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 Posted: Wed Nov 08, 2006 1:57 pm
My 3 oldest chidren are girls, my youngest 2 are boys. The oldest boy is 17 and butting heads with dad all the time - mom (me) is a peacemaker and it is driving me crazy.
Any suggestions, besides just giving it time?
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Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 2:37 am
When I was a teenager my dad would always say "Don't do anything I wouldn't do." I didn't.
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Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 5:45 pm
SirKirbance When I was a teenager my dad would always say "Don't do anything I wouldn't do." I didn't. Do you think that would work as well when it is the son/mother relationship?
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 4:57 pm
I know you said other than give it time, but that's the only thing I can really say. Things got better between Dad and I once I moved out.
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Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2006 3:24 pm
I have only one son { He's 12 } and he's actually alot easier to deal with that my daughter's. I say just leave them alone in a locked room for an hour and let them talk, or send them to the amusement park.
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Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 1:29 am
Ocean Momma I have only one son { He's 12 } and he's actually alot easier to deal with that my daughter's. I say just leave them alone in a locked room for an hour and let them talk, or send them to the amusement park. Just let them butt heads at the amusement park? (grin)
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Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 2:04 pm
Ms Jo Ocean Momma I have only one son { He's 12 } and he's actually alot easier to deal with that my daughter's. I say just leave them alone in a locked room for an hour and let them talk, or send them to the amusement park. Just let them butt heads at the amusement park? (grin) Their going to do it anyway, might as well be someplace that makes them smile. -smirks- Unless you have a better idea, of course.
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Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 12:41 am
Ocean Momma Ms Jo Ocean Momma I have only one son { He's 12 } and he's actually alot easier to deal with that my daughter's. I say just leave them alone in a locked room for an hour and let them talk, or send them to the amusement park. Just let them butt heads at the amusement park? (grin) Their going to do it anyway, might as well be someplace that makes them smile. -smirks- Unless you have a better idea, of course. How about playing D & D?
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Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 2:35 pm
Ms Jo Ocean Momma Ms Jo Ocean Momma I have only one son { He's 12 } and he's actually alot easier to deal with that my daughter's. I say just leave them alone in a locked room for an hour and let them talk, or send them to the amusement park. Just let them butt heads at the amusement park? (grin) Their going to do it anyway, might as well be someplace that makes them smile. -smirks- Unless you have a better idea, of course. How about playing D & D? I love D&D! Level 7 Half-Elf Sorcerer! whee Although, the rpg came of choice at our house is Vampire: The Requim. A bit graphic at times but the kids just love it.
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Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 7:22 pm
Ocean Momma Ms Jo Ocean Momma Ms Jo Ocean Momma I have only one son { He's 12 } and he's actually alot easier to deal with that my daughter's. I say just leave them alone in a locked room for an hour and let them talk, or send them to the amusement park. Just let them butt heads at the amusement park? (grin) Their going to do it anyway, might as well be someplace that makes them smile. -smirks- Unless you have a better idea, of course. How about playing D & D? I love D&D! Level 7 Half-Elf Sorcerer! whee Although, the rpg came of choice at our house is Vampire: The Requim. A bit graphic at times but the kids just love it.
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Posted: Wed Nov 29, 2006 2:51 pm
Jenannen Ocean Momma Ms Jo Ocean Momma Ms Jo Ocean Momma I have only one son { He's 12 } and he's actually alot easier to deal with that my daughter's. I say just leave them alone in a locked room for an hour and let them talk, or send them to the amusement park. Just let them butt heads at the amusement park? (grin) Their going to do it anyway, might as well be someplace that makes them smile. -smirks- Unless you have a better idea, of course. How about playing D & D? I love D&D! Level 7 Half-Elf Sorcerer! whee Although, the rpg came of choice at our house is Vampire: The Requim. A bit graphic at times but the kids just love it. Most awesome. I only play when we're on break at work though so our adventures are really.............slow.
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Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2006 1:25 pm
Prayer,laughter and loads of giggles is what will get you though this. Its normal at this age and just think 10 years from now they both will look each other with a lot of laughter,when they look back at the past together and a hug will follow. After that all will be forgotten. Anyways after they have their own kids,its funny how us parents become all of a sudden a bit smarter biggrin
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Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2006 11:33 pm
I keep hoping a nice young woman will help mellow him out, too - and take his mind off of "manly" things and challenges - there is one that looks hopeful right now. I am not pushing marriage - just skillful dating and less competition and I think a girl doesn't push the "manly thing" like a lot of the teenage boys do. Sometimes it is their friends that influence him to see his dad as too controlling, too. Some of his friends are quite interesting and infuriating....
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Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 5:42 pm
Ms Jo SirKirbance When I was a teenager my dad would always say "Don't do anything I wouldn't do." I didn't. Do you think that would work as well when it is the son/mother relationship? Whether it is mother or father I think it could work (all kid's are different, so I won't promise it will). The point is by saying "Don't do anything I wouldn't do." you are really saying "I expect you to know what you can and can't do." This might be good because the son/daughter will feel you trust them, you are not telling them what to do or not to do, you are just advising them yo use good judgement. They won't be as likely to misbehave just to rebel against authority, and it also places the burden of behaving properly on their shoulders by forcing them to think about their actions rather than just doing or not doing because the parents did or did not say to. I'm no psychologist, so take it for what it's worth, but it worked for me and my dad.
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Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2007 10:19 am
my brother and my dad used to go at it constantly, and once in a blue moon my brother got really brave and stupid and took a swing at my dad. Dad never hit him back, but restrained him in a way that didn't hurt, but he couldn't move either. That went on until me and my parents had a big fight about 2 years ago and stopped speaking. After that, they eased up on my brother and Dad & him stopped fighting. Now me and my parents talk again, and things are still ok. I think the fight between me and mom & dad showed them they if they didn't ease up on my brother, they would lose him in the same way.
I know teenagers can be hard to deal with (It wasn't all that long ago for me to be driving my parents wild as a teen), but maybe if you sit them down and play a guilt trip on them lol....tell them what these fights are doing to you mentally and emotionally, and you can't handle it. it's wearing you down to the point you are feeling depressed. I bet that would get them to back off.
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