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 Posted: Sat Oct 21, 2006 9:09 am
Last night, I was ringing up this gentleman at my counter for a pack of cigerettes. Our store does not have the cheapest in town, as far as I know from the rolling of hte eyes and the groans I get when I give them our prices.
"Jesus Christ,"the man muttered as he fished out his cash and payed for the cigerettes. I couldn't understand why even pay so much for something that will eventually kill you anyway. It's like suicide through a burning paper stick.
That's when the thought flash through my head, and I had a message to give for all who would listen:
Suicide is not cheap. Sure, you have people in unique and hard situations, where they feel that there is no other way out. You might have even had the though yourself. Or known someone who has.
And you know that " it's just one quick hanging/overdose/slit-of-the-throat" may go through the mind.
But there is more to it than that. There is more to pay than just the pills or the blade or the rope or whatever. There is the lives that you have effected to think about. There are those that care about you, that will go on living, always thinking about you.
Mothers, who will pay the price of guilt for feeling they were not a good enough parent. Close friends that feel and always wonder could they have done or said more to make you choose differently. That perhaps by their next birthday party, you would be there to sing for them just one more time.
There would be teachers that may have been trying to figure out a way to help you. They may always wonder if they had acted sooner or perhaps taken the time to get to know you, could they have made a difference in your life, to make you realize the price of life is PRICELESS.
So, if you are someone--or know someone--who has ever thought about suicide maybe even tried to go through with it before, you got to ask yourself. Despite who little money you may have or how much, do you really have enough to pay for the effects of the ripples that your death will have on others? Is there no on else that you care for other than yourself that you know for certain can't afford that guilt or that sorrow and pain?
Is that a burden you would really want to put on those you care for?
Are you THAT rich? Are THEY? Is the troubles really worth it to just...end?
You may not have realized, but you have already touched SO many lives. Can you honestly bare the thought of what will happen if you took your own life away? What would happen to theirs?
And those that you don't know yet about? That one friend that is kind of distant but is always preying for you? That one waitress/waiter that is just always so friendly and looks forward to seeing you at your favorite food joint? That teacher that you are most fond of?
By now you may certainly be thinking this is a pro-life rant. I know I try to live life to the fullest, but I know there are so many that have it hard. And I thank you for taking the time to read this.
It's just something I felt moved to share.
Thank you, have a good day.
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Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 8:19 pm
it not only harms those around you for a little while either. death in any form hurts for a long, long time.
my mom cried because she realized that it was fall break and she was alone, our dog had been gone for a whole year and she was the only one home all day. we just stood in the kitchen as she cried.
that may seem menial, just a dog get another, get over it.
here's another, a friend of mine cut school and disappeared completely. now, Rick had been suicidal and diagnosed bipolar within a few years, his mother had never settled down with anyone and he had 2 brothers and a sister from different fathers. we found out that he had caught a ride and made his way to California (from Oklahoma) and a trail of arson followed him. he is in prison right now. our entire youth group prays for him and his family constantly.
and a third, then i'll be done. another friend put a shotgun in her mouth and pulled the trigger. she was just 12! none of us saw this coming. her friends punish themselves daily for not being there, for not stopping her. her mother breaks down and pleads against a nonexistent judgement, begging that she is "not a bad mother!" i spoke to a girl just today, during church she had filled the entire bulletin with her thoughts about Jenny. she misses her so much. we all do, affter 6 months, we still miss her.
every time someone mentions suicide i begin to tear up and i touch my Jenny bracelet (simply a few beads and the letter J on a string) to remind myself of what happens when someone does.
this is my plea, whoever reads this and is contemplating suicide, think of the people that would miss you. if you can think of no one, then think of me because i care, though it may seem odd to say online where no one can really trust anyone unless they know then irl as well, i really do care. this entire guild is here for you to help you. we care. don't hurt us, but please, please don't hurt yourself.
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Posted: Sun Oct 28, 2007 5:12 am
I don't think anyone can understand the pain a person seeking death is in unless they are in that position themselves or have been and haven't forgotten. Guilt tripping them will only make it worse- implying they are being selfish etc. People hurting that much need love not a lecture, prayer not patronizing.
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Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 3:56 pm
I actually can empathize with someone who is seeking death because I, too, have been going through the same emotions. I have been diagnosed with a chronic disease that has left me physically disabled since I was about 8 years old. I can attest that the majority of those with chronic diseases contemplate suicide more often than those who do not have a chronic illness. I mean, think about it. Because of a "disability", we cannot do certain things. Sometimes we can to most of what everyone does, but with some limitations. At times I've felt inadequate and I've felt really alone because no one I knew was going through the same thing. I have to pay a lot of money just to keep me healthy AND on top of that I am currently enrolled as a nursing student (nursing school is really tough).
As a believer and follower of Christ, I would always turn to Him whenever I've had these feelings. Whenever I contemplate death, God always seems to find ways for me to turn my emotions...I guess this is why I would not go as far as "attempting" suicide. I do think of a lot of things when I think of suicide. Its true that suicide is not the answer to solving any of the problems I am going through.
"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it."
-1 Corinthians 10:13
"The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance."
-2 Peter 3:9
In those two verses, it reminds me in that:
1. God does not tempt anyone, especially if it means committing suicide.
2. We can only be overcome by temptations (i.e. suicidal thoughts) because it is common to us, human beings.
3. God always provides a way for us to get through these temptations...ALWAYS, because He always has a plan.
4. God is NOT slow in answering us, rather He has the answer even before you asked (Matthew 6: cool
Life is precious. If Jesus Christ went through that agonizing death just so that I could have life, it makes living so much more meaningful.
I've tried to make this post understandable, especially coming from my position. I hope that God has used me in any way to help you!! sweatdrop
Take care and God Bless!!
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Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 4:36 am
I know that ideas of suicide can leave one feeling unsupported, unloved and uncaring. People who consider it, aren't kidding, they really believe they want to die. However I also believe that people with these thoughts should think into it. Yeah your life could be pretty horrible right now, losing a job and a significant other, family loss, no money, many causes, but losing your life is not only permanent, but unwanted by God. Only God should have the choice or when to end your life, and there's always something in store for the future, if you're strong and believe it will get better. Because it does. And i know thats a cliche, but it's happened in my life and in friends.
Teenagers are the most commonly known age of people to commit suicide. The problem is here, Puberty is causing raging hormones and emotions to go insane, during this sensitive time in life, a teen can be offended by just about anything. And those who get on edge, want to kill themselves. NOw this does NOT apply to all teens or all people who have considered suicide, but teens always seem to believe they know everything about themselves and others. We don't. It has been proven that our hormones cause us to think and do stupid things. And all we need to do is sit tight hold on to the chair and let it pass, its just a stepping stone to excellence, and we need to remember that life will ALWAYS get better and there will ALWAYS be something or someone to knock you don't when you're at the top of the ladder, but that's life, and challenges need to happen for us to grow physically, mentally and spiritually. I think all of you who have posted have valud points, no we don't always understand the motives of someone who considers suicide. But there's always help, and there's always support..even if its found on a guild of a website full of people you don't know wink
Thanks for reading.
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