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 Posted: Fri Dec 22, 2006 8:44 pm
a few years ago i realized that i was bisexual and had the hardest time keeping it from my mom. She comes from a very close-minded family, and was worried that she would disown me or something when i told her. I knew for a fact that she wasn't like my grandparents, which i will get to later, but the following conversation had a negative outcome on my part:
Mom:-to bf of hers- You know I don't mind gay people, as long as i don't see it.
Tom: Yea, i know what you mean
Mom: it just isn't anything i want to see...I mean, I don't understand why they have to be so flambouyant about it...
Me: -starts crying, and luckily is wearing sunglasses- Ow...-eyes start to burn-
Sister:- looks at me - You okay? -knows im bi and heard the conversation-
Me: -feels something leaking from her knows and thinks it's snot- Yea...- notices that it isn't a runny nose, but a BLOODY nose- crap...
A few months later, i was able to come out to her, and was, surprisingly enough, accepted by her. I'm pretty sure she had a pretty good idea that i was bi, seeing as how i have a HUGE obsession with Amy Lee of Evanescence...just look at my myspace Mine and you can see .
also, keep this in mind, i am pagan, and the rest of my family is christian, mormon, or catholic. a large majority of them already know that im not an x-tian, but im pretty sure their in denial, thinking i went back to that ("It's just a phase" qouteth my papa ... yea...i five year phase...huh...). So im already the blacksheep in my family. I also dress soley in black, with acceptions of forest green and sometimes a white tee, have a lip ring, etc.
So now the only people in my family who know that im not straight are everyone but my sister and my mom, and maybe my aunt since she has a myspace as well, but she hasn't mentioned it so i don't know...hmmm...
anyway, my new years resolution for this year is to come out to the rest of my family, but the only problems are the following conversations that i overheard
Thanksgiving:
Grandma: -watching television with her brother, john, when the topic of homosexuality came up- ...I wish that they would just stay in the closet, it isn't anything that i want to see...
John: your right...but luckily their going to burn in hell for eternity anyway, so lets just let them have their little "pride"
A few months before thanksgiving:
Me and my papa were in his truck, getting ready to go to starbucks when an Elton John song came on. My papa turned off the radio and said, "I really don't like listening to gay people sing.
My sister and grandma in the store:
My grandma spots the people magazine that had Lance Bass coming out, to those who didn't know...I mean for the love of god, who DIDN'T know?!?!?!
my grandma's reaction? "Well thats too bad..." needless to say my sister was disgusted...she's like a straight version of me and absolutely loves gay people.
Anyway, how do I tell the rest of my family that im bi when I know that I am going to have the hardest time dealing with them afterwards. I always keep my new years resolution, last years was telling them that i was pagan...
Any ideas would be EXTREMELY helpfull
Much love and later!!
Kalisym
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Posted: Sat Dec 23, 2006 1:06 pm
you should tell thel... and do it so that they truely know they should regret saying that s**t...
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Posted: Sat Dec 23, 2006 2:07 pm
good idea, now to plan the script -plots-
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Posted: Sun Dec 24, 2006 3:34 pm
Definitely tell them. Better than them finding out on their own. Etc.
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Posted: Sun Dec 24, 2006 5:00 pm
thats true, domino...
i can just imagine walking into their house, and all the sudden it's an intervention...oh god eek
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Posted: Sun Dec 24, 2006 5:15 pm
Tell them. They deserve to be shocked.
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Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 8:10 am
Dr. Phoenix Tell them. They deserve to be shocked. true true...it's gonna be today too
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Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 2:37 pm
Let them find out the truth by themselves... Why do you want to tell them?? I think its weird.
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Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 11:48 pm
I think you should tell them and shove all their dirty comments right back down their throats. XD
(BTW, I LOVE Amy Lee too. She is simply amazing, no? ^_^ She's like my fricking idol. Other than Famke Janssen anyways....But that's a whole nother sandbox. We won't talk about her.)
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Posted: Tue Dec 26, 2006 3:03 pm
Your Greatest Sin I think you should tell them and shove all their dirty comments right back down their throats. XD oh lordy, yush rofl anyway, i tried doing it last night after dinner, but i couldn't get it out... im just going to email them and tell them...even though they live just down the street -sweatdrop-... that way i don't have to look at their expressions of dissapointment and disgust... i hate them...even though i know it's wrong... i had the hardest time just telling them i was pagan...-death-... Quote: (BTW, I LOVE Amy Lee too. She is simply amazing, no? ^_^ She's like my fricking idol. Other than Famke Janssen anyways....But that's a whole nother sandbox. We won't talk about her.) she is without a doubt the most beautiful woman i have ever seen...and her voice, my GAWD!!!
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Posted: Tue Dec 26, 2006 5:46 pm
Kalisym Your Greatest Sin I think you should tell them and shove all their dirty comments right back down their throats. XD oh lordy, yush rofl anyway, i tried doing it last night after dinner, but i couldn't get it out... im just going to email them and tell them...even though they live just down the street -sweatdrop-... that way i don't have to look at their expressions of dissapointment and disgust... i hate them...even though i know it's wrong... i had the hardest time just telling them i was pagan...-death-... Quote: (BTW, I LOVE Amy Lee too. She is simply amazing, no? ^_^ She's like my fricking idol. Other than Famke Janssen anyways....But that's a whole nother sandbox. We won't talk about her.) she is without a doubt the most beautiful woman i have ever seen...and her voice, my GAWD!!!
Yus, I'm still trying to figure out how to tell the rest of my family... ^^'
I saw her in concert and I almost died! It was amazing!
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Posted: Tue Dec 26, 2006 9:11 pm
DONT TELL YOU PARENTS!!!
Wait until you move out and can support yourslef because if you do yo might get kicked out with no college money and alone and struggling
okay? :-
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Posted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 8:58 am
gothicrebel DONT TELL YOU PARENTS!!! Wait until you move out and can support yourslef because if you do yo might get kicked out with no college money and alone and struggling okay? :- i just live with my mom and she already knows it's just my grandparent's im trying to figure out how to tell. they control the WHOLE family of mine...it's wierd...their not frail old people like you would expect from grandparents...their in their lower fifties and are still active in everything they do. my grandma has no grey hair...she's the one who wears the pants in the relationship as well...
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Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2006 4:16 pm
I've known grandparents like that...I could just imagine my paternal grandmother's reaction if I came out. (Which I will, eventually, after my step-dad has gotten over the revelation that I was pagan)
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Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2006 4:54 pm
true true...the broom closet is fun to get out of...but can be quite dangerous in the escape path
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