled and relieved. And, to celebrate, we took him out to dinner, at a place of his choosing (Korean, with sushi), and we honored his request that my parents join us for the celebration. I think the celebratory dinner was especially pleasing to him, as he's been having a few jealousy issues with his baby sister and her amazing knack for stealing the limelight (she mugs like Miss America at everyone she meets).

For a friendly old wive's tip - try giving your child a spoonful of honey every day. I'm not sure why, exactly, and I'm not sure how it works, but it helps my wee guy with bladder control. Accidents took a steep nosedive after my mom told me to try honey. She doesn't know how it works either. She got it from an older neighborhood lady when she was expecting. You know, back in the 70s. At the very least, couldn't hurt, might help.

As I see it you have two choices.
You can wait until he's ready (which from what I've been told is easier) or you can start putting him on the toilet at regular intervals.
With Kay we waited until she was ready. One morning she had a dry diaper so I put her on the toilet and she went. We made a big fuss about it and from there we started with the sticker charts...