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 Posted: Thu Jan 04, 2007 10:56 am
Ok, so we need to go back to the Very begining.
I was going out with Tom back in March, he was ok but we soon got bored of each other.He also was interested in another girl and was crap at hiding it. So i left him after 3 months, and a few days later he went out with that girl.
At the same time of him flirting with Her i was getting to know Ben, one of Tom's distant friends. We had been talking for 1 month, whilst i was still with Tom, and i had started to really like Ben. Soon after leaving Tom i went out with Ben.
It was great, would sneak out fo school every lunch just to see him (he had left school that summer), and i would meet him every weekend, we would talk every night, and be texting each other all the time. Then i had to go on holiday, for a month as we have family in Greece.
Communication was a Major problem and we only spoke a few times on Msn. and i didnt have his number as he was with his dad.
Whilst in Greece 3 of Ben's' friends were trying to convince me he was gay, and were telling me stories to prove it, and also said he was just going out with me to prove he wasnt gay....anyway i came home and we met up a week later when he came back, But he seemed really distant with me and we ended up going to his friends house and playing Halo all day, so he hardly spoke to me.
I told my friends and they all said i should leave him, my mum and family were also telling me to leave him.
He was then starting College in September, and i was just starting Year 11, so we couldnt see each other at lunch, we hardly Text each other anymore and he never came online, when he did come online he started a conversation and said how he thoguht it would be better if we split. i said i didnt want to and we carried on, i was constantly thinking about him saying that...and took the message. The next week i dumped him.
But the same night of me dumpign him i realised i had made a stupid mistake, and text him that night saying so. he came online the next night and i practically begged him back. he said no.
It was then in November when i thought i was over him, i met a new boy, Sam. we ended up going out but i didnt like him as much as i thought and we split after 2 weeks. i also realised i liked Ben again.
I told Ben i liked him and he said 'I dont think it will work out'
With him being at college...
So i left it.
Then before xmas, we had 2 amazing conversations, and we were flirting and this was the start of the Mixed messages stage. he was pestering me to find out who i liked and then after majorly hinting it was him, we had a serious talk. he then askd what i would say if he did ask and said that he missed the old days and said i was pretty etc and he said he'd think about it.
the next night he blanked me, we've spoke since but its just been general chat...he hasnt said an answer yet.
So he dropped out of college..and has alot of free time. he comes online most nights and talks to me immediatly...then doesnt talk for the rest of the night. he used to ask about my love life every time we spoke, but doesnt anymore.
My friend thinks that hes not interested..but...i dont know.
He still hasnt said anything aobut getting back together.
SORTED
So...I thought about it, and after 6 months ive finally realised something, i missed the relationship. but i still do miss him a tiny bit, but no enough to get back with him. It all started when TOm said he liked another girl, so i got the idea he didnt like me..Ben still talks to me occasionaly but not like a major conversation. im glad im more over him =]
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Posted: Thu Jan 04, 2007 12:44 pm
We can't really tell you what to do since it's your life, not ours. But if it was me... I probably would give myself and Ben time to think about stuff... not a few days but maybe months. You two seem like you keep playing with each others' feelings. I think you should talk to him about this communication issue before anything, txt relationships arent very normal. I think with some work and motivation you and Ben could work out.
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