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So, my bf has a problem with the condom, he loses his sensibilitie and erection when he put one...and i dont want him or i...if we break up to get AiDS! Any alternatives????? Tips?? Anything?

Actually, you can still get STDs from a**l. Many people have gotten AIDs just from a**l sex.

Many men prefer sex without a condom, but tough; if they want sex bad enough, they'll deal with it. If you are in a relationship with one person for a while, then you can both get tested. A few weeks later, get tested again just to be sure. If both of your tests come back HIV free, then you can look into using the pill or something else for birth control.

Don't forget Oral Sex.

You could do any of the above, or, you can just try using the pill.

"Q. Do condoms "dull" my boyfriend's sensations during sex? Every time he puts one on, he says he loses sensation, is this true?

A. I get this question a lot. It can take a while to get used to wearing a condom when you use a them for birth control or for STD protection. Some men report that they actually prefer using a condom because it dulls their sensations enough to slow down their urge to orgasm -- and make sex last longer. Others, like your B/F, say that they can't maintain an erection while wearing a condom because it desensitizes them or makes them feel entirely different sexual sensations.

After a while your B/F may no longer feel the difference between intercourse with or without the condom. Another suggestion is for you two to experiment with different kinds, brands and shapes of condoms. The thinner brands cost more, but are still just as effective and do provide for more sensation. Encourage him to experiment with different condoms, then you can make this a pleasant part of your sex together, not a burden. "
http://www.coolnurse.com/sex_faqs10.htm

Don't have unprotected a**l sex, it carries a higher risk of contracting AIDS. Try using a female condom. If that doesn't work, dry humping is your best bet.

Research any form of birth control/STD protection before using it. Here is a cite on the female condom: http://www.fwhc.org/birth-control/femalecondom.htm

Be aware that female condoms are not quite as effective as male condoms at preventing pregnancy and protecting against STDs even when they are used exactly as intended.

'Kay, first off:

Sex =/= AIDS automatically. Unless your boyfriend is HIV positive, you will not catch AIDS from unprotected sex. Most likely, he does not, unless he's had unprotected sex with multiple partners, which only puts him at high risk for HIV/AIDS. If you don't know for certain, make sure he gets tested.

Any form of sexual contact carries some risk of transmission. Fingering and mutual masturbation have a fairly low risk It's a question of microscopic tearing and exposure of blood vessels, both of which are lowest in manual sex. But penetrating oral, a**l, and urogenital sex all have a high risk of transmission.

A condom is definitely the best way to go if you two want to be intimate withour risk of transmission. If your boyfriend goes flaccid while trying to put on the condom, I would suggest you keep him distracted with some foreplay. It might even help if you yourself put the condom on him.

Finally, Akuuu! mentioned female condoms. I believe she's referring to diaphragms. From what I understand, they only prevent pregnancy, not the transmission of STDs.