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 Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 5:53 pm
i was hanging out with my girlfriend this evening. and we were at a friends house thats shes stayign at for a while. the friends husband was goign on about sex and he asked me what i like to do. and i told him i don't know much about sex...which is true. and he jsut stared at me, then looked at my girlfreind and she tol dhim about the two times we've had sex. and i coudl tell she was angry. then she basicly verberlized her anger by almost yelling...."HE DOESN't WANT TO HAVE SEX!".....i just looked at the floor. put a good face on for the the rest of the night but........i can't get those words out of my head.....what did i do wrong? why is she mad at me?
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 6:24 pm
How about you ask her, ya?
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 6:45 pm
how?
i don't want to go back to her friends house and ask her in front of them
i don't even wanna go back there
she made me feel liek a little kid being yelled at by a mother. i havent felt that was since i was 5.
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 9:04 pm
Oh man. You know what? I am going to be honest. I don't care how mean it sounds. By what you have told us, your girlfriend sounds like a clueless, heartless, selfish b***h. There I said what I have been thinking the entire time. I think her friend's husband or whoever it was sounds like a sick freak for bringing up the subject out of nowhere. It sounds like every single person in that room except for you maybe is real perverted freak. That's not exactly something people sit around the dinner table and discuss. I hate the fact that she makes you so insecure about yourself and your sexuality. I am so sorry, but it just makes me sick. I have been with inexperienced people before, and I just can't stand the way she makes you feel like a freak. She sounds like a real sicko. I think the guy is a weirdo for bringing it up, and I feel like she is b***h for making you feel funny about it. It's none of that guy's business.
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 11:07 pm
LorienLlewellyn Oh man. You know what? I am going to be honest. I don't care how mean it sounds. By what you have told us, your girlfriend sounds like a clueless, heartless, selfish b***h. There I said what I have been thinking the entire time. I think her friend's husband or whoever it was sounds like a sick freak for bringing up the subject out of nowhere. It sounds like every single person in that room except for you maybe is real perverted freak. That's not exactly something people sit around the dinner table and discuss. I hate the fact that she makes you so insecure about yourself and your sexuality. I am so sorry, but it just makes me sick. I have been with inexperienced people before, and I just can't stand the way she makes you feel like a freak. She sounds like a real sicko. I think the guy is a weirdo for bringing it up, and I feel like she is b***h for making you feel funny about it. It's none of that guy's business. yeah that's true.. redface ..i jsut don't understand why he brought it up in the first place. he said "its the only thing to talk about" ....i dont really believe that. politics, fashion, music, games, books, cars, girls, actors, movies, computers, websites, emotions, bodies, there are loads of things to talk about....why that?
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 11:18 pm
Warrior Of Valhalla yeah that's true.. redface ..i jsut don't understand why he brought it up in the first place. he said "its the only thing to talk about" ....i dont really believe that. politics, fashion, music, games, books, cars, girls, actors, movies, computers, websites, emotions, bodies, there are loads of things to talk about....why that? Yup. I am very rarely in company that is so low class that that is the only thing that they can find to talk about.
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 11:27 pm
LorienLlewellyn Warrior Of Valhalla yeah that's true.. redface ..i jsut don't understand why he brought it up in the first place. he said "its the only thing to talk about" ....i dont really believe that. politics, fashion, music, games, books, cars, girls, actors, movies, computers, websites, emotions, bodies, there are loads of things to talk about....why that? Yup. I am very rarely in company that is so low class that that is the only thing that they can find to talk about. unfortunatly i would't associate with such characters...alas its the gentlemen in side me that says to stand with the women where she is despite all remarks made.....its a life law i live by...a good one i thought..untill this occurd.
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 11:47 pm
Warrior Of Valhalla unfortunatly i would't associate with such characters...alas its the gentlemen in side me that says to stand with the women where she is despite all remarks made.....its a life law i live by...a good one i thought..untill this occurd. Yeah, I've been there. I would not usually be around people like that either, but sometimes it happens, and I grin and put up with it for short amounts of time. You probably won't have to see much of that guy anyway, so he can be as piggish as he wants. However, that doesn't explain why your girlfriend makes a fool out of you for no good reason in front of other people. It sounds like she is even more in the wrong here than her piggish friend, and honestly, it really bothers me because I don't think anyone should be made out to be a freak because they aren't ready yet or aren't comfortable or are confused or anything else.
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Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 1:34 am
yeah i say ask her
although your sex life is yours and yours alone so she really didnt need to share that or say that infront of people
you have every right to not want sex all the time
the way she phrased it doesnt help =/
but i dont know whats up with that =/ personaly i would never say something like that unless i was joking around with my boyfriend and he would know it
i hope you work things out
you dont have to ask her while shes at the friends house shes not gunna be there forever or go out to a park or something and have a picknick and talk abou tit
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Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2007 3:25 pm
LorienLlewellyn Warrior Of Valhalla unfortunatly i would't associate with such characters...alas its the gentlemen in side me that says to stand with the women where she is despite all remarks made.....its a life law i live by...a good one i thought..untill this occurd. Yeah, I've been there. I would not usually be around people like that either, but sometimes it happens, and I grin and put up with it for short amounts of time. You probably won't have to see much of that guy anyway, so he can be as piggish as he wants. However, that doesn't explain why your girlfriend makes a fool out of you for no good reason in front of other people. It sounds like she is even more in the wrong here than her piggish friend, and honestly, it really bothers me because I don't think anyone should be made out to be a freak because they aren't ready yet or aren't comfortable or are confused or anything else. I very much agree with Lorien. That was a huge sign of disrespect from your girlfriend and I believe communicating with her about it is a must. Something tells me that the guy asked you such an inappropriate question as a means of insulting you. Why on Earth would he ask it so out of the blue? However, this is just my assumption, so please take it with a grain of sand.
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Posted: Wed Feb 07, 2007 2:56 pm
wahmbulance wahmbulance wahmbulance Today: 4:45pm Feb, 7, 2007 wahmbulance wahmbulance wahmbulance
Des: i think...(pause)
Me: don't most..? stare
Des: no, i mean i was thinking that....i'm not really....in...the mood for a boyfriend...
Me:.......oh? stare .....*s**t*
Des: yeah, i'm just really going through a rough time....and i mean we're basicly just friends right now anyway...
Me: uh huh....and is that because we've not done anything...
Des:you mean sex...
Me:....what else apart from that would you have wished me to do...?
Des: i hope you're not mad...
Me: ...............why should i be mad? ........... gonk
Des: ok..i just wanted to tell you before valentines day, cause that's kinda ...ruthless....
Me:....indeed.... stare gonk
Des: so your not mad?
Me:....i suppose......i figured something like this would happen..... stare
Des: what do you mean?
----------------------------------------------------------------(rewind)
Today: 3:23pm Feb, 7, 2007:
Des: promise you won't get mad if i tell you something
Me:.... stare ..that depends souly on what you wish to tell me...
Des tattoo chick wants me to become her saraget mother......
Me sad faining ignorance) stare .........meaning?
Des: She and bob want me to have a thrid child for them.....tatto chick had a histemectimy so she can't have babies...
Me:....ah.....
---------------------------------------------------------------(fastforward)
Today: 4:57pm, Feb, 7, 2007:
Me: when you mentioned becoming a saraget mother for your friend...
Des: yeah well, its not that big of a deal...
Me:...........right......
Des: i just don't think this is the best time for a boyfriend...OH by the way i'm going down to boston. I finally got ahold of matt; he's coming up sometime this next week.
Me: ..neat...*yeah so you can get plastered and get your brains banged out of your skull by all yoru friends*
Des: well i hope your not upset...
Me: ................................ stare Why in the name of the gods would i be upset?
Des: Cause i'm dumping you...
Me:....mmmh....yes, well i suppose one would get upset by such an action wouldn't they. But, i'm not as you can see.. xd
Des: yup. so we're ok right?
Me:....mmmyes..of course.....*may the gods damn your soul to the pits of hel where loki will devour it...b***h*
Des: cool.
Me:....mmh. wahmbulance wahmbulance wahmbulance
You were right....as much as i didn't want to admit it...you were right. i don't think this is a mistake i'll, ever, repeat again...7 &1/2 months wasted...i should've heeded your warnings. crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying
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Posted: Wed Feb 07, 2007 4:46 pm
It's all right. You had to learn it and see it for yourself. Nothing is a waste. You probably learned a lot. You probably learned a lot about who you are, who you want to be with, and what you want out a relationship. That's all knowledge that you can put to good use in the future. You sound like a very nice boy, while she sounds like an "absolute horror of a human being" to quote As Good As It Gets. xp
In the future, don't be afraid to explore. Don't let this scare you. But at the same time, don't let anyone rush you too much, and never let anyone verbally abuse you. I have to admit that I am glad that she will be gone.
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Posted: Thu Feb 08, 2007 11:03 am
LorienLlewellyn It's all right. You had to learn it and see it for yourself. Nothing is a waste. You probably learned a lot. You probably learned a lot about who you are, who you want to be with, and what you want out a relationship. That's all knowledge that you can put to good use in the future. You sound like a very nice boy, while she sounds like an "absolute horror of a human being" to quote As Good As It Gets. xp In the future, don't be afraid to explore. Don't let this scare you. But at the same time, don't let anyone rush you too much, and never let anyone verbally abuse you. I have to admit that I am glad that she will be gone. i suppose. i like older women, mostly because they're more mature....some miight see that in both areas...personality and body. i see it in peronsality. i've been told i have then intellegence of a 35 year old and the manners of a 17th century gentlemen. that mostly why i look for older women...i don't like GIRLS my age for that exact reason. they're too immature. not to mention they're still in school and like to chatter about boys girls and what not. i can'[t stand it. But....i guess i won't make that mistake again, i realise i'm better off alone...no one bothers me, no one gets under my emotions. I can never be made to cry, get mad, upset or anything. i'll be myself in the fact that i have no pity for anyone...and won't need pity from others. love is inconsequential for me from what i've gathered from my gods..and my father oden has spoken to me that this is my path. and if it is not, then he'll show me my way in the future. and ney till then.
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Posted: Thu Feb 08, 2007 6:37 pm
the best thing to do is just ask her and talk things out
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Posted: Thu Feb 08, 2007 11:01 pm
Neil Dark Overlord the best thing to do is just ask her and talk things out Did you bother to read anything except the first post? stare Warrior, that sucks that your relationship is over, but as Lorien said, your ex was a b***h. Feel better and find a chick who will actually treat you well.
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