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I was just curious as to whether any other ladies have experienced this? Since I hit trimester number two I've had absolute zero for a sex drive.

I feel sorry for my boyfriend, but the few times that I've tried to "take one for the team" it's been really uncomfortable, if not painful.

Unfortunately, he's read up on it, but oddly enough the ONLY info he can find on sex and pregnancy is that most women have an increase in sexual drive. Oh, and I guess most women=everyone in the world... lol. But he's a sport and now only complains about it from time to time (I guess he realized it was pointless, poor guy).


Has anyone else had this problem?

*nods* My problem was I had a drive, but it was so uncomfortable and sometimes a tad painful that there was no joy in it. I couldn't bring myself to take one for the team in that retrospect, but I'd try to aleviate his frustrations in ways I could. I don't think we had sex for months.

It was odd. When pregnant with my son, I had a very active sex drive right up to a few days before delivery. But while pregnant with my daughter, the very thought of sex would make me sick. I wanted nothing to do with it. So it might just be hormones.

But if you find it painful, it'd probably be safer to just avoid it. Your poor body is going through enough as it is.

I've actually never really had much of a sexdrive, so when I got pregnant, it plummeted even more, which drove my poor hubby crazy! He'd never complain about it really, but if he wanted it, he prettymuch knew I'd say no, and he'd have to resort to his "pre-woman days". I spent so much of my first trimester in agony, though; always sick and in pain and tired. Life sucked for my trimester.

Good thing it passed, though, and now my sex drive has actually improved! And that's a very nice thing according to my husband! blaugh Hell, he's even said at one point that sex has gotten to be too much for him-he sweats quite a bit. That's only because the only position that I feel comfortable in is missionary; we've tried all sorts of others, but they don't work. And, for being almost 34 weeks, I'm pretty small, so my belly isn't too much in the way.

My best advice to you is: Find ways to keep him fron getting sexually frusterated, because men are a very sexual being. That's how they best show love (according to sex experts I've seen on all sorts of talk shows). Your lack of sex drive will eventually dissipate and you'll once again be able to enjoy sex. Who knows? Maybe you'll be like me and actually grow to love having sex!

my drive took a huuuuge nose dive right threw the floor. gonk sex? ugh. i used to LOOOOOVE sex, now i'd rather hide under the blankets and only emerge to seek out chicken broth and crackers ninja whee (i'm living off the stuff... morning sickness is a b***h) poor hubby, i feel so bad! i was thinking of asking my doctor if there was anyway to counter-act that, but i have a feeling i'll just get smirked at. xp

totally opposite here.
i just got more and more horny, but since i was all fat and gross, i got nothing.
and since i haven't lost much weight yet (I HATE YOU BODY!!) I still don't.....


*bangs head*

It's odd for me at the moment, because it's not like I don't want sex, but when it actually comes to the act, I find myself unable to go through with it. I'm not sure if the idea of sex appeals more than actual sex, but something isn't clicking in my head and I'm close to annoying the hubby.

Guys have a thing for breasts too which doesn't help when they're tender. rofl

But yes, you explained it perfectly. The mind is aroused, but the body refuses to catch up.