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 Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2005 2:16 pm
Okay, this is mainly for the ladies of the guild but anyone can answer and add their opinion. I've been trying to figure out why all the girls always seem to be drawn towards the guys who seem to be like major a$$holes even if a good, decent guy who truly cares tries to hook up with them. I hear all the time how these ladies want a guy with a good personality and likes them for who they are. But when it comes down to it, they still go for the jerks. I've actually recently had this to me, so it was bothering me more sweatdrop Anyways, here's an inspirational paper for all of those nice guys out there. Ode to Nice Guys.
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Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2005 2:55 pm
Those are the only type of guys I talk to xD I don't try to let myself get strung into an assholetypeguy, but I've been proven wrong before. I'm pretty sure I'm with the kind of guy that was described in that essay right now.
sweatdrop And I usually avoid the type of woman described there too. If I ever turn into the type that'll drag a guy to a party just for the sake of having a thing to flirt with, I'll get a strap on and start playing more video games right now.
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Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2005 3:30 pm
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Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2005 3:44 pm
Mm.. I think you're making generalizations based on personal experience. Every female I know near my home (so that means all my female friends not online) don't go for the a*****e. In fact, we publically mock the assholes. My fiance is one of the nice guys, and all my friends' fellas are as well. So don't lump all chicks into one group just because you had a bad day, mmkay?
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Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2005 4:06 pm
Kacee Morivan Mm.. I think you're making generalizations based on personal experience. Every female I know near my home (so that means all my female friends not online) don't go for the a*****e. In fact, we publically mock the assholes. My fiance is one of the nice guys, and all my friends' fellas are as well. So don't lump all chicks into one group just because you had a bad day, mmkay? oops redface sorry about that, I meant to say most. My bad sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2005 10:02 pm
I can assure you that the guy I'm seeing now is anything but an a*****e. He's one of the most polite and sweet people I've ever met. I don't date assholes. They're generally boring and self-obsessive.
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Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2005 9:20 am
Northawke_rs I can assure you that the guy I'm seeing now is anything but an a*****e. He's one of the most polite and sweet people I've ever met. I don't date assholes. They're generally boring and self-obsessive. I've noticed that too! Jeez, it seems to me that most assholes are more obbsessed with them and their looks than Preps!
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Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2005 1:47 pm
From what I can tell it had to do with charm, smoothness and boredom.
I used to date this guy, would have done everything and anything for me. Really sweet guy, but let me walk all over him. I didn't like who I became because I found myself taking advantage of him. He never said no. He was never firm or forceful...
It's not that girls like assholes. We actually prefer nice guys, but we don't like being able to walk all over someone. We like a little resistance, but not no's all the time. We like being complimented and generally appreciated, but we also like honesty.
It's my experience that nice guys have very little backbone. They get so caught up in pleasing us that they forget what pleases them and what they like and are interested in.
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Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2005 6:33 pm
I do believe there must be a more moderate way to be nice then the one you describe.
I'm nice in so much as I don't think of myself as an a*****e (but then again, who does?) and I don't shape my personality around others'.
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Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2005 11:53 pm
That was the best damn paper ever. Described perfectly my life's behavior until about a year or so ago, when I just started staying home all the time.
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Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 5:33 pm
Blind Insight From what I can tell it had to do with charm, smoothness and boredom. I used to date this guy, would have done everything and anything for me. Really sweet guy, but let me walk all over him. I didn't like who I became because I found myself taking advantage of him. He never said no. He was never firm or forceful... It's not that girls like assholes. We actually prefer nice guys, but we don't like being able to walk all over someone. We like a little resistance, but not no's all the time. We like being complimented and generally appreciated, but we also like honesty. It's my experience that nice guys have very little backbone. They get so caught up in pleasing us that they forget what pleases them and what they like and are interested in. I really agree. You actually helped me see something going on with me...
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Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 5:57 pm
emeraldwhirlwind Okay, this is mainly for the ladies of the guild but anyone can answer and add their opinion. I've been trying to figure out why all the girls always seem to be drawn towards the guys who seem to be like major a$$holes even if a good, decent guy who truly cares tries to hook up with them. I hear all the time how these ladies want a guy with a good personality and likes them for who they are. But when it comes down to it, they still go for the jerks. I've actually recently had this to me, so it was bothering me more sweatdrop Anyways, here's an inspirational paper for all of those nice guys out there. Ode to Nice Guys.Hmm yeah I've been kinda wondering about that myself, I have a friend whos a total insensitive and insincere jackass who pretty much only looks out for himself and for some reason, almost all the girls in our friend group have gone after him at least once. While I stay the "nice guy" and always end up being the "good guy friend", not that I mind, I kinda like being the closer guy friend but its just weird to me that I never even get a look my way, jeez it doesn't make sense xp sweatdrop .
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Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 6:02 pm
..To be honest, I wish I knew the answer to this same kind of question.... It's baffling...
I mean... A lot of women fight out there for wanting fairness and decency...but then they always fall for those jerks...what's up with that? It's so...hypocritical...
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Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 6:03 pm
I don't think girls like jackasses specifically. Jackassed guys are usually too full of themselves to see fault in themselves thus have full confidence when approaching or are approached by girls. That confidence is what the girls notice initially after the looks. Not counting money & social status in sone cases of course. *shrugs*
BTW my dad's ann a-hole. Even my mom says so & he's quite full of himself. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 6:05 pm
Featauril Well, I might not agree with this site, but it'll answer your question. *shrugs* http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml My ex was a "nice guy".
This sums it up pretty nice (from the link).
"Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.
Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner. "
My ex was like that and it drove me ******** nuts. I want a guy who's got some damn balls, not a guy who's going to lay down and let me walk all over him.
Now, I'm not saying I want an "a*****e" .. but damn, some guy's need to learn when to say no to a woman! D:
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