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 Posted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 8:09 pm
Okay here's the story.
There's a guy that me and my boyfriend know, He's hitting on me in front of my boyfriend and we both offered to let him sleep with me but after paying 50$ and having my boyfriend involed. Would it be wrong?
He's a friend, he also hasn't been laided for about a month on this note.
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Posted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 8:44 pm
Whether or not it would be wrong is an opinion. No one on here can tell you what you can and can't do morally. Some people would say it is immoral, some would say it isn't, some would say it depends. You are the only one who can decide for sure if it is right for you. I do not necessarily think it would be an immoral thing to do, but if you have to ask a question like that, I am thinking you might not be ready to do it.
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Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2006 7:28 am
That pretty much how I feel.. Not ready.
I told him give me a week plue a few days to do something about it.
We have already set standards as well.
Doggie- so I don't have to face him
Condom- To be safe
50$ - because well I feel I'm worth that much.
Cause this in the end will knock down a bit of my ego if anyone I really know finds out.
I also get to choose the day as well.
Before it i'[m gonna let myself heal.
Then i'm going to the doctors to be checked.
And after that i'm giving myself more time to fight off being shaky.
Before I had a boyfriend I was always on the rebound so I would sleep with another person without pay or a problem.
I can only understand so much as why i'm acting this way now.
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Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2006 11:02 am
~Forbidden Dusk~ That pretty much how I feel.. Not ready.I told him give me a week plue a few days to do something about it. We have already set standards as well. Doggie- so I don't have to face himCondom- To be safe 50$ - because well I feel I'm worth that much. Cause this in the end will knock down a bit of my ego if anyone I really know finds out.I also get to choose the day as well. Before it i'[m gonna let myself heal. Then i'm going to the doctors to be checked. And after that i'm giving myself more time to fight off being shaky.Before I had a boyfriend I was always on the rebound so I would sleep with another person without pay or a problem. I can only understand so much as why i'm acting this way now. Ok. Like I said, I do not necessarily think it is immoral, but I do not want you to do anything that you will regret. I am thinking that this situation isn't right for you right now, a lot of it because of the things that I put in bold. You say you don't want to face him, you are shaky, and you don't want anyone you know actually finding out. That sure sounds like you aren't really comfortable with the situation, or the guy, or something. I have had lovers who were just friends. I do not regret it, I do not care who knows it (other than my parents, I hate my parents knowing anything about my sex life even though I am an adult and not living with them rolleyes xp ). I was not shaky or afraid to face them. Many people would say that was immoral, but I don't mind. I am comfortable with it. That does not mean that I will sleep with just anyone at all or under any circumstances, however. Only you can decide for sure if it is right for you. Just ask yourself why you are thinking about doing it, if you think you will enjoy yourself, and if you think you or your boyfriend will have any regrets after.
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Posted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 8:53 pm
well it sounds like prostitution, and the law says it's wrong, but the law also says fireworks are dangerous and i still light those off. if you're not sure then i think you shouldn't do it. things like these always come abck to bite you in the a**.
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Posted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 8:13 am
My boyfriend told he won't talk me into it nor talk me out of it.
And I came to decide that I won't do it.
I can't.
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Posted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 2:51 pm
~Forbidden Dusk~ My boyfriend told he won't talk me into it nor talk me out of it. And I came to decide that I won't do it. I can't. Good for you. The person, or situation, or something just didn't sound right for you from the way you explained it. That doesn't mean that you can never bring a third into your relationship, it just means that it probably isn't best for you to bring this guy in right now.
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Posted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 5:11 pm
Well, I'm not really going to address the whole paying for sex with strangers in a relationship bit, but your posts scream of serious self-esteem/self-hate issues. I recommend you see some type of counselor if you think you're only worth $50 and you said you used to go person to person for sex no problems.
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Posted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 9:01 pm
lunashock Well, I'm not really going to address the whole paying for sex with strangers in a relationship bit, but your posts scream of serious self-esteem/self-hate issues. I recommend you see some type of counselor if you think you're only worth $50 and you said you used to go person to person for sex no problems. Do you always suggest counseling? As for the 50 dollars I was being nice since I do know him from D&D meeting. He's my DM. yea I hate my body right now because I miss being at 130.. i'm 170 rounded. gotta get into shape XD if I could get away with it and with my skill I would try to price maybe 150 for just playing dead fish. >_> no one would ever pay that much XD My reason is for the lack of con is because i already lost count between 13-16 I don't wanna add another number to that since I have done more then my mother and sisters. *shivers* I prefere to stick with old partners then to make new ones. besides I kinda want the guy to freaken hit on his roommate instead of just sitting around holding his urges for her. sweatdrop gonk
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Posted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 9:06 pm
something i just remembered..
I found out the name of what some guys would say I am..
uhh exa... s**t forgot the name..
but anyway to tell what it is, its pretty much I get turned on more by teasing guys so me flirting up a storm and turning guys on is what started the convosation at the D&D meeting... and why Dan end up starting to hit on me and why I claimed I might be willing.
sorry for spelling.
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Posted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 9:54 pm
I think you might be looking for the work exhibitionist. Exhibitionist: 1 a : a perversion in which sexual gratification is obtained from the indecent exposure of one's genitals (as to a stranger) b : an act of such exposure 2 : the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/exhibitionistAnyway, you can certainly flirt with guys without having sex with them. If you think this guy has a thing for his roommate, maybe you could invest some time in trying to get them together.
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Posted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 6:37 am
LorienLlewellyn I think you might be looking for the work exhibitionist. Exhibitionist: 1 a : a perversion in which sexual gratification is obtained from the indecent exposure of one's genitals (as to a stranger) b : an act of such exposure 2 : the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/exhibitionistAnyway, you can certainly flirt with guys without having sex with them. If you think this guy has a thing for his roommate, maybe you could invest some time in trying to get them together. Can't I rarely see her.. and yea thats the name of it. Is it really a perverion!?
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Posted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 8:34 am
No, I don't always suggest counseling to those who have minor problems. Let me make a list why I suggested it and remind you that you're the one posted in these forums for sex and relationship advice, sorry if it's not what you want to hear. -You think you're an exhibitionist -You think you are worth $50/150 - Quote: Before I had a boyfriend I was always on the rebound so I would sleep with another person without pay or a problem. I can only understand so much as why i'm acting this way now. You want to know why you are doing these things now even in a relationship. -You're comparing yourself to the people your sister and mother have had sex with. -Your reason for not wanting to leave a relationship: Quote: I don't want to leave him also since were gonna be going on are 1 year annie in about 2 weeks Personally, sexual partners is just a number. My husband can't tell me how many he's slept with and I don't really care. As long as you're not doing it unsafely or to pacifify some issue (however you said you did this on rebounds), who cares. However, I don't know your age. Who cares who and how many your mother and sister have slept with? As long as it's been good quality relationships and safe, no big deal to me. I know this will go in one ear and out the other, but on my good conscience, I have to at least put it as part of advice.
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Posted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 1:36 pm
~Forbidden Dusk~ LorienLlewellyn I think you might be looking for the work exhibitionist. Exhibitionist: 1 a : a perversion in which sexual gratification is obtained from the indecent exposure of one's genitals (as to a stranger) b : an act of such exposure 2 : the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/exhibitionistAnyway, you can certainly flirt with guys without having sex with them. If you think this guy has a thing for his roommate, maybe you could invest some time in trying to get them together. Can't I rarely see her.. and yea thats the name of it. Is it really a perverion!? It is often referred to as a perversion or a fetish. It's fine to have it, but you have to learn how to control it. Some people have a rape fantasy, but they act it out with their partner as opposed to a stranger. Some people like young children, but instead of doing anything with an actual child, they watch animated child porn or have their partner dress up like a school girl. Similarly, you just have to learn to control your own perversion, fetish, preference, like, interest, whatever you want to call it. Obviously it is not necessarily as extreme as a rape fantasy or child fantasy, but in a way it can be if you can't control it and end up getting hurt or hurting other people because of it.
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Posted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 6:20 pm
LorienLlewellyn ~Forbidden Dusk~ LorienLlewellyn I think you might be looking for the work exhibitionist. Exhibitionist: 1 a : a perversion in which sexual gratification is obtained from the indecent exposure of one's genitals (as to a stranger) b : an act of such exposure 2 : the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/exhibitionistAnyway, you can certainly flirt with guys without having sex with them. If you think this guy has a thing for his roommate, maybe you could invest some time in trying to get them together. Can't I rarely see her.. and yea thats the name of it. Is it really a perverion!? It is often referred to as a perversion or a fetish. It's fine to have it, but you have to learn how to control it. Some people have a rape fantasy, but they act it out with their partner as opposed to a stranger. Some people like young children, but instead of doing anything with an actual child, they watch animated child porn or have their partner dress up like a school girl. Similarly, you just have to learn to control your own perversion, fetish, preference, like, interest, whatever you want to call it. Obviously it is not necessarily as extreme as a rape fantasy or child fantasy, but in a way it can be if you can't control it and end up getting hurt or hurting other people because of it. *Shivers* ewwww those are the gross ones I hate >_< damnit..
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