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 Posted: Sat Nov 04, 2006 12:41 pm
My best friend, Greg's girlfriend, Stacy, lives about a thousand miles away from him and they've gotten past the distance and had a great relationship for over a year now. Recently though he's been having trouble with stuff. Like, he can't keep up in college or at work or anything. And he's been upset about being away from her. He says they broke up for two days last week because of the distance...
Last night he was at my house all night sitting up talking to me about all his problems and all my problems, and out of nowhere he tried to kiss me. I kind of grabbed him and said "What the ******** are you doing?" mostly out of shock and I was thinking, "uh, damn, Stacy ain't gonna like this...." and he kind of freaked out, like he didn't really know what he was doing.
He says he's not infatuated with me in the least, but I'm worried about what happened. He says he did it because he "knows" he would be perfect for me, and wishes he could be "the one", but he also loves Stacy. I think he just...wants me to be happy or something
Anyway, this morning when I was giving him a ride to work from my house, I brought up the subject of what had happened and he said, "You know, Allison, I was just going to forget about that and pretend it never happened. It was stupid." and at that point it really hit me that I couldn't forget about that, it was huge. Right after he said that I immideately wanted to talk to someone, tell them what happened, I wanted to make everything okay, but I didn't know what to do.
Anyway, another friend of ours, Robert, is going to notice if I have a secret from him, and when he does he'll torture, literally physical torture me untill I tell him what happened, and he'll undoubtedly tell someone else. And Greg really doesn't want this to happen....
Anyway. He says he's going to tell Stacy, and I hope everything works out there, but yeah.... I don't know what to do. I occasionally talk to Stacy on AIM and that's going to be impossible now, and I talk to Robert on the phone almost everyday, and he's going to know something's up.
So. Yeah. I need advice on either what to do or how to handle this or how to just communicate with my other friends without blowing the secret.
Also, I have no idea if I'm ever going to be able to look at Greg again without thinking of what ALMOST happened.
(BTW: All names are fake. Kudos to whoever knows where I stole names from)
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Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2006 5:34 pm
Okay, well whatever is going to happen will happen and there`s nothing you can do to stop it. That`s just how life works unfortunately. You`re going to have to wait to see how Stacy reacts. I`m sure you will eventually get over what happened and be back to normal soon. I`m confused about what he said to you because it wasn`t explained in full and what you just told me sounds like he likes you but I`m not going to go on record with that because I can`t tell from what you wrote. When it comes to your friends..... ummmm good true friends will not physically beat you to get some gossip out of you. You have just as much a right to your private life as they do. They need to respect your privacy so you need to tell them that they can`t do that to you anymore. If you want to tell them secrets you will and if you don`t that`s your own decision. That`s not something they should be trying to force out of you. It`s important that you communicate that to them and they should respect you. That`s all I have to say about that.
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Posted: Wed Nov 08, 2006 5:25 pm
First of all I would like to say that he has no feelings for you, or at least it seems that way. It sounds like he's just totally stressed out over the long distance relationship and missed the physical affection, therefore trying to kiss you.
Though it did shake you up a bit, you shouldn't think much of it because it wasn't about you at all, he just seems to be really frusterated about the distance with Stacey.
You probably shouldn't interfere much, but if you feel comfortable you could give a little insight on the situation and what you think of what happened. I have a feeling though that it was really just the longing for affection that he seems to miss so much.
I hope all works out fine. Take care!
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