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 Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 1:38 pm
Ok I am bi. Now I have a friend who likes me. I like her too but only as a friend. I don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her but I don't want to lead her on like I like her the same way she likes me. I have other interests but I am scared that if I tell her she won't be my friend anymore. Can someone help? sweatdrop sad sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 1:40 pm
Do you have permission for this? Im locking it until i know.
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2005 6:29 pm
Wraith-sama Do you have permission for this? Im locking it until i know. la la la. you may lock it in your mind, But not in the guild =P only mods can. duh!
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2005 6:41 pm
Shyzi Ao Wraith-sama Do you have permission for this? Im locking it until i know. la la la. you may lock it in your mind, But not in the guild =P only mods can. duh!
And I unlocked it since she asked permission yesterday or so. ^^
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2005 7:20 pm
Mars_Guardian Ok I am bi. Now I have a friend who likes me. I like her too but only as a friend. I don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her but I don't want to lead her on like I like her the same way she likes me. I have other interests but I am scared that if I tell her she won't be my friend anymore. Can someone help? sweatdrop sad sweatdrop Explain to her your feelings as soon as possible. I don't know how your friend is, but when a female friend of mine was attracted to me, I told her almost immediately that although I did like her, it was only in a friend-sort of way, and before long, she had forgotten about her interest in me, and now we're friends. ^^ She was hurt, yeah, but at least being told before the attraction grew stronger eased a lot of that. As of right now, we're good friends. 3nodding Tell her as soon as you feel comfortable with saying so. Girls don't like being led on, trust me sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2005 7:36 pm
Desirable Ai Shyzi Ao Wraith-sama Do you have permission for this? Im locking it until i know. la la la. you may lock it in your mind, But not in the guild =P only mods can. duh!
And I unlocked it since she asked permission yesterday or so. ^^ okay yuki. why don't you tell people who the new mods are and if you did i might have missed it.
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2005 7:42 pm
Shyzi Ao Desirable Ai Shyzi Ao Wraith-sama Do you have permission for this? Im locking it until i know. la la la. you may lock it in your mind, But not in the guild =P only mods can. duh!
And I unlocked it since she asked permission yesterday or so. ^^ okay yuki. why don't you tell people who the new mods are and if you did i might have missed it.
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2005 11:24 pm
Mars_Guardian Ok I am bi. Now I have a friend who likes me. I like her too but only as a friend. I don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her but I don't want to lead her on like I like her the same way she likes me. I have other interests but I am scared that if I tell her she won't be my friend anymore. Can someone help? sweatdrop sad sweatdrop You should tell her you just don't feel the way she feels. She may be sad but tell her you can be her friend instead. She may be upset but at least you can stay friends at least maybe. wink
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Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2005 12:48 am
Mars_Guardian Ok I am bi. Now I have a friend who likes me. I like her too but only as a friend. I don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her but I don't want to lead her on like I like her the same way she likes me. I have other interests but I am scared that if I tell her she won't be my friend anymore. Can someone help? sweatdrop sad sweatdrop
You need to let her know, Incase she gets mixed signals, and then you could both end up getting hurt.
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Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2005 4:57 am
You could kill her... ninja But that leaves the problem of the body... I got good tips with that too... But... Eh. Most people choose easier solutions.
Solutions! =D
1. O.o;; Ignore her and hope she eventually realizes that you don't like her like that... (Not advised.)
2. You can confront her about it sometime when you two are alone. 3nodding Do it alone so it's easier on both of you. No stress on what friends might think of the matter. And you won'th ave to deal with any sort of "I can help with this-" BS. Because most friends probably have no idea what to do with the matter... O.o
So like... Try tellin' her in subtle ways. I know that's vague... But when it comes to things like this, I don't have much to work with, so I don't have any examples for you... sweatdrop
Try gently tellin' her, "We're not right for eachother..."
Or that you don't want to risk your friendship that you have. Toss in something like, she's your best friend or something. It'll earn ya brownie points and make her feel much better...
"We wouldn't work together. And besides, you're one of my best friends, I don't wanna risk losing that bond." Or somethin' along those lines... That way it won't her too hard... Yeah it'll hurt still... But not as much. ^^ And if she really is one of your best friends... =D Well hell, it works out for everyone!
3. Somehow get into a fight and tell her you hate her. O.o;;;;;;
(Not advised.)
4. Take a dramatic approach to it and burst into tears like a baby and tell her you two aren't right for each other... ^^; (Again... Not advised.)
That's all I've got... So have fun! ^^
And good luck. Things like this can really suck.
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Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 1:32 pm
Marc Withasi Explain to her your feelings as soon as possible. I don't know how your friend is, but when a female friend of mine was attracted to me, I told her almost immediately that although I did like her, it was only in a friend-sort of way, and before long, she had forgotten about her interest in me, and now we're friends. ^^ She was hurt, yeah, but at least being told before the attraction grew stronger eased a lot of that. As of right now, we're good friends. 3nodding Tell her as soon as you feel comfortable with saying so. Girls don't like being led on, trust me sweatdrop Totally the right thing to do. We should all heed the words of Marc Withasi. Situations like these would be so much simpler if we only dealt with them right away rather than letting them stagnate or worse -- grow more intense. o_o;
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Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 5:39 pm
Well, there's a few different approaches to this.
Not many of them are good though.
Kuja mentioned a few bad. wink
There's more bad advices as well, but you're not interested in those. evil
Telling the truth is always a good thing to do. neutral But that's booooring! razz
Instead, lead her on, and let her think you love her. Have some great sex with her, and... No... Wait... That's another bad advice... What's with me today?
A question though: How do you know she likes you "That way"?
Did she come to you and say it, or have you noticed it on your own?
And, is she normally bi/lesbian, or just with you?
It's rare, but has happened to me, that normal straight (in my case men) has felt more comfortable and "cuddly" with me 'cause I'm bi. (Don't ask me for their logic though)
Petter is (was, since he's moved. sad ) one of my best friends, and he's as straight as it gets really, but he liked to "be close" with me, since he knew I was bi...
We were just normal friends, did normal guy-stuff, and were able to have relaxed moments together.
Um... How can I explain this... sweatdrop
Well, never mind...
Did that make sense to anyone?
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Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 7:32 pm
>.< agelage. no that doesnt make sense. i got a solution
1) tell the truth
thats all. no more choices
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Posted: Mon Jun 27, 2005 7:10 pm
Thank you all for the advice... the good and the bad. I knew she liked me because she told me in an email and I am the only girl she has ever liked. So she says ninja but I took your advice and told her the truth in an email since I knew I couldn't face her. She said she will continue to like me but tone down on all the huggy stuff ( cuz her two sisters are mad jelous of her when she does it XD) and she also said we can still be friends. Thank all of you. You were a great help ^_^ *hugs all*
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Posted: Tue Jul 05, 2005 9:55 am
id say jus let her know you only like her as a friend, Ive have the same problem right now as a matter of fact sweatdrop But she should understand
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