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Angelwings1922

PostPosted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 9:58 am


Well , my husband and I have been trying to have a baby since we got married three months ago and we continue to fail.

It's honestly starting to bring me down concidering a few of my friends have gotten pregnant in the time being and I started way before them. Even more so since it was a "uh-oh" pregnancy...I mean I have a nice house, car, insurence..Hes in the military so were fully covered in every direction. They are stupid kids that messed up, well no a couple are married and it stil was a surprise. Anyways!

I want to know when should i start to worry about one of us? I mean honestly, i didn't think it was possible to try this hard and not succeed , unless something was wrong with one of you.

I don't know maybe im just a lil jealous. I do admit i'm begining to feel less like a woman because i can't get pregnant.

I have had a regular period my entire life since i was 11 so i figured I was fertile as everything.lol I mean it might be a week late here and there, but i always thought it had todo with stress or a weight change. I stopped smoking hookah, stoped drugs(weed) a year ago and havn't touched it since, i never smoked cigerettes, and hell i've even really stopped drinking to make sure everything would be fine when I did get pregnant. Basically i stoped partying all together when we got married, tottally happy with the lil house wife deal.
Anywho i'm rambling, I don't know.I feel like i'm doing allot of things right . Except going to the doctor which i want to wait for absolutly nessessary cause frankly i'm a bit scared what he might say.

What do you guys think?


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 12:34 pm


You certainly should not start worrying at only three months. I do not even think that fertility specialists will see you until you have been trying for one year. Women are only at peak fertility about two days a month, so you are only talking about six days here so far.

Now, that being said, you should be seeing a doctor. When women decide that they are going to start trying for a baby, they really should talk to a doctor about it. This gives the woman a little time to find an ob-gyn that she likes and wants to see throughout her pregnancy if she does not have one already. It also gives the doctor a chance to look her over and make sure she is healthy enough for pregnancy. A good doctor will give you advice, explain your cycle, explain how you can figure out when you are more or less fertile, etc.

Good for you for getting off the drugs. You should also have your husband make sure that he is drug-free for at least one month before conceiving (if he does drugs or anything else, maybe he does, maybe he doesn't, just pointing it out in case). Marijuana can make men less fertile.

Men make new sperm all of the time, so they get rid of the old and make new, clean, and healthy stuff before too long. Women are different. We have all of the eggs that we will ever have when we are born. That means that any drugs and garbage that we put into our bodies can get into our eggs and stay there, causing problems when we do get pregnant, even if it is years later. So make sure you stay off all of that stuff in the meantime as well. I just point this out because many women don't realize it. They think they can drink and do drugs right up until they actually get pregnant and that it won't hurt the baby.

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lunashock

PostPosted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 12:47 pm


Great point Lorien. You NEED to be establishing a relationship with your GYN. I know the military will cover it and it's good to make sure you're getting your yearly pap smear and going ahead with prenatals. It is the general rule of a year
PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2007 10:42 pm


I wouldn't worry too much. You've only been trying a few months so I doubt there's anything wrong.

Like Lorien said, women are only at peak fertility about two days a month so your chances of becoming pregnant are pretty low.

I read somewhere that you have about a 12% chance of becoming pregnant if you have sex during those fertile days. And besides that, alot of women miscarry before they even know that they could be pregnant. I read somewhere(I never remember where I read these things >.<)that 70-80% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage but only about 10-15% recognized pregnancies end in miscarriage.

But you should also get to a doctor. If you're really worried, ask your regular Gynocologist(pardon my spelling)to examine you. It's always best to get an exam before trying to get pregnant and almost as soon as you find out.

Good luck =D

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Astatine

PostPosted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 6:13 pm


Well all advice I can offer is that after 3 months, not to worry. just keep trying! my brother and his wife have a 4 yr old and have been trying for the past year or more for another, but still nothing. some people try for years and it just doesn't work, others it happens first time they have un-protected sex, really... I would honestly consult your OB (GYN deals with the feminine area, but the Obstetrician deals more with pregnancies).

My husband and I started trying about 4 months after our wedding date, 1 month after we finally got into military housing nonetheless. It took us 6 months of trying. after about 5, we kinda gave up "hope" more or less and figured... ok, if it happens, it happens. well come July of last year we found out we were like a month pregnant. (she was concieved either last week of May or first week of June, don't really remember. lol) Well now I'm just waiting for my little peanut to come!

So goodluck to you!! sometimes it just happens, other times it just takes a while. everyone is different and if you think you and/or your husband may have a fertility issue, you can go see specialists. Sometimes being in the military may expose them to chemicals or radiation that could cause a decrease in fertility, but that doesn't mean a thing! But yeh, I would definitely call your doctor or specialist if you are concerned a lot.
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