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 Posted: Fri Nov 03, 2006 6:31 pm
How do you help someone that feels that they can not be helped? We all had our up and down. Times where our emotions even made us sick. I have a dear friend of mine, who I look up to as an inspiration to pursue my hopes and dreams. To she her like this hurts me just as much. Im not one to air someones business out for eveyone to see, but I've almost ran out of things to say. Things to do. Being positive for this person is just hard, when they carry a burden in their hear for soooo long that whenever they try to let it go, they fail. cry
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Posted: Fri Nov 03, 2006 6:38 pm
*thumbs up* Don't Worry Minty
I too know of someone the same way, and they have even told me that I saved their life one day (simply because I was there for her)
No matter what happens, dont give up hope, you just need to be there for the person
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Posted: Fri Nov 03, 2006 8:23 pm
Try your best to relate to them.
Get them to express as much as you can.
Be as optimistic as possible.
That's pretty much what I do. xp
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Posted: Fri Nov 03, 2006 8:38 pm
It might be difficult to help them mint, but you have to do what you can. They need to know you're there for them. Suck it up, and try your best to help them. Listen to them, comfort them. Do what ever it takes to make them feel better.
Even if you don't know what to say, tell them that. The truth can be redeeming to both you and her.
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Posted: Sat Nov 04, 2006 12:09 am
Thanks for all the advice. I know my presense and sound mind helps, but I wonder how much? Shes practically living on the edge.
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Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 12:05 pm
Junior~Mints Thanks for all the advice. I know my presense and sound mind helps, but I wonder how much? Shes practically living on the edge. I was there once. In that place that is so dark you think you can never find your way back. A friend of mine brought me back, although he didn't even know he did anything. You have to show her that there is a life thats worth living and show her that she is needed in this world. And I know this sounds harsh, but sometimes all you need is to see someones elses pain to realize that things aren't so bad in your own life.
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Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 1:09 pm
She should see a psychologist if she really have problems. I saw some and it really helped me. Sometimes, we just can't do anything and taking her burden on your shoulders won't help you. Don't take it too much on yourself, you got a life to live too.
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Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 10:33 pm
Resident Isaka She should see a psychologist if she really have problems. I saw some and it really helped me. Sometimes, we just can't do anything and taking her burden on your shoulders won't help you. Don't take it too much on yourself, you got a life to live too.
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Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 10:40 pm
Eusis Landale Resident Isaka She should see a psychologist if she really have problems. I saw some and it really helped me. Sometimes, we just can't do anything and taking her burden on your shoulders won't help you. Don't take it too much on yourself, you got a life to live too. No, that's a psychiatrist and I hate those ******** bastards! A psychologist don't prescribe anything but listen to you and really helps a lot.
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Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:15 pm
Resident Isaka Eusis Landale Resident Isaka She should see a psychologist if she really have problems. I saw some and it really helped me. Sometimes, we just can't do anything and taking her burden on your shoulders won't help you. Don't take it too much on yourself, you got a life to live too. No, that's a psychiatrist and I hate those ******** bastards! A psychologist don't prescribe anything but listen to you and really helps a lot.
Then again, around here there doesn't seem to be a difference, regardless of the legal issues. Of course illegal s**t's not all that rare around Minot's hospitals, psychiatric or not.
But, back on the main topic, if all psychologists do is listen to you why bother with them? A good friend works just as well, and won't charge you for it, especially since from personal experience that sort of depression is, usually, easily dealt with by just being allowed to talk to someone.
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Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:29 pm
Eusis Landale Resident Isaka Eusis Landale Resident Isaka She should see a psychologist if she really have problems. I saw some and it really helped me. Sometimes, we just can't do anything and taking her burden on your shoulders won't help you. Don't take it too much on yourself, you got a life to live too. No, that's a psychiatrist and I hate those ******** bastards! A psychologist don't prescribe anything but listen to you and really helps a lot.
Then again, around here there doesn't seem to be a difference, regardless of the legal issues. Of course illegal s**t's not all that rare around Minot's hospitals, psychiatric or not.
But, back on the main topic, if all psychologists do is listen to you why bother with them? A good friend works just as well, and won't charge you for it, especially since from personal experience that sort of depression is, usually, easily dealt with by just being allowed to talk to someone.There's things you can't say to a friend. And the psychologist is prepared for that. A friend who always listen to someone depressed will mostly drown with that person. All the people I know who saw a psychologist weren't cured but relieved of some burden. Believe me, it's good to let out what you have on your mind to a perfect stranger. If they didn't helped me, I would never be able to fight my agoraphobia.
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Posted: Tue Nov 21, 2006 12:41 am
Strangers works too. 3nodding
The last thing you should tell this person is that things will get better, for them it means the opposite.
Listen is all you can do, they have to deal with the situation and overcome it sometime(healing process varies), trying to detract them from this depression gives the red card.
- Ref's order.
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Posted: Tue Nov 21, 2006 12:50 am
Update:
Shes still pretty much out of sync with the world. I almost broke down my cool barriar and was about to get really honest with her. The simple fact that the boy does not want to be with her obviously and wishing on shooting stars and crying at night will not change anything. Shes scare to she him but asks the Lord to bless her with his presense again. I know what love is... and I dont feel that that what shes feeling is love. Shes feeling attachment, because he wast here at that time and left the next.
She called me a couple of days ago with that same drama.. I hate that she only calls me so she could talk about him.... I try to be nice but like I said she was really pushing it calling me some child. GTFO, she was lucky that I didnt hang up on her a**.
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Posted: Tue Nov 21, 2006 12:58 am
I can relate partly to that, my mother can be that pushing now with things rocking at home at a higher scale. Same subject, different angles.
I could right a book about it, but keep your head up, mints! Otherwise it will fall.
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Posted: Tue Nov 21, 2006 1:03 am
Fiyun I can relate partly to that, my mother can be that pushing now with things rocking at home at a higher scale. Same subject, different angles. I could right a book about it, but keep your head up, mints! Otherwise it will fall. I know. Its cool, I dont mind beign there for her. Shes my friend. But sometimes I wish she'd just open her eyes and realize.. that its been nearly a year... time to let go and live.
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