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Two actually.

First, how do I, as a somewhat slim, 17 year old male, complement you or let you know that I find you attractive, without offending you or sounding like I'm sarcastic?

Second, how can I tell when one of you is seriously declaring interest in me, as opposed to flirting, joking, or being sarcastic?


...gah, I sound like an out of touch dork don't I?

I understand that, but how do I tell the difference? ><

... gonk

Women are complicated, Fuzzy.. *pats back*

Just be sincere and if they question you, be honest. If the girl acts like a b***h about it, well.. s**t happens.

And uh.. I can't answer the second one because all women are different. Just roll with it, I guess.

xd
To your first question, Dont make it a blatant compliment. for lots of us girls, you can start by starting to pay attention to us as a friend, NOT a prospective boyfriend. I know for me, that would put me on guard immediately.

But the blatant compliment thing, try not to make it too obvious.

Bad example-" *leer* You look hot today"

Good example- " That color looks good on you..."

and...i really dont know how to explain the second question

My advise is dont do so at first, but even you know that every girl is different.
What i mean is that you dont want to scare her off sweatdrop

Hon, Listen. Like we've all said. Us womanfolk are complicated creatures. We're not a type of animal that you have to hook up sensors to us to see what we're thinking and how we think. You just gotta feel us out, so to speak. You just have to analyze what's said to you. If its like



Then most likely it's likely to be simple, meaningless friend to friend flirting.

However, if it seems like the girl always goes to you and flirts more pointedly with you, and less with other males *or girls as some cases may be* then she may have interest in you.

Unless they make it easy on you like I do and just blatantly say what I feel for the person.

As to comments, its just safer to compliment her clothing/accessory as compared to her, so that it seems like you notice -her-, not just her body. A woman is much more than just a body, and we like to have that be known. The mind can be one the sexiest things about a woman, and men are oft to forget that a lot.