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I went out with a few friends last Friday, so I got myself all girlified...did my hair, picked out some swank lookin' clothes, applied the makeup, put on the perfume...I must admit, that I looked pretty damn hot. I felt confident and sexy as hell *and trust me folks, even when I doll myself up, I usually don't feel like I'm all that attractive, so this was a pleasant change*.

I had to wait at the subway for a bit since I was early and I'm just looking around when I noticed a few guys staring at me. Now I'm not one of those people who are uber vain and announce that EVERY guy is staring at me/wants me/etc, but these fellas were walking past me with their eyes on me...even as they were well out of viewing range, they still had their necks turned. And when I did eventually meet up with my friends, while I had a ciggie break out on the patio, this guy who was on his cell phone started telling me how good I smelled and flirted with me...he announced that his ex wife 'was a big girl too' and how he 'liked em' big' and eventually asked for my number, but I had to kindly turn him down and announce that I was a married lass. He didn't believe me at first, but when I showed him 'the ring', he said "Well if you ever get divorced, let me know" eek

I haven't had so many guys gawk at me before...it was rather interesting.

Questions:

Have you ladies *or gents* ever got yourself all gussied up and actually felt that you were teh s**t? *meaning did you get yourself all dressed up and actually didn't think about 'Oh this shirt/outfit shows off all of my flaws crying '*

Have you had strangers stare at you while you were looking good? Were they appreciating your looks or do you think they were ridiculing them?

How do you feel when someone tells you they appreciate a larger person? Do you honestly believe them, or do you feel they're just saying that to make you feel good?

Are you confident about your appearance continously, or do you have days where you knock yourself down?

Do you put much care towards what people think about how you look/what is 'acceptable' beauty, or do you give a flying ******** what anyone thinks?

When I get all "dolled" up, its accually more like an accual doll look lol. I dont follow the guidelines of "normal" beauty when it comes to getting dressed up to go out. My "dressed up" includes all black, spiked collars and whatnot, my hair up in pigtails, combat boots, a layer of white makeup on my face, and a lot of black around my eyes and lips to accent. Ive been doing in that way since before I went into highschool ((Im a Junior in College now lol))

Why do I do it that way? Well because it makes me feel good. A friend of mine once said to me "If saw you on the street and didnt know you, I would think you were the scariest person Ive ever seen... Until you opened your mouth. Then I would realized you would be the kindest person Ive ever met." That made me feel so good, and it instilled in me even more that I loved how I looked when I was all "freaky."

As for being checked out, its happened, but the only people to ever ask me out were creepy old men, and much older african american or Jamacan guys lol. I never seem to attract anyone my own age. Although my one friend, who has expressed an interest in me, used to like skinny to medium sized girls. But now he says its seems the biggest ones are the ones with the best personality.

Although I have to admit, I am a very paranoid person when It comes to people and how I look. When I get "checked out" or complimented by people I dont know I always suspect an malicious alternate motive. I really need to get over that and accept the fact, that not everyone thinks Im hideous and some people are true to their liking of larger women.

I am by far happy with how I look all the time. I think only about 3% of the time I am accually content with how I look. But then again about 85% of the time I have the "Ya know, Im ugly, but I dont give a damn what you think!" attitude. And the last 12% of the time is all that time I spend putting myself down and careing what others thinks. I think im doing pretty good with limiting my self loating and down time though ^.^

...And thats my lil story heart

yeah, ive had that feeling....

although my dressing up is just my good jeans and my fav tshirt, but when I wear that combo....WHOOO I feel great, and I dont know if anyone has looked at me before, but I hopeso.....in a good way atleast

I was sad I tried on a dress the other day, it was hella cute and I would have looked great in it......but it was like 2 sizes too small......man if that would have fit I would have looked AWESOME, then I would have had some looks xd

actualy i have had that feeling. but i wasnt exactly dressed up so to speak...i barely had clothing on at all. i was giveing a little strip tease to my now ex boyfriend ( but at the time i had been dateing him for two years) and i did my makeup and my hair and put on something sexy and there was candles and everything....and the way he looked at me made me feel like a goddess. it was quite awesome.

I get "You look alot like a chubbier version of that one girl on buffy, the one that plays willow.... alison hannigan" from what I can gather it's because I wear my hair medium length and straight, or if I curl it I curl it under. I also have a similar face shape and smile to yon actress. So I get a lot of looks to be honest.

I always feel I look pretty when I wear a nice dress or nice shirt and slacks, wear a little but of makeup and do my hair. Before my fiance I was dancing at a night club with this one guy and ended up making out in a dark corner for a little bit. Couldn't understand a word he said, he was from the Dominican Republic, but he was a good kisser. And all I had on that night was a tank top and a pair of ripped up jeans. I wasn't expecting to go out.

On the other hand, I get a lot of comments here in Memphis. Usually, but not always, by African American men around my age, because they "like their women nice and thick with a lot of junk in the trunk".

However, I don't always feel beautiful. Sometimes I dog myself about how I cannot wear this or that because of my size, and I don't think that it's flattering on me. Sometimes I cry and sometimes I'm depressed. But I think that would happen at any size to be honest and it's not all the time.

*is really embrassed* I used to staring a girls a lot, its a horrible habiat of mine because it makes me feel like a creepy stalker, because usally I am too nervious to talk to them sweatdrop

I am a whole lot better now because 1)more self confident 2)I got a super duper gf right now biggrin *sends luff to Codi over internet*

For the longest time I didn't find myself attractive. No one ever "checked me out" and I didn't get dates. Hell, I got stood up. At first, I just didn't care what people thought, or thought that I just kept running into pricks. But after a while, it wears you down, and you begin believing it. Then I met my fiance. We met online at a roleplaying site I used to be on, and when he saw my picture, the first words out of his mouth were "Damn you're beautiful." That'd never happened to me before. And of course, I got paranoid and thought he had ulterior motives for saying such a thing.

Then we got to know one another, started dating, met in person, etc. and every time, most of the time completely out of the blue, he would and still does tell me how beautiful I am, how sexy I look, etc. And after a year of hearing that constantly, I started believing it. Now I feel good about myself, even on days when I'm not feeling particularly great, I still believe that I'm pretty. I still don't claim to be the most beautiful woman he's ever seen- as he says frequently... silly man- but I do accept that I'm not a hideous closet monster.

Gah, too many posts to catch up on, i got the gist of it..

Frankly, i can't stare at girls. it makes me feel really bad about my self. O.o.. Cause, theres girls that can take it kindly, but theres always the type that glares at you for staring, so i tend to glance, but thats all i can do comfertably.. I dunno, i feel really wierd staring at a girl. I'd rather much tell them to there face that there sexy, but then they'd think im shallow O.o! And then theres the chubby cute girls that always get into flirty conversations, and i can't call them sexy cause then they make fun of me! It's so uncomfertable! sad