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Last week I was ill and had to stay home from work. I was being sick and had an awful headache, I thought it was a bug that's going around my office. However, last friday when the neusea continued I began thinking I might be pregnant. I worked out I was about two weeks late. I have always had random periods but nothing like this so I decided to get a pregnancy test from the phamacy. Friday evening my life changed forever. I was shaking so much as I did the test and after taking a sneeky peek at the result I began shaking even more. I walked back into the living room, 'is it negative?' Martin (SourceX) asked, I couldn't speak, in my hands I held a positive test, my mouth moved and no words came out, so many thoughts were flashing through my head. 'Are we ready?' 'What about work?' 'What should we name the baby?' 'Boy or girl?'
Since then I have been blown away !!! I never realised there was so much to having a baby ... folic acids, cramps, extreame neausea, and that's just this first twelve weeks !?! I feel like I have a constant hangover, it's not good. The worst part about it is not being able to tell everyone around me just yet. I have almost let it slip a couple of times, I am just too excited ! I know there is a long way to go and there are still so many things that can go wrong but I want to tell everyone. I want to tell my Mum and Dad they are going to be first-time grand parents and my sister that she is going to be an aunty ! I know why I can't. I mean what if I lost the baby? How would I feel, not only loosing the baby but then having to tell everyone I told about the baby that I lost it ?! I would be heart-broken.
I am trying not to get too excited I know it's still early and there are so many things that could go wrong, things that I am trying not to think about right now. All I want to do is tell everyone I know that Martin and I are expecting !!!

I need some help from other women who have been through this, my body feels like it's falling in on me I am so tired and emotional (I keep snapping at Martin.) Are there any tips you can give me ? Words of wisdom ?

You'll get through it, although it can be frustrating... I was never very good at dealing with the emotional ups and downs myself. I need to get my husband on here to see if he has anything to add about how to deal with someone who's going through what you are cause I know I snapped at him a lot and felt achy a lot.... *Goes to yell at Shaun/Ekoja* Ack. He's still sleeping. I'll drag him online when he gets up.

On a side note, I waited until after the end of the 3rd month to start telling people. Statistically most miscarriages occur before then, so if you make it that far, it's usually going to go through to term--not always, but most of the time at least, so that it's generally safe to start letting people know then without worrying about what you'd say if you lost it.

^^ Congrats!! ( I see you changed your name)

Congratulations!

Morning Sickness be gone! -> www.preggiepops.com 3nodding

I agree with Nopenname on this one... one of my mum's friends had a miscarriage, and i didnt even know she was pregnant.. sweatdrop

Congrats to ya! ^_^

UniKorn Tiger: I don't have a family history of miscarriages (I do, however, have a family history of twins - *trys not to think about that just yet*) Where was I ? No family history of miscarriages but I had one in January and I wasn't even aware I was pregnant ^see above^ so I am just scared I guess, thanks for the information though I will take it into consideration. Like I said above I think I will tell my folks when i have come to terms with my pregnancy and when I feel the time is right smile

BadLoki: Thanks for the congrats smile

Big, big congrats. I just had my baby three months ago, so I'd be more than willing to tell you about some things I tried during my pregnancy that helped me with some of the various symptoms. Also, Tylenol is your friend, if you get massive headaches like I did. It's one of the few pain medications they'll let you take while pregnant.

In the first 4 months you will feel tired alot of the time, that is due to your body adapting to a baby growing in you, I found that if I took a couple of power naps during the day, I would feel alot better. On my days off, I'd take one after lunch and then again before supper. Having kids at home made it harder, but even if I could catch a 20 min nap, I"d feel so much better and made it easier to make it through the day. I also know thatdrinking more fluids helps especially in the first few months, make sure to take a good multivitamin also. Especially one that has folic acid.